Ok, first of all, I don't have a really active sex life. I only have one guy in my life and he was 200 pounds, he was a little bit chubby. Okay now, I have a new boyfriend, and we're thinking of having sex, the problem is, hes really big (over 400 pounds).
I'm a little bit concern about this. I really love him and I dont care about looks... but I dont know nothing about the situation, and I dont know how to please him well and I dont know if "it" works good in big guys like him. Im also scare, cause he's weight, he can feel pain or I dont know. I think Im asking about a full orientation.
Another thing: Please don't tell me to tell him to lose weight, I have done that, and well I know is he's doing his best.
I never like heavy guys, but his one, melt my heart.
2006-09-23 04:32:24 · 11 answers · asked by Sweet Papayita :) 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
gurl.....stick with him... though he is overwieght...think about it do u think u will ever find a guy that melts your heart like he does...
yeah...gurl stick to what u got...plus big guys are like teddy bears..........
2006-09-23 04:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't really different for an exessively obese person, but life expectancy is. Assuming he is average height then at 400 pounds, he has a good chance of dying before he reaches middle age. That's obviously his choice, and you won't be able to influence that - but you must be ready for the fact that you will likely have a very short life together if you decide to stay with him.
As far as sex goes - ask him what feels good, and do what is comfortable for you.
2006-09-23 13:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you said not to tell you to tell him to lose weight, but that's exactly what i'm going to do.
if you expect him to be able to have any kind of performance at his weight, you're probably very mistaken. People that size often have difficulty getting and maintaining erections in the first place.
If you like this guy, then get him to lose it. He needs to lose more than 150 pounds. Diabetes, sudden death from heart disease, gall bladder and liver disease, are not something you brush under the rug because 'he's doing his best.'
You'll only have an enjoyable sex life with him once he's down to a much more reasonable weight (at the very least 100 pounds less).
2006-09-23 11:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by banzai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm....since you didn't ask a specific question, I can only give you broad generalities. Realistically, most men are incredibly easy to please in bed, and weight shouldn't change this. The only thing I'd be concerned about is how to do it without you getting smothered or crushed. My recommendation: you go on top.
On a slight tangent, you really do need to discuss such things with him too, you know: I value honesty and openness in my relationships above all.
2006-09-23 11:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by giovanni9686 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big guys, little guys, they both need lovin'. Treat him like any other guy, show him your love and attention.
The physical part can still be good. He can still go down on you and use his fingers... :) As for intercourse, doggie style, or you on top is great. As for him being on top, his belly rubbing on your cl*t while he's going in and out can be very nice. Trust me. :)
2006-09-23 11:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sex will be fine, it's no diff, it's easy just make sure u don't get smothered or pounded to hard that he don't realise he's squishing u. it's all good, just ask him what he likes and try ur best
2006-09-23 11:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better you go for sex experience with him; if he able to satisfied you, so go ahead other wise stop and think for another guy
2006-09-23 12:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by viv b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do everything he same as before... whatever your comfortable with... big guys need lovin' too. most of the time they are much nicer than others as well
2006-09-23 11:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by 422 Bride 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should decide well first. Ask him if he can take care of the baby. If he said "No" then Just find a new partner.
2006-09-23 11:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Justin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u love then go ahead
2006-09-23 12:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by rajan naidu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋