my boyfriend is white and im mixed and his mom is racist but we really like each other and were both teenagers his mom want him to break up with me or else she says she is going to make him move back with his dad and he hates his dad.my parents know about us and dont care but his mom has a problem with it and we like each other a lot lot and he didnt want to break up bout it was either me or living with his dad so please give me some advice wat should i do i want to be with him and he wants to be with me but when people find out someone goes and tell his mom i need serious advice
2006-09-23 04:21:57 · 7 answers · asked by angel cake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well u r mom should being racist cause its not a joken matter and she is goin to mess u r relationship up with this boy
2006-09-23 04:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That mother of his sounds like a piece of work. Shame on her for being a closed mind adult. She also sounds like she's not a happy person, anytime people would stood to doing anything low down to get his or her way because of they'e opwn issues is a very troubled person.
What about her? I mean does she have any friends does she like anyone. How does she act around other people and does he say anything about her thats nice?
She may be like this beause she has had problems in her life and she never learned to be happy so she's taking it out on her son and his girlfriend.
She knows that he hates his dad which is why I say she's being low down.
She really needs to see and talk with someone about the way she is and if she loves her son.
Maybe what u and he may have to do is be very careful and not tell anyone else that u and he are still boyfriend and girlfreind, becasue people do and will talk.
I'm sorry that I have to give u this advice but u and he can still be together but u have to do it in a very careful way by not allowing others to know about it u have to be smooth with it and when ur in public where others who know his mom u and he will have to not sit together. This is what u do sweetie
If ur gonna go out in public then take ur close friends u can trust and u all meet somewhere and make sure he's there too sit with ur friends and he with his that way at least u and he will be in the same place. Also u and he can meet somewhere NO ONE know u or he.
There are many ways to get together without having to worry about that mother of his,
she's wacked and she needs to start actig more like an decent person then a racist fool.
I hope things work out with u and him because u sound like u and he want to be together.
U know whats funny is u and he may end up married and happy then u and he may have to take care of her and she will regret the way she treated yoor relationship.
Just try to be strong and not fall apart because she's being a bitter b*i*t*c*h
2006-09-23 04:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends. If you don't say you are dating then nobody can tell his mom. You can always do group dates or double dates. This way you can still hang out but his mom won't think you guys are dating. Go see movies with friends, hangout at a friends house together. Do things like this and you can date later. This will also allow you to find out everything about each other.
2006-09-23 04:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by DEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. Is his dad such a bad guy? Does his dad live very far away? It seems to me that his mom is someone he should be away from anyway.
Also look at it this way.
If you two stop dating because his mom threatened to ship him off to his dad, then you're apart.
If you ignore his mom and date behind her back, tshe may find out she may not. If she does then if she makes good on her promise, then he moves with his dad and then you're apart.
So either way, you really don't have much to lose if he is willing to risk it.
2006-09-23 04:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not against interracial dating, but I tihnk that the two of you are too young to be the center of this kind of attention. Sneak if you have to.It's wrong for his parents (mother) to think the way she does. If she doesn't like it then so what. Show no disrespect unless she disrespects you. Wish you the best of luck!
2006-09-23 04:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... i assume your in your early teen. probably his parents want the best for both of you. take it positively it doesnt mean that his mother doesnt like you..... mother will always be a mother no matter what! as of now you have to distant yourself first find time to relax and enjoy life by yourself coz if time allows and if your really destined to be then it will come. hang up with your old friends and do things which will make you best!
2006-09-23 04:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by love-love P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to tell his mom that yall broke up but, yall didn't. Just go out with out saying thing to his mom.
2006-09-23 04:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by TeddyBear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋