This is just something thats been buggin me for a while, i was just wondering how you would start a conversation with someone you dont know, or have never talked to before. Its just, a week ago, one of my friends pointed out that i barely ever seem to talk to anyone else but them. Which is true. Also, Its not really that important, Its just once when i was in english class, we had to work with a partner, and the teacher guy told me to work with this girl. Since i was forced to talk to her, we actually got on great and i could tell she liked me. a few days later though, started talking to one of my friends, and of course, she was expecting me to talk to her. which i just couldnt do, cos i had no idea what to say. So basicly im askin you guys, how do you start a incredibly interesting conversation without any of those: "awkward silences"?
2006-09-23 03:51:45 · 12 answers · asked by drunkenbozo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thats one of the greatest mysteries of the universe, avoiding awkward silences, lol.
First, a helpful hint, change your name from "drunkenbozo", one, because it sounds dumb, and two, because people might get the wrong idea, and you will then become the object of many conversations, without actually partcipating in them.
Then, just talk to her, ask her how her day was, work from there, tell her about your day, if that fails, find something you two like, like, a certain sport or maybe a style of music, movies, anything really can be the object of a very good conversation.
Just talk. If she doesn't like what you talk about, then she isn't such a good friend, friends are always there to listen and if they're good friends, they know what you like and are kind to you.
2006-09-23 03:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by nasonguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Hello is a good start. Or Hey, whats up? Or how ya doin? Or you could talk about your class you have together, after you break the ice... I have the same problem, so you arent alone in that.
When you meet someone for the first time, its nice to say hello, nice to meet you... after that usually the other person will start talking, unless they are shy as well. Then find something to talk about like, sports, or the weather, or simply ask them what they like to do for fun. Be creative, and dont be afraid... most people dont bite after the first time of meeting them. Just to let you know, those awkward silences, are ok. Especially meeting someone for the first time, your not always going to know what to say. Dont be afraid to ask questions to get the conversation going... but make sure they are general questions at first, then go from there.
2006-09-23 04:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by Tequila_Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, a smile can go a long ways in "starting a conversation". Then, possibly mouthing the simple word "Hello" can even lead to a more and lengthy conversation. Alot of people are not too keen on 'starting' conversations, but will follow them up when someone else starts them.
You may have to just 'force' yourself to start smiling more often...if this is something that is normally within your character...this may be something that causes other people to stop you and ask you why you are smiling...then, just tell them that you are happy to be alive (considering the alternative) or that you cat just had kittens that morning, or the weatherman said no rain or snow today(since you forgot your umbrella anyway), or that your favorite TV show is on tonite....anything to just carry on a conversation.
2006-09-23 04:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm Irish, we never have any problems. Ritual discussions of the weather start any social interaction in this country, and we take it from there.
But I see how people in a more clement climate would have a problem with this approach.
A good one might be "I have not seen you for so many hours/days/weeks), was there anything interesting going on?" or something else that shows your interst in the other person, most people react positively to that.
2006-09-23 04:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will start a conversation.
2016-03-27 04:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off "awkward silences" aren't so awkward, in fact they're quite normal. second, a great conversation usually starts with a joke that's related to the moment. and finally, don't approach the girl with the intention of trying to "attract" her. just be natural. this would make the conversation flow better and it will take some pressure off you.
2006-09-23 04:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by ShaneA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm.... may be for first i'll keep quiet since im not a talkative one. but i then i realize that i cant be silence like this. so i'll start with what's happening around.
for example, if my surrrounding is messing up something. then i'll come up with that topic. for instance, i'll ask," hey, do you know what is happening out there? i think it's hard to believe that they were friends but now they are hating each other."
and that really works to me.
hope it will to you too..
n_n
2006-09-23 04:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by ItzJonn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the easiest thing to do is talk about something you have in common, or the weather, current events on the news, compliment someone on something they wear or their hair; if this is in school, talk about the class you were just in or whatever project you have to do; sometimes just saying hi is enough and the other person will take it from there
2006-09-23 03:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by catgoturtongue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use a Big Open Question with some humour...it sounds corny but "What is a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?" works well. She will tell you what she want to say....
2006-09-23 03:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by dws2711 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple things like the news (current events), on how she looks today, things that interest you that you think will interest her...anything under the sun really
2006-09-23 03:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by maximus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋