i broke up with my bf a couple of weeks ago because he didnt love me anymore. i still love him and i told him how i feel but he still doesnt love me. hes my first true love and im tryin to deal with the pain that he doesnt care for me anymore. he was a great bf and he respected me and the fact that im waiting til marriage to have sex, and he didnt go out with me just because im pretty. for a while i held on to the fact that we might get back together and that he still has some feelings for me, and ive been hoping for somethin that will never happen and hurting myself. i dont know how to deal with the fact that my first love doesnt love me and that we'll never share the good times we had ever again. ive been depressed ever since we broke up and i cant stop thinking about him. my friends have really helped me through this and my mom 2, but it still hurts and i feel a void in my heart. i really need some adivce on how to deal with this. i dont want to be sad anymore.
2006-09-23 03:16:13 · 19 answers · asked by sarah_gotdance 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ive been going through the same thing sweetheart...im depressed too. im just talking to a counselor and everything b/c thats what was recommended. i feel horrible and he keeps breaking my heart and im trying to get back with him too. you dont deserve what you've been put through, i think you should try and move on...everyone tells me that i know how hard it is to even try...im still in the process myself. i honestly think that you should indulge yourself in something that makes you happy, find a hobby, go to parties, hang out with friends...things that will get your mind off him. dont just sit at home and keep thinking about it b/c everything in life happens for a reason. im trying to realize that myself and this is coming from a person who is hurting too. so...just try and remember that while your sulking at home, he's out having fun...get mad, get upset at yourself for putting up with this...trust me, it'll work out in the end.
if your still hurt and that doesnt work out...get even!! (just kidding)
good luck, im trying to get through this too..just try what ive said and slowly it'll work~~good luck
2006-09-23 03:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by porkydd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how a broken heart feels, sometimes they hurt more than physical pain does, but you've got to pull yourself together and deal with the fact, that there probably will not be a future, with you and him together. You still love him, but you can't make him love you back, if it were that easy, none of us would have to experience a broken heart. You did the right thing, by breaking up with him, what's the sense in staying with someone, if it came directly from their mouth, that they no longer love you. You have to respect his honesty, at least he didn't tell you that he loves you, just because he knows that's what you would like to hear. A broken heart is hard to recover from, but you can do it and you must. The worst pain you're going to feel, is when you see him with another girl, for the first time. It will hurt like crazy, but keep yourself composed and never let them know, that you're hurting inside. Keep yourself busy and whatever you do, don't bother him by calling or having someone to call him for you, just let it go. Don't let this break up, drive you into a deeper depression or interfere with your sanity, it's not worth all that. I hope him saying he doesn't love you anymore, doesn't have to do with the fact, that you don't want to have sex yet and if that's the case, whatever you do, don't have sex with him, to win him back, save your virginity, you should be proud, you are a virgin. Please pray to God and ask him in Jesus's name, to help you overcome the pain you are suffering from, right now. You are stronger than what you think. It's time to stop crying and turn that hurt, into strength, in the end, you will come out on top. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-09-23 11:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately darlin there's not a lot you can do to make the hurt stop. It's just something we have to go through until we feel better. My ex has a new gf already and they're getting married in a few months. Sometimes I feel like I'll never get over it but I know I can if I want to. Misery is a choice and you can either handle it and get over it or wallow in it. We were together for 9 years and have a 5 yr old son, so I have to still see him or talk to him from time to time for our son. But I know I will be okay and so will you. Be strong, stay near family and friends, and remember, this is not the last time you'll ever be loved. Take care and good luck.
2006-09-23 11:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
broken hearts take time to heal..lean on your family and friends for support. keep your mind busy-use this time to grow and mature and have fun doing it. life has lots of curve balls thrown at you. gotta learn how to handle them.. You will feel a void for a while. At least he is honest enough to tell you the truth instead of stringing you along..Love will come to you when you least expect it to and it will be the real thing. I am glad you decided to wait til marriage thats a bold move in todays world. Good for you. Dont let anyone ever change that. you follow your heart on that.
Take care and again have some fun being single. Get to know who you are with out a bf
2006-09-23 10:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about writing a letter with all of your feelings in it but DON'T send him it! Just keep it. This time next year you'll be so over him that when you read it, you'll be amazed you wasted so much energy on him. When I broke up with my first love, I took up guitar to learn "our song" lol 6 years on and I'm a musician. Look at this as a positive, you now know what types of person you don't work well with. And you're a step closer to finding the person that you do!
2006-09-23 10:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. The only thing you need is time. That old saying..."time heals all wounds" is the most accurate info there is. I've been through the same thing and it seems to me that you already have your "support" group with your friends and your mom. Now, all you need to do is give it time. Don't forget to be positive about getting on with your life. I know that you think that you aren't going to be able to, but, trust me, you will. Take a deep breath and put one foot in front of the other. In no time, you will be on your way back to a normal, comfortable life.
2006-09-23 10:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i truly understand what you are going through and it is a hard thing to deal with.it doesnt hurt to cry and the fact that you have a good support system is a plus too.talking out your feelings with your family and friends will help in the healing process,try getting out and going places and focusing on yourself for awhile.you really dont want to be with someone who doesnt love you back that hurts even more.and if you're young you will see that their is someone out there for you that will make you happy and love you like you love them.stay strong and keep holding on to your beliefs and you will find that special someone.
2006-09-23 10:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by msgal79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only answer, as others have said before me. Broken hearts really do hurt...not just emotionally, but physically. I know, I am 49 years old and have had my heart broken numerous times. And it is very tough....but it does get better. Please take the time to heal and don't try to rush it. You are growing...even though it feels terrible, this is a very important and positive step in your life.
2006-09-23 11:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-09-23 10:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life moves on, with or without you,, Broken hearts mend and we learn a bit more from the experience,, No one wants to be sad,, Find yourself a good friend to talk to,, Time heals all wounds
2006-09-23 10:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋