my bf and I havent had a formal break up yet. 4 days ago, we had an argument and he was the one who said, we'll give it sometime until we finally talk again, i agreed by saying "ok, let's give each other some time then". on the first day, i went online, i was thinking of trying to make it up, to soften him up a bit but what he said was " i thought you said we will give each other some time off, remember?" i just didnt respond and he logged out. today, just 15 mins ago, i saw him online and said hi, we never discussed anything about what happened, i asked him how he was and said everything's fine. i was silent, i dont know what else to say until he finally said he is going out and will do some stuff. i just said ok and bye. and he logged out. i was terribly hurt, i felt that he avoided me, what should i do next time? i dont wanna be treated this way but i cant say it, im scared that it will lead to another argument. should i just keep my silence and accept that it is over between us?
2006-09-23 03:14:01 · 7 answers · asked by intense35 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Youre doing the wrong thing. Youre appearing too anxious and thats exactly what he wants. This lets him know hes got you right where he wants you. Men absolutely hate to be ignored so if he wants some time off, then by all means give it to him. Time off in a realtionship doesnt necessarliy mean its over, its not exactly a good or bad thing, but he feels it has to be done. Use this time too to your benefit and think about your relationship and are you truly happy in it or would you be better off moving on. Dont contact him until he contacts you first, good or bad he will. Guys are strange this way sometimes and feels he needs space to think things out. This isnt your or his fault. Just develop a plan B and be prepared for the worst in case it happens. Good luck
2006-09-23 03:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda depends what the arguement was over.
Theres nothing wrong with asking for some space after a difficult period (the fight) but now you feel left hanging. Give him a few more days. Then I would ask him if he just wants to see other people and what he wants out of your relationship. Hopefully, this will get him to make a decision one way or the other.
2006-09-23 10:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, intense. Sounds like you are. I'm pretty intense myself so I relate. I hate when a man says he needs his "space" of course when someone said that to me I said "Fine, take the whole planet! Goodbye!" You may not want to be so dramatic (Ok I was in high school at the time...) but I think you need to give him his space, as he said. As hard as it may be for you, you need to back off. If it's meant to be, it will be & if not, you need to let go. Don't give him the opportunity to keep rejecting you. Don't give him the satisfaction! Keep yourself busy & avoid him. Let him worry for a change. Let him come to you. Or find someone else who is as intense as you & doesn't need so much space...
2006-09-23 10:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF I were in your position, I'd tell what I feel, and I'd tell him that I still love him and I am still hoping that everything won't end up this way, and ask him if it's really over...The next few steps will be depending upon his answer...IF...I were in your condition, I guess that's the way it can be...but the decision is still up to you...
2006-09-23 10:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by greenwood05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling that this relationship is over. You might want to make it official and move on with life. Sorry hun...
2006-09-23 10:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun just tell him how you feel!! if he still likes you he will say
and hey good luck
2006-09-23 10:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go buy a nipple to suck on.
2006-09-23 10:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by VeeateU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋