a wife is married to man that has 2 children and he has been married 3 times before. she gives him a chance, says yes to his proposal and now is in a rocky relationship. she feels she can tolerate alot of the problems he throws at her and prays for the marriage. she thinks if she sticks by him long enough things will get better as he is normally quick to leave (divorce). he's threatened to leave her several times and she was fine with it but he didn't. now she is trying to be a good wife and good person with a lot of patience. any suggestions, like wait on God, or does it sound like He's given her a few signs already? (she's believes that deep down he is a wonderful person and wants to give it every chance until she can't go on.)
2006-09-23 02:58:11 · 9 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't say if abuse is an issue, so I will assume it is not and he is just a jerk. If you want to be with him then just go about your daily life and be yourself. Don't tiptoe around him and let him behave like a pouty 5 year old. If he threatens to leave, say "See Ya!" Don't beg him to stay. Treat him like the small child he is acting like and he will eventually grow up or leave. Or else, you will tire of him and you will leave him wondering, "What happened?" This is apparently a cycle of bad behavior and the cycle must be broken or it will continue.
The one who loves the least has all of the power in the relationship. Sometimes being the "lover" makes you vulnerable especially if the "lovee" is a bully.
2006-09-23 03:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray that God will give you the answers you need, fill you with peace wisdom and strength to make a major decision.
He's got a lousy track record. What was it about him that made his other relationships fail. Try to look at patterns. He may not have learned from his mistakes the first two times he was married and trying to find a perfect person to marry so he doesn't have to change his ways.
2006-09-23 10:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel like he is your last chance? Do you think you wont ever get married if you don't stay with him? He's been married three times before and it looks like he's gonna be married a fifth time in the future. Cut him loose. Maybe he's a wonderful person inside, but it's not getting out, so you'd better get out and find someone who'll appreciate a good wife.
2006-09-23 10:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he is exhausted.somewhere life is taking a toll on him.try to figure out where the life is going upside down.may be any long time addictions he is trying to let go off.when in adjusting in a matrimonial relationship there are really no limits to it.not all person are easy to be with.there are three growing up kids monetary restrains can also be a factor.patience always pays.also you can try to like what he likes to do and give him back ample time and also assist in his hobbies.nag as little as possible.these are the ways i can think about where you can have a work out to the problem.otherwise the easy way out is leaving but how many can you leave?there is no word like i cannot go on.you have to go on with life till you are living.if you can escape why don't you try out escaping from life altogether , you will find going on with your husband easier than at times going on with life.take it as a test of tolerance , sometimes we have to take long tests to get really something very wonderful from life .this is all that comes to my mind now.
2006-09-23 10:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by sourajit n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek marriage counselling. Separate for one year. Don't sleep with him or anyone else. Date him to see if the spark can be reignited. If not, divorce.
2006-09-23 10:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by GypsyGr-ranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pain in the @ss - live to not have be down or shot up and do any favor to pleas him ????
To much headache for me .
2006-09-23 10:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a lousey track record! LEAVE!
2006-09-23 10:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe he give us signs
2006-09-23 10:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"No wise man should stammer because another shuns his grammar!" (LRH).
Ciao.....John-John.
2006-09-23 10:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋