a husband and wife agreed to have children. the wife is pregnant way sooner than husband wanted. now the husband goes back and forth with accepting and not accepting the pregnancy. the baby will be born in 2 weeks. husband told his wife he is not happy in the marriage anymore, can't really forgive her and said he is not sure if he loves her anymore. he also said he wants to wait until after the baby is born to decide on what to do about the marriage. the wife feels bad about everything, but can't take it back and is tired of being a stepmom to his two kids without having her own. any suggestions on what to do? she is hurt and confused right now.
2006-09-23 02:49:29 · 14 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
she is having her baby, if he decides to leave she can keep her baby and him can take his children with him.....he will only hurt his children with this....and just wait to see how much time he can "handle" taking care of the children by himself..... he will come back and apologize and will be up to your friend if she wants him back
2006-09-23 02:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by JTB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They agreed to have kids, that I understand, but the wife didn't get pregnant by herself so how can it be sooner than anticipated?
Take back your power dear wife and tell him YOU have decided that he can leave now and YOU will decide if being married to such a selfish man is worth the effort. Even the baby deserves a more considerate father.
2006-09-23 10:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she could pack up and leave... This will affect not only him, their child, and her. But his other children.
She needs for him to decide what he wants and now. She would have to speak to him openly and let him know she can't be in a bad situation once the babys born. If he can't agree to stand by her then maybe she should leave and stay with friends and family untill she can get on her feet with the baby.
If she goes this route make sure you encourage her to apply for childsupport services. Fathers need to put in their fair share.
2006-09-23 10:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am guy afraid of committment, so I understand why he is doing such crappy stuff, and I think he will regret his behavior at some point maybe soon after birth. She definitely should just try to get him out of her face presently so she can keep stress to minimum before giving birth. I think after he sees "his" child he will realize what a miracle she brought him, and he will start to warm up to the child and her. He doesn't sound emotionally mature, and maybe he fears growing up, but having a kid is possibly the best way to step up to the occasion. She should just try to stay calm and determined to get this kid born. After that, even if he leaves her there are so very many happy single moms, and laws to help them, that I think she will be ok either way. Just get her to keep calm and on target about the kid is top priority.
2006-09-23 12:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nick N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did not want to have a child that soon he should have been the one being careful. Children are the most wonderful gifts that we can receive in this life. He already has two, he should be aware of this. He sounds very selfish. That is the issue that needs to be addressed.
He needs help, she should not do anything but enjoy being pregnant and pray that he comes to his sences and loses his selfishness.
2006-09-23 09:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by CLEMVIER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what an asshole!!! he got her pregnant and it's his baby. i think he's being totally inmature and selfish and if i were the wife .. if he wants out after the baby is born .. then let him. make him pay child support and NO visitation rights. i mean after all .. he doesn't want anything to do with the baby so why should he want to see him/her. oh this really burns me up ... i could just punch him right in the mouth!!
2006-09-23 10:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by connie m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your husband or i should say "her" husband does not seem understanding. He has had two kids in the past and none of yours yeah it came earlier than expected but he should accept the fact that wow it finally kicked in and he should be happy for "her" to have her first baby with him. Take it slow and be grateful for what "she" has and everything should end up okay.
good luck!
2006-09-23 09:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its too late to change things so just make the best of everything and b happy.
the duh dada should wake up n smell the roses
the mama should take evening primrose oil with fish oil to make her n their baby happy.
she should never argue cos the baby can hear everything, so the dada should always be nice n say good things about the mama.
WHEN A MAN SAYS NASTY THINGS TO A WOMAN AND THE BABY HEARS IT, THE BABY CAN GROW UP AND SAY THE SAME NASTY THINGS TO ITS MOTHER, it happened to me.
mama should feed dada 12x1 biochemic cell salts from the health food store and sage tea for his thought processes.
meat, coffee & beer made my ex unreasonable n cranky.
FEED UR MAN FRESH & NATURAL PLUS VITAMIN B COMPLEX IF HIS LIPS R THIN!!!!
IF A MAN WONT EAT RIGHT OR DO WHAT IS BEST AND IS AWFUL OR ABUSIVE A WOMAN SHOULD LEAVE.
2006-09-23 10:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by jojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were the wife, i would make my own decisions instead of waiting on him to make all of them. honestly, i would probably leave. i couldn't stay in a marriage with someone that didn't love me and didn't accept our child. the baby and the wife both deserve more than that.
2006-09-23 10:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think they should have the baby and then see if the baby changes their realionship,but if it doesnt,i would say get a divorce.the wife shoulndt have to put up with him and his kids.
2006-09-23 10:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋