Me and my boyfriend terry were associating with a couple that live just down the road from us. last week terry went down their flat and came back drunk... the couple now claim that that nite terry told the girl, amanda that hed rather be with her than me. that he'd always loved her and wanted to be in a relationship out of love, with her. she said that he told her he wanted to marry her cos he could talk to her better. he denies it all. he says that because we were going thro a bit of a rough patch he told them he couldn't talk to me but say's they've made up the rest cos they were angry about a bucket seat he hadn't got them. but her boyfreind who has been friends with terry for years backs her up! he say's that he overheard what was said. I don't know what to believe... terry's been so nice to me since...im so confused please help.
p.s. weve got a 5 month old son together
2006-09-23 02:48:29 · 14 answers · asked by RACHY 20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
who do you believe? some couple you don't really know or your boyfriend who you love?
I think it's pretty obvious
2006-09-23 02:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get confuse believe yourself first. Then believe your Terry because he is with you and you have son as well. Always think positively. I don't think Terry cheating you. You did not mention how long you are with Terry and how long you know him. Forget what happen past with Terry and you. Think about today and future. If you go and find out what happen in his past it may disturb you and your relation can't be last in future. If he denies what happen then give him love and care more then you are giving. If he did what you come to know from others then he will feel guilty and he will say sorry to you and he starts loving and caring you more then today. So focus on your relation with Terry and make him comfortable with you. Hey you have to think about your 5months old son too. So don't waste your time to find out what happen past. Build a good relation with Terry. Give him more care and love.
2006-09-23 03:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by P R Shrestha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he did say those things , what do you want to do about it ,he has denied it soyou won't get the truth from him . ask yourself do you want to stay with him and if you do make sure you don't have any more children until you feel you can trust him again if ever .you would scare the pants off him if you just stood up and took the baby with you and left him .he is being nice to make you believe he loves you but i doubt he does.when people get drunk they have a habit of telling the truth ,which they find hard to say when they are sober.
2006-09-23 02:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore what they said. Forget it, cos if you don't it will eat away at you. No cheating has gone on even if those things were said and remember, people can say all sorts of things when they're drunk. Think of your son and maintain a happy home life together.
2006-09-23 02:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by doodlenatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...but it sounds like being a new dad is freaking him out. Tell him you understand its a big change but you need help as its a big change for you too. Tell him you know its different now you are parents but you have so much to look forward to, if the two of you can keep it together for the next year.
Good luck, hon.
2006-09-23 02:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you are confused and know not who to trust, It's important to trust your boyfriend because you are in a relationship with him. Don't let rumours or hearsays jeopardise your relationship with him 'cos that will just prove the vulnerability of your relationship.
IF he's really being dishonest, it's just a matter of time you will witness his wrongdoings in other occasions.
So yea, chill for now. and treat this as a test for your relationship.
2006-09-23 03:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by nyr1712 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very difficult for a man to adjust to not being the centre of your attention, they are sometimes jelous of your attention being focused on the baby and not them, my husband was actually big enough to admit this he came in from work one day and said he was fed up of playing second fiddle to a baby, but it's difficult on both sides, you have to try a reach a compromise, try to have the baby asleep or in the play pen or something when he gets in from work so you can both have a coffee and a chat, then i always had my children in bed by 7 so that we could sit down have a meal and just talk, try it it works, good luck, and don't worry he perhaps said those things to get your undivided attention
2006-09-23 03:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would confront him and tell him if you dont tell me the truth im going to mums ...you need to make drastic decisions to keep him in place and you probably dont want too ! but he needs to be honest now or he will break up the family you both made ...dont always believe what everyone says but its hard when the man you love is thought to be unfaithful ...u need to sit and talk and threaten him that you will just get up and leave if he doesnt tell the truth ...if you been with him sometime you should know when hes lying and make sure there is eye contact
2006-09-23 02:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by chaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a guilty slime to me! Sit that $#@%^&* down depand the truth.......and move on.... its so very difficult when there are children involved.. But dont let the fear of the future without him alter your decision to stay....life is too short .....to stay with a cheater peter pumpkin eater!
2006-09-23 02:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it was the beer talking
if you have been having problems try to communicate with each other and resolve these good luck
2006-09-23 03:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋