To kick oout my friend who came to stay with me so he could get off pot and get his life togathe but the day he came i let him know he had two week to find a job and i will hep because he not staying with me for free but that was it in at lease two hour he left and only come home to change still not working just with friend that smoke.
2006-09-23 02:45:43 · 16 answers · asked by kelly j 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
No. Because from the sound of it all you are doing is enabling him not helping him.
2006-09-23 02:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - wrong. I thought the same way about a situation close to me. However, the individual I was dealing with needed more time to find a job. Has a job now, dumped his friends and is clean. It can happen, I'm not saying it does for everyone, but in my case, my friend came around. He just needed some help and more time..... However, it did take at least 2 years.
..................Don't call yourself a friend, and then limit your friend to 2 weeks, etc. That ain't no friend. Look at how many famous people smoke pot. It ain't the end of the world. It took my friend 6 months to get a job. I was unemployed for 7 months a year ago. My wife didn't throw me out in the streets.
==My friend did get arrested, maybe that helped him. Probably so. Picking up trash on the highway can really change your attitude :-)
2006-09-23 09:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pot isn't physically addictive, so we have to go with that he is mentally addicted. He sounds like he would be a lame *ss person whether he was puffing or not. Probably spoiled by his parents, given everything and told that he was too young and immature up until the time he was 20 to understand anything. This is, IMHO, what caused most of the young adults today to not be able to provide for themselves. Tell him to go home to mommy to take care of him.
I know you were trying to do the good thing, be he was just looking for a free ride and you were there for him to take advantage of.
You can't take the weight of another person on your shoulders, as much as you would love to help a person. Take this as a learning experience. Never let someone live with you without a written agreement and them being employed.
I know many pot heads that are viable members of society who hold down a job or two and provide for their families, so it's not about the pot, per se, it's about the attitude of the person and what they are going to let be an excuse for them not performing.
2006-09-23 10:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a very similar position. We let a friend of ours move in when he just got out of prison. The stipulations were that to live with us, he had to have a job, be in college, and he had to pay some kind of rent, not a ton but what he could afford. He also has to be in by 10:00 each night. He has been very grateful but if the person who is living with you is not appreciative and you feel that he may be back into his bad habit, you just have to decide if that's something you can live with or not. I couldn't!
2006-09-23 09:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by Dillon's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it would be the right thing, for him & you. Sometimes people need a swift kick in the butt. You can't help someone who's irresponsible by taking away more responsibility from them. If you don't throw him out, he'll never get a job, he'll just sit around & smoke pot & accomplish nothing & get worse. I knew an alcoholic who moved in with his sister because he was down on his luck. She thought she was helping but she unwittingly became a co-dependent, enabling him to become a worse alcoholic & never get his act together. If she kicked him out he would have to smarten up & clean up his act & work to pay rent etc. Sometimes you feel guilty for turning your back on a friend, but it's tough love. You can't help someone who won't help himself.
2006-09-23 09:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is to do being a friend, I'd say its time to kick him out. You were nice enough to give him a chance to get his life going in the right direction but he's not appreciative of that or trying to improve his life doesn't sound like.
2006-09-23 09:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by barbi316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the ex-friend like a leaf!
2006-09-23 09:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Goldfinger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose house is it??
I doubt its his.
So, remember that and tell him to get out or else.
Plus, do you want illegal substances in your house.
I bet he said he doesn't bring them home.
Trust me, I used to say the same thing until my Bro found my stash.
2006-09-23 09:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not keeping up his end of the agreement so no, kick away.
2006-09-23 09:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by NoFearIamHere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, no you gave him the rules at the begining, bring home applications to Burger King and pack his bags for him!
2006-09-23 09:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by HappyHolloween! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋