now he's angry because I wont any more. I just do everything a different way. He's not as organized and has ruined amost all of our pots and pans with his cooking. I don't want to cook if they look like that. everything will stick. I hate that. He offered to buy new ones and start over but lately I just dont have the energy because of my job and being pregnant. Is there an easy way for us to get more organized and schedule whos doing what and on what day?
2006-09-23 02:33:23 · 13 answers · asked by ladyshy2226 2 in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
Just show him how to be more organized and teach him to CLEAN-AS-YOU-GO. In other words whenever you are in the kitchen cooking...just clean each pot and/or cooking utensils immediately after you are done(or soak them in hot water with degreaser).
You sound very busy yourself. Make sure you get plenty of rest and only work if you have too(being w/child). Whatever you do ...don't discourage him from helping out.
Just be glad he's willing to help!!
2006-09-23 02:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by slimshady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, this needs to be talked out. Keep in mind that being pregnant makes everything more of a pain in the butt, drains your energy and makes everything seem less appealing. ALSO and very important....if you have nonstick cookware that is all scratched up, you need to dispose of it immediately and buy new cookware. Damaged nonstick cookware will contaminate your food which is especially bad for you being pregnant. I highly recommend a set of non-stick annodized aluminum pans such as Caphalon, Anaphalon or Scan Pan. Make sure you get ones that have stainless handles so they can go from the stovetop to the oven. I see them on ebay for around $150 to $200 for a 10 piece set. They use less heat to cook and cook much more evenly than the thin bottom cheapo pans. Only use plastic and wooded utensiles with this cookware and it will last for several years. My set is going on 8 years old now and are as non-stick as the day I bought them....(unfortunately for much more than $200)
2006-09-23 02:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by William E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have territorial issues. You are that kid in the sandbox who sits and sulks because the other kids are using your toys..What is more important your pots or your marriage.Maybe buy him cooking lessons somewhere so he can be a better cook.Make a meal plan at the beginning of each week and chose who will cook which meal based on the skill level required.
2006-09-23 02:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by phoephus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First..........go ahead and get the new cookware.......get cast iron it is the most durable and once it is seasoned is better than Teflon non-stick!
Next simply work out a written chore schedule and compromise on the methods used to do each chore.
Obviously you have been able to compromise and communicate else you wouldn't be in the motherly way.
2006-09-23 02:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tim Taylor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you're going to have to sit down and work it out together, or put up with the way things are for the rest of your relationship. Which would you prefer? Keep it civilised and if things start to get heated, drop it, until the next opportunity arises.
2006-09-23 02:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by jammer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 15:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that you would like his help but only in the areas you two can comprimise in. I mean hey, if he is going to ruin dishes when he cooks then thats an issue. SO, comprimise, and let him know how tired your are at the moment so that for know he can continue helping out till baby comes then you will take over more.
2006-09-23 03:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by cricketwinner@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk this problem out. Expalin why you feel the way you do, and let him do the same. Then figure out a schedule that you can both stick to.
2006-09-23 02:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make you a weekly planer . with who does what? help him out let me know what makes the pots and pan not to stick everythime you good. get pam spray that is what i use. and if you 2 work together its a lot of help. not to push everything on 1 person. tream work is were its at
2006-09-23 02:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband does a lot around our house more then me. I work full time have one child in sports and one in 1st grade with homework coming out her ears and mine too. He too works full time. but he gets home before me so he does a lot more around the house. It works for us. He also gets two days off in a row where my days are split up so he gets more done.
We appreciate what we both do and that is what works for us.
2006-09-23 02:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by betty boop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋