his 4 years older and he's always trying to take over, my cousin also sent an email for advice for the same question only he is 1 year older than her. he is always taking over the computer even if i was on it first. how can i stand up to him with out him bothering me even more?
2006-09-23 02:27:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Someone can only control you if you allow it to happen!
2006-09-23 02:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't he have a parent that can control him?
I have a relative in a similar relationship. She has an aunt a year older than her and uncle a year younger than her. She is five years old and her parents have always told her that they are cousins because they don't think she can deal with the relationship otherwise. The aunt went through a time when she was mean to her but they are now close . The uncle has always been close. I think that means that at some point your uncle too will be tolerable and not a brat.
2006-09-23 09:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to someone that has control over him & let them know he has no respect for you guys.Not knowing how old you are & your living situation with him that is all I can offer you. Have you tried telling him to give you some respect cause that is what a real uncle would do.
2006-09-23 09:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's only 4 years older than you, then I suppose slapping him won't get you in a lot of trouble? hehehe. Kidding aside, you can always talk to him and tell him about what bothers you. If he won't listen and still patronize you, then you don't need to show him any respect at all. respect begets respect.
2006-09-23 09:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Esthon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you live with your uncle?
Who owns the computer? If you own it then tell him to 'f' off. There is more to this question than what was posted. If you are of legal age then you can find different living arrangements.
2006-09-23 09:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a niece, u r to respect him as your uncle even if that is only four years gap, but controlling you is another thing. If he tends to be very annoying, man, u slapping him could be the violent thing, isn't? Tell him upfront that he wants to be respected, then he should respect you also as his niece.
Still if nothing change... well well, give him a flyin' kick hahaha!
2006-09-23 09:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by cher_dc_xu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he were in your place would he stand to be mistreated. Let him know that he didn't know what he is doing is wrong, but you will try to help him change. Tell him that everyone should take turns and be kind within the family to show loyalty.
2006-09-23 09:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my house, who ever screams the loudest gets to use the computer, so I am usually first in line, then my 12 year old daughter (who actually screams louder than me) then my 17 year old son and then my nice, quiet, non-screaming husband.
But he is around to toss the other two off if I scream.
SO, go get your dad and ask him to negotiate a truce or you will scream...
good luck!
2006-09-23 09:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends is he your guardian if not then tell him you are not the boss of me you are not my parent and you can not tell me what to do.
or you can be like this please stop why do you treat me so badly for all the time. I do not like it when you....... and (maybe add tears for affect)and see what he says. If you go this route he may kinda feel bad and apologize for doing the things he has done. He might stop.
well good luck.
2006-09-23 09:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your uncle. Respect the family, just keep nagging at him if he is being ridiculous and staying on teh computer for hours on end.
2006-09-23 09:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a stand, and tell him in no uncertain words to buzz off. Be assertive.
2006-09-23 09:29:50 · answer #11 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋