Word "love" is always misuse in our society to satisfy our sex desire..how many of you who believe in love are ready to love their partner even if they dont allow them to touch their body? if you cannot love with urs partner if he dont allow sex with him then does not it show that you have feeling of lust beacuse love dont ask for any reward...why a boy never fall in love with disable,bilnd or girls of other physical disability...why i never see that normal peoples fall in love with physically abnormal peoples if love is not physical
2006-09-23 02:26:19 · 9 answers · asked by Raja Asim 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Hi. Thank you for your question. In human beings, the link between love and the physical body is very strong and very natural. In fact, it is what makes us human. For example, a mother's love immediately becomes physical as soon as the baby is born. She wants to hold it. We express love through touch. Making physical contact with another person is one of the deepest drives we all share. It can be shown in sexual ways, which is very natural and should always be mutually loving, but love appears every time we reach out our hand to feel the life in another person. That is a cosmic moments. This is why it is so terrible when human touch turns mean or hurtful. It is hitting us at this most vital spiritual spot. So be at peace about love and the body. Keep them in balanced on your own values of self-respect and all will be well.
2006-09-23 02:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, we do get love mixed up with sex. With this being said you must understand something. The human spieces is actually always on the look for the most healthiest among us meaning that mating (sex) is the desired result of carrying on the human speices. People unconclusiously veiw people with this in mind. Even though it may be deep seeded it is there always. And so to look at someone who is challenged physcially could be just a naturaly turn off.
As to the love you speak of, we are not quiet there, seems society and the media really dictate just how we must love or do love, and it is ususally laced with deisres other than just companionship.
But I know many people who have a loving relationship and they are unable to participate in the sex part. They are the most remarkable people I know for we all can learn what love is rally about. The do however, touch each other, the kiss, they hold hands they stoke their partners. The spend time listening and watch each other, and they convery a sense of sernity that is most likely lost on the most of us.
People that have disablities, will find that they most likely will come into contact with people who will find them very special through a religion, work places that services people, like hostpitals and then voluteerism.
I wish we all could love like you, for truly the world would be a grander place if we did. Mankind has a ways too go though, before this happens.
2006-09-23 12:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by kickinupfunf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love....? This is a biochemical response..and though we call it 'emotion'...It is not some ethereal deep in the soul thing....Love is chemical...IE..lust is the most obvious part of this hormonal bombardment.
Knowing this, changes it not one iota.
I have 6 children... when each were little, just toddlers.. the adoration that filled me each time they would smile at me, hug me fiercely, or run at me when I walked in at the end of the day..was and still is the most intense feeling I have ever known...
The love for a partner changes with the passing of years....lustful passions merge into hopeful comfort...and then the later years offer a different source for this love..it is the exchange of certain gratitude's and appreciations..the acceptance of who we are in all our forms and faults.... I think we men have the hardest time accepting the lessening of ourselves and our partners..physical attributes fade, and what is there to replace it if not love...love is always selfish,except in the act of giving up of oneself to death for others..
If you put the sexual dissatisfaction asside....love is many facet..and manifests it self in bold and subtle ways.
The shallow nature of the sexually driven social ideal is barely there...and is pervilent in the most immature and shallow...although if you look at the TV programing and movies , the music forms, it is there for the young to absorb as an example of what is....and so this is where the understanding of what love is becomes skewed.
2006-09-23 10:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by tincre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this is somewhat true, but what is missing is we seek in others what we feel we are lacking. Falling in love, however, is only a phrase that supports our agreement and approval of the qualities that are being presented by another. We don't truly fall in love. When we do truly love we do it with courage for the best interest of another. Many people love us all the time we just don't recognize their love because they are normal people. Our mom, friend, neighbor or even sibling. So, it is us that are walking blind and disabled.
2006-09-23 10:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by JazzyJB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real love should be about the person inside not their appearance on the outside. But we are physical beings & tend to be attracted to the beautiful. Falling in love is a combination of physical lust & genuine love (care for the person's well-being etc.) You can certainly have strong platonic love for someone you are not attracted to but it would be harder to fall "in love" with them since this involves a certain chemistry.
My boyfriend says that he fell for the "being" behind my eyes. That he knew when he looked in my eyes that I was a passionate soul. Still, I wonder if he would have approached me & even gotten to know me if he hadn't found me physically attractive...
Love is supposed to be blind. Maybe we are a somewhat shallow society though because we are obsessed with physical beauty.
It shouldn't be all about sex of course, but intimacy is important. It stands to reason that if you love someone you want to be as close to them as you can possibly be. How much closer can you get than having them actually inside you? It would be very difficult to be around someone & want to hold them so close & never be able to...
2006-09-23 09:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more than one kind of love. Romantic love certainly has a physical component but even that is different from physical sexuality. Romantic love is certainly not the kind of love that is selfless.
Look at the sources for a very good, quick read that might help you understand the different kinds of love.
Xan Shui,
Philosophic Philanthropist, Honest Man
2006-09-23 09:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, love is many times mistaken for sex. Although they are not opposite things, Love includes lust too. When you love someone you want to be with them and touch them..but that's not the only thing...
And I think that if you really are in love with someone, the physical problems don't matter.
2006-09-23 09:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question will be best answered by yourself when you know the difference between love as a noun and a verb.
2006-09-23 11:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by No Saint 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont belive in love anymore sins the one true love brok my haert!!!
2006-09-23 09:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by You Love Me. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋