my friend, she's a girl, just had her sweet sixteen party last night, i went knowing i only knew a few poeple, but just to show up and wish her a happy birthday. well turns out, that she gets a little tipsy with some vadka, then she just starts hangin on some guys (she needs a boyfriend, without one she's lost). she starts with some cool dude, who will treat her good, then he leaves. she then moves onto some redneck, who will only do her and drop her. after that she finds this sly playa, who's taking advantage of her (alchoholic) state. i didn't like these facts at all, i wanted to do something so bad, but i didn't want to ruin her birthday, i figured "let her do what she wants, it's her birthday". well some time went by, and i figured i would just get out of there. well on the way home i got to thinking. should i have done something? should i have taken her from that creep? i am a man, i have feelings for her, i think she's fond of me. what should i do? should i have done something?
2006-09-23 02:22:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes you should of helped her out if you are such good friends. You should know teens at that age are just trying to fit in, peer pressure with the drinking, drugs and sex. You said one guy would just do her and dump her and in the state you claim she was in it could be mistaken for rape. (if it at all happened) kids do not think, they just want to be cool. You should of stepped up and took CARE of her knowing it could of caused a loss of friendship, but you'd of saved her from her terrible self and actions she'd regret at the time! My son is also your age and situations have arisen at party's, it's a very difficult age- kids just want to fit in, I tell him think of the consequences-and if a friend makes a bad chose don't leave them out to hang its your friend you wouldn't want something bad to happen to that person. Call home and will help. Maybe you should of called her parent?
2006-09-23 02:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lady X 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing you are not a man at 16 because you have not had enough of lifes trials and problems to go through to be mature. You were right to be concerned, but evidently she was not interested in you by her actions. If you like her, and want to date her seriously, tell her when she is sober. If she will not stop drinking get on with your life and you will be better off., and save you a lot of misery and heartache in the future. Yes I know. I am a recovering alcholic and drug addict who has been clean for 8 years. I do not have a holy then thou attitude, and could care less who drinks or uses what if that is their choice. I do not preach to anyone, all I am doing is giving advise which you asked for. If she is like this a 16, what does the future hold for her if she does not stop now. Kids today wonder why people have the opinions about them that they do. Well you have found out a little in this answer. If you were her boyfriend and she did that when you were not around, would you be hurt and upset? There is NO such thing as Peer Pressure that everyone talks about and blames the problem on. A person is supposed to use common sense. I have learned the hard way and hope I can help others to keep from making the same mistakes I did. I am 6'1, 309 lbs, covered in tattoos, hair halfway down my back, use to ride with some tough *** dudes, and I know what I am talking about. All you have to do is go to the hospitals, rehab clinics, and if you do not see there what these things will do, go to a morgue and look at what drinking will do to someone. You need to talk to her and tell her how you feel, and if you care and have feelings for her tell her that is why you are doing it. If she wants nothing to do with you, and will not listen to you get away from her and do not look back. She will see one day if she makes it to an adult what she has done to herslf and what she has threw away. First though, make sure you are not doing what she is because you will just be a hyprocrite and she will see that. Good luck and hope I have not offended you. That was not my intention. Just trying to help.
2006-09-23 03:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so she cut loose for her birthday party and made some pretty poor judgements. When a man sees a woman letting the alcohol speak for her he may want to protect her from being taken advantage of. You could have just said, " Sue, do you want to go get some air?" and taken her away from the situation until she could let her head clear. Unfortunately, this girl has no idea how to go about doing what is best for herself. Should you choose to be in a relationship with her, she would have to learn what it is that she brings to the relationship that is of value. The sum of the two should result in making both of you better people. Don't let her immaturity drag you down. Take a look at what you bring to a relationship and consider that you may want someone who would not be so much work.
2006-09-23 02:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should have did something.. Seeing how she just turned 16... You said you were a man.. But you didn't say how old you were... Where are her parents when this was going on.. And who brought all the booze to the party... The point is it's to late now to do anything about what happened... But you should talk to her (as a friend) about her actions... And at 16 she doesn't need to be drinking.... Most of all Parents need to be more responsible and know what goes on at the childrens parties....
2006-09-23 02:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by levita45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I know teenagers drink but if it gets to the point she is getting passed around the room from one to the next maybe you should of just pulled her to the side & talked to her.If you care for please talk with her cause I'm 34 & i feel like if a man is not in my life I'm not complete. I wish I would of had a friend like you to stop me while I was young. Maybe now I would know who the heck I was .That is what friends do guy .You are on the outside looking in so you got more of what the real deal is. She may have insecurity issues. Please save her now before she destroys what kind of future she could have as a woman that loves herself.
2006-09-23 02:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing reight now is to get that creep away from her and take her aside and tell her how you feel about her. Ask her to a movie something nice just make sre you express yourself to her. And if she doesnt feel the same way you do , u'll just have have to try and move on.
2006-09-23 02:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by cute_lil_surfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if she was your friend you should have tried nicely to talk to her are just ask her to dance with you just to get her away from the creep that probaly would take advantage of her well since you didnt u may want to call and check on her
2006-09-23 02:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have feelings for her and that you are concerned for her.But be careful she might think you are being to nosey in her business.I would most certainly let her know that I had feelings for her though then if she has feelings for you your problem will be on the way to being solved.
2006-09-23 02:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is too late now... as far as the party is concerned. as a friend.and a man..you should have rescued her. as far as ruining her birthday.. rape.. or an unplanned pregnancy would do that. now .. you have to go and do damage control...if any occured. go see her.. support her... help her. where were the parents in this story?
2006-09-23 02:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah... you must willing to take the risk because you have a feeling for her.. that proves all. if you have a feelings, of course, you don't want d girl 2 be treat like that... that's simply because you are concern with her and you have a feeling with her...
2006-09-23 02:31:25 · answer #10 · answered by sakura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋