look at porno. I told him it bugs me, just makes me feel like he is cheating or something, the only naked girl he should be looking at is me. Anyway, I've got really really upset in the past about it, and he promised he would stop. Well... he did it again, I freaked, and he swore he would stop. This morning I went on his computer, and guess what I found?.... He is lucky he isnt home right now.
I know its normal for guys to look at porn. But it bugs me. I've even offered to get some porno and watch it WITH him.
Anyway, what I am wondering, is how should I act when he gets home? Girls, what would you do.?
I just feel like telling him he seems to be happy with his porno, so dont ever touch me again!
Please dont say I'm a lonnie toon, I know there are other girls who feel this way about porn too. HELP!
2006-09-23 02:13:00 · 34 answers · asked by thankgodformaryjane 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL COMPLETELY
2006-09-23 02:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It used to bug me a bit - but now I kind of just go with it - if I find a porn magazine or something lying around I flick through it or just forget its there. I dont know why but guys only seem to think with their little heads most of the day - on the other hand when I find hubby has been to a porn site on the computer I could just about kill him - not for what he is looking at but all the rubbish that those porn sites put on the computer - he is not good with the computer (cant even erase the history and Im not showing him how LOL) but it means I have to sit here and remove all the rubbish from my computer (eg icons on the desktop, new favorites added, spyware, adware etc etc)
In the end if you cant get over the porn issue then this guy is probably no for you - he has proven he is not going to give it up so you need to make a decision now and stick by it.
2006-09-23 02:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and think of all the things that aren't so perfect about yourself...does he accept you for who you are and doesn't try to change you or take away things you enjoyed before he came along? You have to be open minded when it comes to this touchy subject. A LOT of men enjoy their porn. They're visual people, but he's not screwing these chicks, he has you for the physical and emotional part. Lose those insecurities and live and let live. He doesn't try to control what you do, you should give him the same respect. If it bothers you, don't go looking for his dirty laundry. He's gonna do it regardless what he tells you, it's a weakness that some guys have. No Big Deal though, he's with you, he loves you, he comes home to you everynight. Now if he's chatting and "hooking up" online, I could understand your anger, he's only looking at pictures and movies. You can't compete with someone on TV. Tell me it doesn't turn you on to watch that stuff...like you said, go buy some porn and pop it in one night and see his reaction. You'll be able to open up your relationship and take it to so many different levels. He'll love you for accepting him and everything about him. Who knows, you may end up having the best sex ever by keeping an open mind (and legs..lol).
2006-09-23 02:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch a dirty movie with your lover. It's a great way to enhance sexual communication. When you see it you can talk about it. You can let each other know your preferences or boundaries with ease as they come up in the film. It can help to spice up your sexual repertoire. Seeing other people being creative in bed can give any slow sex life some new ideas. It can help get both of you aroused. When you need that extra push the right adult film can do the trick in a few minutes, whereas foreplay alone may take to long. It can hep take away the feeling that you (or your partner) are a freak. Seeing other people do things can normalize sex for you and your partner. If she sees a fellow woman enjoying analingus, for example, she may not feel badly about wanting to explore it. Entertainment, value is a good enough reason all by it's self. So grab a movie and enjoy it with you lover.
2006-09-23 02:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sara_V. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
for every girl that takes your side on this there's two guys that'll take his.
If it ends the relationship, his friends will think less of you and your friends will think less of him. no one wins.
So why let it bother you. Also, if he doesn't get what he wants in fantasy land, he's just gonna seek it out in real life, just like 98% of the other dudes in this country.
Ask yourself, 'Can I really find a guy who's never gonna look at porn?' If your answer is a definite yes, then you have every right to be angry. (but you'd soon realize that you were lying to yourself)
And please don't be mad at him for lying and saying that he'd never do it again, you may have forced him into the corner there and he may even have wanted it to be true. But it's only a matter of time till a man cracks in that situation. It's not his fault, he's just got time and a dick.
Just relax, sit back and burn one or scrape your pipe and reflect on what YOU think about all this.
2006-09-23 03:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by hey_finny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well remember theres always alot of fish in the sea and also being a virgin is best listen
Virgie
Girls
are like apples
on trees. The best ones
are at the top of the tree
The boys dont want to reach
for the good ones because they
are afraid of falling and getting hurt.
Instead, they just get the rotten apples
from the ground that aren't as good
but easy. So the apples at the top think
something is wrong with them, when in
reality, they're amazing. They just
have to wait for the right boy to
come along, the one who's
brave enough to
climb all
the way
to the top
of the tree.
2006-09-23 02:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by katrina3662 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can completely understand the insecurity this would cause, but you need to look at the big picture. Is he cheating on you? Basically, in my view, masturb*tion is just sex with someone you love. The only problem I would see is if he spent HOURS looking at these images.
I also feel the need to point out that men are visually stimulated, women are mentally stimulated. That's biology. Men looking at porn is the same as women reading romance novels with the muscle bound farm hands ripping off some farmer's daughter's bodice. Think about it.
Read any good books lately?
2006-09-23 02:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really should get out of that relationship. If he's addicted to it now, there is no way he will ever give it up on his own. Letting him look at you naked isn't going to help him get away from porn either. He's obviously lied to you in the past about stopping, and this will continue to happen while you are together. Take my advice and free yourself of this guy.
2006-09-24 09:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by Katie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ,I agree there are many of us out there that hate that our men watch that trash. I usually take all of my hubby's & tear it apart or burn it.It makes me feel like I'm not enough for him.I never told him to marry me so things he has in the house he shouldn't hide it if he's not ashamned of it. I went as far as taking his porn magazines & writing all over them & laying them out on the kitchen table with someHoly water from the Catholic Church & telling him that the preist wanted some magazines to read But please bless these nasty HO' s 1st. What was so funny is his Dad came over that morning & seen it all over the kitchen table. That was years ago. Now I'm not sure what I would do if I found that junk in my house. I'm the only female here. I got 3 boys & the hubby so it could be any of thems junk.So I do understand & I say if it is in your house destroy it & don't hold your breath that he will live up to the promise that he won't do it again.
2006-09-23 02:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well I just wanted to tell you that your perfect love and true love is not true after all but I am not as bosty as you well any ways I think he doesn't accept the point that you are with him and if he hase promised not to do if again and if he did it again well I guess he is not recpecting you as he was supposed to do and well he doesn't really love you cause If I promise some thing to my girl then I will do it no matter what happens and the fact that he is not doing that provet that he doesn't understand the word love and believe me you are going to tell him to get the hell out of your lif and the next day you are going to forgive him cause you will believe him no matter what he will tell you and if you are going to do that I know that you are going to do it have some grace and loyalti some confidence that you can do better with out him so just forget about him not just cause I told you cause you know that is the right thing to do and bye the way I am not a girl you said some thing about girls to answer this question but since it was after I had opend it well I have to tell you what I think... remember that I will tell the truth if you are weak you will xactly do as I said if you are a lady of guts and determination then you will do as I told you know as I have said.... Good luck
2006-09-23 02:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by abeshawiwe!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, your boyfriend is not alone with porn addiction. there are a lot of guys who are so addicted to porn that they get off watching porn than doing the actual deed! now, that's gross! now, since it's obvious that your boyfriend isn't gonna change anytime soon, I suggest you play a little game... why don't you watch some porn of men jacking off? just make sure that he would catch you watching them and see what his reaction is. probably he will also be bothered by it and tell him you will only stop when he stops. Good luck. ;)
2006-09-23 02:28:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋