Any body tell me how to get rid of him Pls help. He wont leave me alone and text's me to say hes going to kill himself
2006-09-23 01:55:28 · 33 answers · asked by chass_lee 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your ex is telling you that you are the person he trusts to define himself. Pull him aside and let him know all the good things you saw in him. Let him know that he still has all those good thing to give in a relationship and that he deserves someone who will appreciate that. Tell him that not every girl he dates will be "The One." and that dating is a learning process that leads us to know ourselves well enough to choose a perfect partner. Ask him what he liked about you, and tell him to seek out those qualities in his next lady love. Let him know that people grow and that it would not be right to stay in a relationship that isn't going to work. He's afraid, and he is going to act out in your direction because he cannot see what he has to offer that anyone else would value. If you can't talk face to face then write him.
He just needs to hear that he still has qualities that make him worthy of another relationship.
2006-09-23 02:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I had this experience for about three years until recently. It is scarey and intimidating. The plea of killing himself is a lie so DO NOT fall for it. Do not respond to any text messages at all NEVER inspite of ewhat he is writing as it gives this guy the wrong messages.
Change your number if yopu can, although I never did this as i felt why the hell should I!
Start making a log of dates and messges as you may need them as evidence if this carries on. I eventually reported my ex as his texts were getting more intimidating. I would drive home from work and he knew my timetable so well he would text saying he was a few cars behind me and i would beleive him! He made threats against my life and threatended to shooy me! I then was able to press criminal charges and he recently got 18 months in prison (This is in the UK by the way!)
You have to take extra precaustions to keep yourself safe, talk to friends and family and make sure that you are not walking home alone etc.
Speak to the police or a lawyer if needs be to check that what he has already done has not broken the law, it is difficult though as until he made threats there was nothing I could do. It is also wise to distance yourself from places you know he is or mutual friends for a while, I know this is hard but they will understand. Add no fuel to the fire. he will eventually get lost or end up in prison. Keep yourself safe and make sure you tell your family. This is emotional abuse so do let it happen and do not take notice of his threats to himself!
Hope it works out! Good luck - CJay
2006-09-23 02:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 22:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops tell them that he is stalking you and won't leave you alone and then tell them that he is a danger to himself because he is treatening to kill himself.. Give them his address and they can pick him up and put him somewhere safe so he don't hurt himself thenyou will be rid of him.
Also get a restraining order on him and report him everytime he has any contact with you. don't answer any texts, anymore. or e-mail and don't talk to him.. he could be dangerous.
he is in a mental state.. stay away from him he needs help.
2006-09-23 02:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Inform him the next step you'll take is a restraining order. He won't kill himself. That's the oldest "I just got dumped and need attention from my ex" trick in the book. Crazy isn't it? I've been married to my wife for over 3 years now and her old boyfriend from 5 years ago pulls crap like this even today!
2006-09-23 02:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by jp_457 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-29 14:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only threatening to kill himself because he wants to see you react. Ignore him. Get yourself a new cell phone number so he won't be able to text or phone you either.
If it becomes worse, you can always apply for a restraining order against him. This guy sounds like an immature, spoiled jerk.
2006-09-23 01:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the local police and make them aware of the situation. Also you can get a restraining order. This is nothing to delay, I have heard of many tragic things happening in this kind of situation. Get help immediately. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-23 01:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by avon_princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation is not something to treat lightly. It is very serious. Stalking of any kind is frightening and it can turn ugly. Threats of suicide are also a form of harassment. Talk to someone you trust. Don't keep this to yourself. Get support and look carefully at your options, including legal options and intervention from care professionals.
2006-09-23 01:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police if he's in your vicinity. If the stalking is limited to texting you, however, all you need to do is remain vigilant, have friends or other folks around you all the time, and, for pete's sake, don't communicate with him at all.
2006-09-23 02:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋