as i type this my best friend is off having sex with her bf who doesnt know her real name up a wall somewhere in the city (anyone from the stoke on trent area if your in hanley and you see her say hi from me i doubt subtlety will be an issue) without a condom if its anything like last weeks construction site insident
the thing is i think shes being stupid i dont want her to go in a mood with me like she did last time i said something
its a bt of a lose lose situation its tearing me inside whats she doing but i dont want her to think that i am interfearing in her life what do i do
and a bit of background informaton about him he takes pride in the fact he beats up his mom and has no friends
2006-09-23 01:50:17 · 14 answers · asked by bitter sweet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your friends?? With friends like that you do not need enemies!
2006-09-23 01:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're doing the right thing as a friend by speaking up. You care for her and don't want to see her get hurt. It is ultimately her call what she does and who she sees. Just don't leave her side, cause she is going to need you in the very near future...
Ask her next time you try to talk with her not to take offense, you just want to show your concern cause you love her, and let her know you'll be there for her no matter what her decisions are and that you'll give her her space with this guy - you don't want anything to do with him cause he sounds dangerous...He sounds like a big loser...any man that will hit a woman doesn't have any nuts anyway. She'll find out soon enough.
2006-09-23 08:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your friend? It sounds like she might have a problem. You should talk to her about it and tell her you're concerned about her. Promiscuity can be a sign that she's depressed, bi-polar, has a personality disorder or that she is being or was sexually abused. If she doesn't want to talk to someone about it, then you should talk to her parents or someone who's close to her. Don't feel like you're ratting her out, because if she's being unsafe, she could end up dead. Or pregnant. Besides, if she needs to see a thereapist or counselor and doesn't, she could get worse. She might hate you and never want to be your friend again, but wouldn't you rather know that she's safe and alive then have her as a friend?
2006-09-23 08:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd say leave her to her own devices, depending on how old she is, it seems quite a young person. Then if she is willing to throw her life away for one boy, let her do so. The most you could/should do is tell her that you can get after-sex pills which act as a contraceptive and stop the sperm from fertilizing in the womb.
2006-09-23 08:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation where to say nothing is a sin. Like knowing the game had been brought to lose and you played to win, yet the game was lose, you get no credit for you kept silent.
2006-09-23 08:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some folks can't be saved from themselves. She knows the dangers at some level in her mind. She may be addicted to the excitement or the abuse. You have to evaluate whether she and you will be better off if you remonstrate with her and whether you will, in fact, accomplish anything.
2006-09-23 08:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your her friend,you are suppose to do what you can to keep her from making mistakes that could cause her serious harm.If for no other reason than to ease your conscience when she gets hurt,At least then you'll know there is nothing you could have done to save her.
2006-09-23 08:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is just going to be her. You can't change that. Sometimes you have to let them learn on their own. she is doing the wrong thing though he does'nt even know her name. Serious consequences follow from living on the edge.
2006-09-23 09:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by ANathaniel18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say nothing .i know that is hard to do when she is your friend ,but she is going to have to learn the hard way .she isn't listening to you anyway.she is a big girl so back off and wait to see what happens , my guess is as soon as you stop telling her to stop ,she will wonder why and she will probably stop doing it
2006-09-23 08:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a loose loose situation,u should lose this loser of a friend,and it sounds like her bf is a loser tooand a woman beater,leave them to it ,as they sound perfect 4 each other,indy
2006-09-23 08:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by GOOCH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friend, tell her his background and then leave it up to her to decide what to do, if she stays with him and he hurts her then u can say that u told her not to but she did anyway and she got what she went for.
2006-09-23 08:57:42 · answer #11 · answered by nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋