I'm in a relationship that has lost it's spark and zest, what made things worse is I met somebody else and fell for them. Now she has lost patience with me being stuck in my long term relationship.
Please help.
2006-09-23 01:34:47 · 13 answers · asked by pierre d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Exactly what help do you seek? Are you hoping somebody will have an idea that will allow you keep both women available? Are you looking for some magic spell that will make the spark and zest return? Or, are you looking for some line that will convince the gal you have on the side, that she should keep playing around with you? But, to answer your question about finding true love. You find true love, by being worthy of truly being loved. Sadly, you aren't, cuz you are a cheater.
2006-09-23 02:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make up your mind what it is you want to do and stop playing games with these women. I am sure the spark and zest ran out because you are now in a new relationship without ending the old one. Get a backbone and do what you have to do. I would lose patience with you too. I hope the long term relationship is not marriage. Because if it is, then you really have a problem, if it isn't then get ready for the drama, because if this woman has no idea that there is something wrong in the relationship and you've been playing it as if there is nothing wrong.
Stop playing games and plan on how you are going to do this.
2006-09-23 08:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're seeing somebody who knows you are in a relationship, you better be prepared for a big surprise when you can the old one.
It's very possible that the new one is in the relationship for the "thrill of the chase" and when you do get around to dumping the old one, the new one will be gone and you will be left with nothing.
Then again, you may have "true love" with the new one. Who knows?
If you want to get out of the old one, then just do it!!! Then see how things work out. You may end up with the new one or you may come up empty handed.
Only time will tell!
2006-09-23 08:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you must tell the long term friend that you are leaving. if you don't do this then you will have to have an affair and that is a big no no.especially if the long term friend is married to you . after you do this you can leave and go with the new person.but do be sure, as there may not be any coming back to the long term friend ,if you find the new person is not what you thought they were .
2006-09-23 08:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are staying in the long-term relationship just because you don't want to hurt her, and are in love with someone else, you are the one who is going to get hurt the most. You should end your LTR and give her the chance to meet someone else. True love is not easy to find, so if you have found it, then grab it and go with it, or you will take the chance of losing it forever.
2006-09-23 08:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by staydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth be known, she probably thinks its stale too..my advice is, you were not put on this earth to make someone miserable, nor she either, so it is time to move on and grab the happiness you have found before you lose that too.....good luck..
2006-09-23 08:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by ozzy chik... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know I'm going through the same thing although I'm still looking for someone,but I know what you mean,It's hard to let go because your scared of having to make that difficlult change,good luck.
2006-09-23 09:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DID YOU EVER THINK YOU MAY BE THE CAUSE OF THE MISSING SPARK?? MEN ALWAYS GET COMFORTABLE AND THINK THE GRASS WILL BE GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE. THINK BACK TO WHEN YOU MET YOUR GIRL AN HOW YOU FELT,PROBABLY THE WAY YOU FEEL ABOUT THE NEW ONE. MEN ARE NEVER SATISFIED WITH WHAT THEY HAVE
2006-09-23 09:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by tlcin2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out of your old relationship if you claim you are in love with someone new, it's only fair to the both of them. Any reason you haven't left? Are you married or something?
2006-09-23 09:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel as if you have to cheat on that young lady then it's best that you do part. It's obvious that your no longer happy, Why make her life unhappy,let her go so that she'll be able to fine true love.
2006-09-23 08:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by MS.KNOW IT ALL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋