we r after one year relation. he doesn't trust me. it is hard for me. coz i don't cheat. all time i hear that i lie to him that i keep secrets. but i have nothing to hide coz i don't do anything wrong, he is angry but so much angry that i dunno if anyone from u hv seen such an anger. he told me to tell him all my lies or he give up with me. i know how much he loves me but much more he is jealous about me. while i really don't care others men. maybe matter is that i m not used to share with somebody things which i do every day, things which i deceide. he thinks i don't care him. that i do what i want. and it is not true coz always if i wanna do something i first think him.and always try to live in way he would like me to live. but without his trust is so so hard. but my question... yes i can give up now and let him go...coz i don't hv no more strong to fight for this relation..but after i will die and swear myself.. just i never loved so truely and so deep. should i fight?
2006-09-23 01:09:05 · 17 answers · asked by kolo molo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you have to let him go. It's sad, but if he doesn't trust you and is that consumed by jealousy, it's not going to work out because he just isn't ready to handle a relationship. After all, if you aren't cheating or lying to him at all and he thinks you are, how do you propose to ever change his mind? It's just going to ge worse as time goes on, and you'll both live a lot longer if you let him go and each go on with your lives.
If by some chance he matures to the point where he can handle a relationship, and you aren't already in another relationship, you can always try again but as it stands now, you're just asking for a heartache.
2006-09-23 01:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by Motoko 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This guy has deep rooted problems that began long before you met him. You need to stop blaming yourelf and accept that you will never change his behavior. He needs therapy to deal with his inability to distrust and what the reasons for that are. Meanwhile, separate yourself from him and be with someone who makes you feel good about you. Life is too short. If you can't make it work, stop trying to fix him. Your pain will only start to fade after you end the relationship and move on.
2006-09-23 08:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel sorry for you,cause i know lots of people with the same dilemma.but girl you have to be openminded about that boy.without trust you wont have a relationship.and do you really want to sell your soul?because that boy is gona drive you crazy if it doesn`t stop.and the longer you keep up with him the worse it`s going to get.talk to him and lay it all down if he still doesn`t trust you,get rid of him as soon as possible.some people is so jealous the girl or boy may not even go out with their friends.
2006-09-23 08:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to get away from one another,The main thing in a relationship is honesty, You also do not want someone who is possessive and jealous!
2006-09-23 08:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him first. sit calmly and then try to find out what does he wants to know.assure him that you love him and that you will never cheat on him. some people suffers from inferiority complex and are jelous all the time. try to convince him that you are only for him. tell him to have some faith in you. you two needto sit down and have a heart to heart talk.
2006-09-23 08:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
run... run away as fast as you can before you commit to this man. he'll make life miserable for you. the problem here is that both of you are loving the SAME person- HIM !!! he's not gonna be there to answer your emotional needs, he's going to kill your self esteem and it's just going to be BAD for you.just RUN away.
2006-09-23 08:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes , if you have self respect and confidence . He wants you to lead a slave's life and nothing else , and when he find another hot , he will certainly drop you , better leave him now and rearrange your happy future ..... gogo gogo gogo gogo gogo gogo gogo go now.
2006-09-23 08:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is a very insecure person and his anger could escalate into violence. cut him loose while you can. that's no way to live in life. he needs serious help and you are not the one to give it to him. sounds like you already know all this, so, i think you should move on.
2006-09-23 08:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by debo3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course, u should fight.?
why are u pursuing a relationship in which there is no trust?i know it's tough but you should now realize that you have your own identity, your own life.IS IT FAIR FOR YOU TO GIVE UP ALL YOUR INTERESTS?YOUR LIKINGS?FOR A PERSON WHO DOESN'T BELIEVE IN YOU?
2006-09-23 08:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through. I'm going through it also. It breaks your heart. we either live with it or get out. but when you really know in your heart that he really is hurting but you don't know why he is it's harder to let go. because you love him.And want to be there for him.
2006-09-23 08:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by phooh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋