2006-09-23 00:34:44 · 33 answers · asked by Lizzie 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Because you feel the need to be perfect, when there is no such thing. Just calm down and relax and do the best you can. If you and your family are happy and healthy, then that's all that matters.
2006-09-23 00:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't really understand by what you mean to be a perfect mother, wife, and wage earner. Any one who has experienced all these three things will tell you that you are perfect! Believe me its not easy to be a mom, neither is easy to be a wife or a working mother.Staying at home and doing all the work that is done in the home is more complex than any other job that you can think of. You are feeling guilty because you want to please everyone and maybe because you feel that the work that you do around the home is not as superior or as important as going out to an office to work. Your husband should be the first person to appreciate you for all the work you do around the home. You are perfect, most of us fear being full time housewives because of the same, hats off to you mother, wife and super wage earner, because without you your husband cannot even enjoy going for his work!
2006-09-24 16:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by dedicatedmum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is impossible for you to be the perfect wife, mother and wage earner. In each category, you have to adapt to the concerns of the relevant people. If you were the perfect wife and gave the maximum attention to your husband, this may detract from the attention you ned to give to your children or your work. The same thing applies to the other categories.
There is no point in feeling guilty about what you can't achieve. It is far better to accept your strengths and weaknesses and try to achieve what you can with these.
2006-09-23 00:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by lemur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If guilt is the issue here then I believe that we all live with guilt to different degrees every day. Its called having a conscience. Perfect wife? Is there a such thing. A marriage is about give and take, warts and all, a team with its strengths and weaknesses. Mother? I'm sure you are a great mother and the fact that you are a wage earner too says that you want to provide for your child/children. Guilt can sometimes be forced from others.
2006-09-23 00:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, NONE of us is a perfect wife, mother, and wage earner. Most women can't even get one of them right. I am a stay-at-home-mom, and am the first to admit I'm not a perfect wife and mom. I'm better now than I was when I had to work outside the home. Don't beat yourself up about it. We women are far too emotional for our own good. We CAN'T give 100% to everything. If we give our all to one thing, we're neglecting another. It's just life. Can you find a way to stay home? That would at least give you less on your plate. It helped our family tremendously, but I'm still far from perfect.
Hugs,
shojo
2006-09-23 00:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by shojo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This seems to be a lot of things to be perfect at.
How about being perfect for yourself and make yourself happy.
Then you would be a good mother, a good wage earner and as for a good wife that depends on a lot more that I'm not qualified to answer.
But in my humble opinion if i am able to satisfy myself and be happy those around me are also much more content.
2006-09-23 02:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by r g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we were meant to take on as much as we do. If the 24 hours in the day are not enough time to do a good job as a mother, wage earner, and wife, and still get at least 6 hours of sleep, then you might have too much on your plate. Not that you have to take my advice on a major life decision, but if it is possible, you might quit your job, or work part time. Most of the time, people don't actually need as much money as they think they do to get by. And although you might have to sacrifice some more expensive items, you will probably find that it is really worth it to have some peace of mind and feel like you are doing a good job as a mother and wife.
2006-09-23 00:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by chelebelle722 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No one is perfect, we can only aim at perfection, whether it is at our job, in the home, or with our partner and children, but since no one is perfect don't feel guilty. We are living in trying times, most people are not satisfied with the jobs they are doing, and having tons of money does not equal total happiness or satisfaction. The lucky people in this world are those that are happy both with the jobs they are doing, and have good relationships both with their spouse and children, very hard to find. So, don't beat yourself up, perfection does not exist.
2006-09-23 00:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by coolcatcanada 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By understanding this simple fact: We're not perfect. As a wife, mother, and wage earner you'll make mistakes. It's normal. What's important is to learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them.
Sometimes the difficulty lies in other people and their expectations of you to be perfect. That's their mistake.
2006-09-23 00:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry but the truth is you cant, if you put all that pressure on yourself. Cant you see it's wrong to try and be perfect at everything? no one succeeds and the ones that inspire us are just hiding the times when things go wrong-as they do.
Just accept that ur doing the best you can and get your husband to muck in!! Does he feel guilty about all the same things? I bet he dosent. Is his list of reponsiblities as long as yours? I suggest you let him to share the load.
It's not wrong to admit you don't always get it right so go easy on yourself. Also, women are prone to feeling guilty, it's wired in our brains so we don't forget to feed and care for our children etc etc, so just relax and realize that the feelings of guilt arent always valid.
2006-09-23 06:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Zinc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wage earner is not your fault. Everyone across the US is having the same problem due to Geroge Dubya. He is ruining our country. But other than that no one is completely perfect.
2006-09-23 00:43:01 · answer #11 · answered by sarah 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋