As a gay guy, i love to have children sometimes, I think i would be a great father for the first, and being in a steady relationship for the last two and a half years, (my previous one was for 5 years, and i am still friend with my ex) i think i can say im pretty well settled down, im 31, have a steady job as an architect and am a responsible person. What do we feel about two guys / or girls raising kids for that matter.
I have some lesbian friends, maybe raising the kids together, so that the child get both a female and a male role-model? what do you think?
Looking at some parents you see on television today etc, that doesn't seam at all very good parents, i am just thinking that we - as a responsible couple could surely do a better job.
I dont have a problem with adopting neither,as their are many kids out there in the world that have horrendous upbringings or no parents at all.I think we could provide them with a warm and loving home that can provide protection and good values.
2006-09-23 00:30:17 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There are so many children who are sent from one foster care home to another. I saw a young girl on tv the other day who had been in 45 foster homes from 6yrs to 18 yrs. of age. Also, many orphans and older children looking for loving homes. I think a good ,secure, loving home is what they need. More power to you and I hope you will consider adoption so one of those lonely children can have loving parents and a place to call home.
2006-09-23 00:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Hello!! :o) What upsets me most of all is that there are people in this world who would rather see a baby thrown into a garbage bin [literally] than be adopted by a gay person or a gay couple. I think it's good to desire that life for everyone be 'ideal'. [Whatever that is] But that's not always possible. In fact - it's rarely possible. No matter who you are raised by - there are ALWAYS going to be problems and hurdles to over come. That's just life. But I wouldn't go so far as to make a sweeping statement that 'gays should be able to adopt'. That's just not realistic. Anymore than it's realistic to say 'straights should be able to adopt'. What I would say is, 'any caring, capable, loving adult should be given the opportunity to take into their care a child who needs a home'. Not every gay person would make a good parent anymore than every straight person would make a good parent. This is where the 'gay community' has to leave out the word gay. This isn't about 'being a gay parent'. It's about being a GOOD parent. And 'good parents' come in all shapes, sizes, colours, religions AND orientations. Craig!! :o)
2006-09-23 01:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with two men or two woman raising a child. Some people argue that the children wouldn't be raised properly because all have to have both genders as parents. Which we know isn't true, because there are tons of single-parent mothers or farthers who do just fine. I myself was raised with only a mother and I turned out to be very successful. If you feel that your children need a female rolemodle, then you could always have a sister or female friend to give you a guiding hand but it's not utterly needed. (Except if you decide to have a girl, she will need some help when she hits puberty)
2006-09-23 00:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by catch22 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yeah. Basically if you can impregante a Lady you have the right to be a parent.
If a Gay bloke wants kids he should seek out a lesbian who wants kids and get together and have kids, they may need help to concieve but with a bit of help from their friends...
having a child to bring up, a common interest the couple should be able to arrange their social and sex lives around the child and be much like a heterosexual couple but with extra aunties and uncles. of course in time they may find they can fulfil each others sexual needs and become boringly normal, so go for it.
However two gay males should never be given a child to rear, too much temptation but two Lesbians or even one Lesbian is fine, lets face it the plenty of Hetero ladies get impregnated and never see the bloke again.
2006-09-23 13:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by "Call me Dave" 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In England early in the 21st century, two males raising a child is still Taboo, whereas two women would get the nod over a single male (natural father)*. Don't blame me, I did not make the rules.
*Male would be required to set up home with another female for a chance to win custody.
If the wife is a chaotic, the child may be taken into care.
2006-09-23 05:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Perseus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There has been a lot of research done on homosexual parents, and it finds that their kids do just as well, if not better than the children of heterosexuals. For one thing, usually a gay couple has had to really WANT kids, and fought the system, emotionally, medically and/or legally to get them, so they are more likely to cherish the opportunity to parent.
By the way, this research showed that the children of homosexual parents are just as likely to have a normal heterosexual life as the children of straight parents. If they weren't born gay, they don't "turn gay." They just end up more accepting of diversity.
2006-09-23 02:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by michael941260 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, why not?, if you are stable and want to give a chance to a kid someday, then go for it, no study proved that a same-sex couple can harm a kid emotionally or biologically, gay parents have the same struggles and efforts as straight parents to raise their childs as good people, good parenting is not affected by sexuality, if you go for it expect your children to be more open-minded than kids of straight parents...
2006-09-23 11:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by apernett 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone should be denied the right or privilege of being a parent based solely on their sexuality! I have 2 kids, one a teenager and one a pre-teen. They were a lot younger when I came out. But they are very glad that their mom now has someone in her life that makes her happy, and they are happier because of it!!! I think it matter so much more what you bring to the parent-child relationship than does your social setting. My kids will grow up to be more accepting people for having been exposed to this lifestyle. They will learn tolerance, love, and that it is wrong to judge people.
2006-09-23 05:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by Robin 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, Gay Couples should be allowed to have children. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with parenting skills. Trust me, it's a lot of sacrifice trying to be a good parent. If somebody wishes to take the challenge and have a child, and is willing to be responsible to the child above their own needs, then yes, absolutely they should have them. Sex doesn't matter, love and caring does. Go ahead, I'm sure you will make some child a very good parent. :)
2006-09-23 00:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Arlene06 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i belive that as long as the couple are capable and care for the child then it makes no difference because in the world we live 1 in 10 people are gay and i think it will eventually be normal for any couples to adopt. i think that with all the homeless and orphaned children in the world it is a must that anybody should be able to adopt, wthin reason obviously, like convicts and muderers shouldn't but normal people should
2006-09-23 04:10:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋