My best friend who is usually a sweet, fun, lovable person has been in a bad mood for the last couple of weeks. It really became a concern to me when other people came upto me and told me they noticed it.
She does rude things like interupts conversations so that she is the center of attention, contantly complains, and get agitated easily. She usually apologizes for being "such a *****" and laughs about it but obviously it doesn't sound sincere.
She has said "I'm in such a bad mood lately and I don't know why."
It really hurt me today when she sarted talking down to me and when there was a lot going on and i didn't realize I was in her way she pushed me out of the way and then tried to play it off like she was joking but you know how you can tell in someones eyes and face when they are really agitated. Then she tried to make it seem like I was being sensitive.
My sister thinks I should hang out less with her. I originally thought I should confront her but if that, what to say?
2006-09-22 23:52:35 · 5 answers · asked by LambiguousGoat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well , it seems ur friend is having a having time . It may have to do with her family , her friends or even herself.However if you want to be a true friend , you shuld stand by her side no matter what she says or does tht upsets you , because at any moment she might break down and need your help . If you ignore her and stop hanging out tht might even hurt her further.
wht you shuld do is arrange to go out , just the two of you and then take a walk with her somewhere and try and make her open up to you . Ask her how r things and what she's been up to ?
She will eventually open up to you.
Try and make her see tht she can trust you . if she doesnt want to tell u anything and denies it by saying she's fine , try and think of a bad time in ur life when u were feeling down and u told someone about it .
the secret is trying to make her see tht she has ur absolute trust and friendship.
dont neglect her , talk to her.
good luck for the both of you
2006-09-23 00:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by rockchickett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think that this is the TIME your friend really needs your time and attention, no matter how ugly she's being. What's happened in the past few weeks? Is she ill? Has her self -esteem taken a beating somewhere and she's decided ok if that's how it's going to be I can be as bitchy as .....
Real friends are there for the good times and the bad. And it's your real friends who can take you aside and say you know you're being a real pain in the wahzoo lately what's wrong.
Yes you can limit your contact and if this keeps up you may have to , but I'd do a little investigating first.
Then if she's still being a pain after you've talked to her, not yelled at her like you're on Jerry Springer, then maybe it's time to move on.
However I think there's something more to this that she is sharing.
2006-09-23 00:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best friends usually share what's going on in their lives with each other. Something certainly has taken place to put her in such a bad mood. Say something like, 'you don't seem like your old self lately, is there anything going on that you'd like to share with me?' If she denies there's anything wrong, there's really nothing more you can do. Don't be confrontational with her because she's already angry and it will just worsen the situation. I hope that she'll open up to you, because she will learn that she doesn't always need to keep everything to herself, and that there's room in a true friendship for serious discussion of personal problems as well as light-hearted fun.
2006-09-23 00:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she on hormones or any kind of medication? hormones make people crazy. my advice is that you should talk to her. ask her point blank, ask her when you are alone. tell her that her attetude is driving you crazy and that you are concerned about her.tell her that you mean no harm to her and that whatever happens, you will love and support her. after that if she doesnot open up to you then tell her that you respect her privacy and that you will give her some space. then avoid her for few days and see what happens.
2006-09-23 00:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the time she need you most, try to talk with her and trash out what is wrong with her, she will never forget you.
2006-09-23 00:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Dutchie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋