So I'm in a relationship with my bud, just like that to brokeback. Im like Jack and he Ennis. Things are just going along well, our freindship/relationship is very complicated, were buds, but we share greek love, and its all in the name of fun an comrodary. So I dont know, I want something more, its vague, and shaky, I use to be OK with the Greek love concept. So he told me, that He just wants it the way it is, and not to change it. I guess its okay, but I cant stop falling for him.... so what is my problem here.
2006-09-22 23:08:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Greek Love is a euphemism for something that does not actually necessarily involve love. Do you both share an understanding of what it means ? It sounds like you are seeking romantic love and your friend is not. I'd guess neither of you would identify yourselves as gay. This is probably because you do not identify with the stereotypical images of gay people or lifestyle. Your descriptions of the relationship "Brokeback" "Greek Love" are highly idealised and it sounds like you have collaborated ( if indeed you were not coerced ) into defining the relationship as being something noble. Something that on one hand transcends and on the other hand is not as significant as what you may subconsciously consider to be a shameful act or relationship. There is a clear dichotomy in these descriptions. Is Brokeback your definition and Greek Love his ? Brokeback is indeed a deep emotional bond of love. Greek Love on the other hand is what rugged, manly soldiers did to one another when they were away from women in campaigns of war. It would appear that your respective approaches to dealing with your sexuality is causing conflict and confusion. In an attempt to distinguish your relationship from a conventional gay relationship you are romanticising it and he is de-romanticising it.
He either does not have romantic feelings for you or feels that by adding romance to the relationship it will be indistinguishable to conventional gay relationships to which neither of you identify.
You sound terrific. Have whatever relationship you want with whomever you want.. rip off the labels ...but make sure you both want the same thing. You may find it hard to achieve this when you are using confusing euphamisms and analogies. Talk frankly.
2006-09-23 00:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by dws2711 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is somthing that happens a lot in this type of situation. Only keep it the it is if you really are ok with it. See brokeback they did love each other they were held back by the prejudice of society. Love is love and if he dosn' reciprocate you need to go find somone who will. Comrodery will not be enough when things get bad and you really need somone to hold you. You have no problem you just want to love and be loved. Discuss this with him further he might be scared to take those final steps into a real relationship which is a big possibility, he might be scared of the homosexuality aspect of it to. See now it's jsut all fun and games but once you've fallen for eachother you can't really hid from it anymore. These are things that you have to ask him. It might be somthing that may just take him time to do. Maybe he loves you he's just not ready for that type of thing.
2006-09-22 23:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Redhead with love 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is that you have no problem. You are human. Falling in love is not something that you can help, it just happens. It already sounds to me like the two of you are in a relationship and just don't realize it. Take it one day at a time and see what happens. You're young, you've got the rest of your life to have a serious relationship. Just sit back and enjoy the one you are in and see where it goes from there.
2006-09-22 23:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Brokeback Mountain is so beautiful & sad!
I sympathize with your dilemma. That's a tough one. I feel like most relationships are somewhat imbalanced. There's usually one person who's more emotionally invested in it & that person usually gets hurt. The choice is yours. Continue to see him, falling deeper for him, settling for what little he's willing to give & breaking your heart or part ways, don't see him at all (this will also break your heart but you will heal in the long term) and find someone else who has more love to give you...follow your heart. Sometimes when you love someone you're willing to hurt just to have them for a while...
2006-09-22 23:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by amp 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hav this exact problem,maybe a little differnt..I think you should hav a serious conversation with him..You need to think about this deeply about where this relationship is going.It's not wrong to love someone,bt I believe God made us in two's so u must realised somewhere out there ur true love, a woman is waiting for u..So STOP if u feel dat this is wrong..
2006-09-22 23:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're on the wrong site..you should go on the gay and lesbian site...It sounds like it's gotta be all his way or nothing...
2006-09-22 23:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you want more than he does.
you will need to try and distance yourself from him and TRY and find another love
dude you should come into the gay section, its more relaxed there!
2006-09-22 23:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you a retarded sick guy... Whats the matter with you... Are you mental???Dump the guy and get yourself a girlfriend.Thats the best answer you will get. SICK
2006-09-22 23:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by Hot_girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can't help you on that one.
2006-09-22 23:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by Putt 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u nid a psychologist...
2006-09-22 23:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by Benedict 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋