if his girl is using him. they are in love with eachother but she stays at home when he goes out and works.he pay for her cigs and pays for her gambling. should i say something or not?
2006-09-22 23:07:29 · 17 answers · asked by me me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if hes got any brains he will work it out for himself eventually.
2006-09-22 23:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Alfred E. Newman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is a good friend it may be worth mentioning but it could cause you two to argue and cause unnecessary conflict. At the end of the day if your friend is happy with his situation then surely you should support him! Whilst it might appear that it is a one-sided relationship, she may do a lot at home. You have to ponder whether it's worth losing a friend.
Good Luck
2006-09-23 06:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by boudicea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't if I were you, it's their life and they have to live it together and be happy in it, not you. If they're both in love, and he's chosen to be with her and do that, then he must be happy about it. I know it's rare in this day and age, but some men ARE happy to do that you know. She obviously gives him enough back in other ways to make it a happy situation for him. And besides, if she loves him, then she can't be using him - you can't use someone you love, it's a contradiction in terms. Let them be, so long as they're happy, you should be happy for them. Just make sure you are there when he REALLY needs you, should that ever happen.
2006-09-23 06:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by Quilps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try but I doubt whether he will take much notice! I am sure he is aware that she is spending HIS money - if it's a problem for him then he will do something about it himself.
Just make sure you are there to support him when he needs you - then you will be a good friend!!!
2006-09-23 06:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Fluffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do I detect an ulterior motive here - are you 1) male or female and 2) if you're the latter do you fancy him and if the former, are you jealous?
2006-09-23 06:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by gerbiltamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him your opinion straight. And explain your saying this out of concern as a friend.
If hes a good friend he'll appreciate your concern.
2006-09-23 06:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as u obviously care about ur friend u could have a talk to him but u know what the say about love makes u blind. he might not want to see the truth,
2006-09-23 06:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah u should talk to ur friend and make the things clear to ur friend otherwise it will be late and u may feel guilty
2006-09-23 06:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by tamanasana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not say anything, be there for him, when she bankrupts them, you could mention concern about her gambling,ask him ,if he thinks she has a handle on it,tell him i said that it can be a disease & get him in a LOT of debt,especially if she uses credit cards, to be careful about letting her use one.
2006-09-23 06:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me me girl sounds like you might have some feelings there besides plane old friend ship.take a look at why you feel that way and ask your self are you being a true friend,or a jealous one????
2006-09-23 06:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything, it's his life, the best thing to do is be there for him if it all goes wrong.
2006-09-23 06:13:57 · answer #11 · answered by fi_sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋