I was e-mailing with a guy who told me that he was afraid of intelligent and very beautiful women. This guy is Singaporean. Then a German guy told me that guys are afraid of beautiful women who happen to be intelligent, but they are not afraid of beautiful women who aren't intelligent or intelligent women who aren't beautiful. I'd like to ask if it's true that guys are afraid of intelligent women. If yes, why? Why are intelligent women scary? Thanks for sharing.
2006-09-22 22:58:38 · 24 answers · asked by prudence z 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes I think intellegent women are intimidating, however I find pretty women intimidating too. I don't think one thing cancels the other.
I guess a man likes to be perceived as intellegent, if a woman is more intellegent than him he will look stupid in comparison.
It is a superiority thing, if the man is not superior to a woman, he feels worthless.
With the pretty woman thing, a man hates rejection, so if there is a woman he feels is too good looking for him, he will keep away from her, that way he cannot be rejected.
My answers are only general answers, not all men are the same
2006-09-22 23:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by angle_of_deat_69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I think intelligent women are sexy. Wish there were more. I find women to be wise but not many who share my intellectual hobbies. If the guy in question is not too bright, then the more intelligent woman must get bored & possibly sarcastic?
Why would average iqed guys be afraid of intelligent women? Maybe those guys have low self-esteem, low confidence or are macho guys & want to feel comfortable? Or perhaps the guys ego feels hurt.
E Harmony.com says the first thing men look for in a mate is kindness. Being an intelligent woman doesn't mean you have to be nasty. Just as being a "strong" man doesn't mean you have to bully a lady.
2006-09-23 06:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think intelligent and not so attractive women are scary to guys, not the pretty ones. Guys don't usually like the ones that aren't VERY pretty too, even if they're okay looking and otherwise attractive (kind, dress okay, neatly groomed, etc.)
I think the guy who commented about the so called scary intelligent women not being as intelligent as they think has a point, and so does whoever said partners should be able to teach each other new things.
2006-09-23 07:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not scared of intellegent women. However for a relationship of any sort to work there has to be some sort of understanding between the two people otherwise the majority of relationships will fail because yeah a man will feel stupid and could never win an arguement regardless of if he right or not. He will feel controlled and very few people like that. People need a partner that they can relate to, teach new things and not made to constantly feel inferior, Thats just my opinion anyway,
2006-09-23 06:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by markajk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're going to attract a certain type of guy. Probably someone more intelligent and on your level. You wouldn't want some kind of insecure dominanting man anyways. I think that's usually the problem for men who are intimidated by confidence, intelligence etc.. They want to feel like they're on top always and some of them can't handle the opposite or equality.
2006-09-23 07:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Browneyedgirl1975 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee... intelligent and very beautiful woman. That's gonna be a scary one to have lol. Scary in a sense that I will still be competing with other men even if she's already my girlfriend because other guys will still assume they're better than me and, therefore, will attempt to steal her from me. And since she's intelligent and very beautiful, she just might use that intelligence and beauty to assume, "Hey, I can have as many better men still." In other words, intelligent and very beautiful women are not really that easy to trust, therefore, they're scary lol.
2006-09-23 07:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if a man is afraid of a woman for being intelligent, then perhaps it is because the woman is not as intelligent as she thinks. Not that she is dumb, but if she was really intelligent then intelligence would not turn off the man you were trying to impress because you would not need to impress him with your intelligence, because you would both be intelligent and not need to consistently prove you are right to each other. You would understand each other on a higher plain, or you would seek to understand the others viewpoint and not focus on the competition of who is the more intelligent and thus the man would not be afraid and the woman would be able to choose a man who is not afraid because she is intelligent.
2006-09-23 07:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by sherlockmeh 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It probably depends on the guy. Personally, I go for all the intelligence I can find -- I have known more than a few women, and the smarter they are, the better the relationship has worked. I found my present main squeeze through Mensa.
2006-09-23 06:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Myself, I like a woman who can think for herself and also, being able to give me some food for thought. Or if I am having a problem with something and before I make a rash choice I would turn to her and ask her for her advice and see if we think the same or if she can calm me down and let me see things more clearly.
So, if those guys or any man is afraid of a woman can do ALL these things and more. Isn't a man at all.
2006-09-23 06:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by justbetweenus_us 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Intelligent men are not afraid of intelligent women. Good looking men are not afraid of good looking women. Intelligent, good looking men are not afraid of intelligent, good looking women. An intelligent man with confidence is not afraid of women.
2006-09-23 07:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by OU812 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋