Are we still going to be bestfriend's again?

Question

I have a bestfriend for 4 years and we've been through a lot together and she has been my only activity partner for years. We have even been mistaken as lesbians because of our closeness. We've been through a lot of fights and we usually kiss and make up for it. But recently we had a fight again and she just suddenly turned cold to me even though I have been sincerely apologizing to her for days now. She even texted me that "she can't bring back the way it used to be and its better to true" and she has been the same for weeks now. What I can't understand is, how can she disregard our friendship just like that. Please help me I need answers. I really miss my bestfriend and I'm really worried about our friendship because I do not want to lose her and this is the first time that happened that we haven't been talking for weeks now. what should I do?please help me?Dr. Phil?

Answer 1

I have been in a similar situation. I've had the same best friend for eighteen years and we've had our rocky moments as well. Give your friend time to chill out and miss you. In the process, don't stop enjoying life. If you do, you will only be hurting yourself. Also, people change. Sometimes we outgrow out friends and move on. Eventually, they will catch up to where we are in life and that friendship can be resumed. Take a deep breath and relax. If she is truly meant to be your best friend for life, in time, you two will resolve this issue.

ps. not doctor phil. Just the black widow. lol

Answer 2

I've been on dat situation and I know how t feels. I used to have a bestfriend for 5 years and after dat nothing. We have a family feud and it's been 6 or more years dat we haven't talked.

If I were you. Just let it go. Coz uve done ure part already and only time can tell if he/she wants you to be her bestfriend. Try to focus on other things first then maybe u'll learn something that'll give u enough understanding about what friends are.

Give him/her some time. Coz sometimes the more you force a person the more they refuse. I've learned dat and now I'm ready to fight for her again. Although what your bestfriend said is true "U can't bring back what things used to be" but just try to move on and you'll see that life has so many things in store for you.

And one more thing, learn to be sensitive about other people's feeling. Because sometimes what we think is right for us can hurt other people's feelings. Let go first and just go with the flow.

Answer 3

you are going to have to face the fact that there are very few women out there that have best friends that live in the same city and last for more than a couple years. You can try again with another girl but there is something in your genes that will not allow for a long term relationship. There are exceptions to this rule but if you had fit into this category, you not only would have been mistaken for a lesbian but you would have been having sex with her. It takes some male hormones and traits to be a woman with a long term best friend that's female as well. My wife is aware of this and has had the same best friend for over a decade now. She has learned to recognize the signals of the oncoming ff battle and backs off for a couple months. She's bi though so she has that advantage.

Answer 4

I doubt it. In my journey, as quickly as the friendship line has been crossed, there isn't any going lower back. If love enters the photograph, and not in a delightful way, then how are you able to pass lower back to easily being pals? the sentiments are there and you will't merely neglect approximately them. you're waiting to for a quick time, yet i actually think of that they are going to resurface on the main inopportune time. do not you think of you may experience extraordinary mind-blowing out like friends together with her and her bf? i would not want to. you will omit the friendship, yet have faith me, lifestyles is going on....mine did!

Answer 5

heres a tip.
LISTEN TO ME. the second one of your freinds seems to "use" you or be mean or treat you in a non-friend like way. get FAR away from her.

i had a best friend for 7 years, she was always a little um... bossy. she ended up hurting me really bad- she totalled my car and then some.

just.....be smart about it. you'll find new people.

Answer 6

just tell her that today u posted this Q on net n got different types of A saying that she is not worth so but u still sure that one day u will b again gud frnds...say"if u think that i am talking non sense n u dint wanna talk to me then its OK i wont disturbe u again...gud by 4 ever but i will miss u till the end of time.....n i am leaving the town/city to go n live with a relative forever....so bye.."
i m sure it will work....
gud luck...

Answer 7

I guess it all depends on what actually happened ?

My ex best friend tried to make a move on my man then lied about it. I dumped him anyway, but couldnt forgive her for lying to me. The man meant nothing, its the fact I lost trust in her.

Sometimes u have to move on. I know its hard tho.....

Answer 8

it seems like that's the final straw for her. maybe she's tired of the ups and downs with you. sometimes it's just time to move on. i say let it go. move on yourself. you've apologized and that's all you can do. if she doesn't appreciate that, then there isn't much left to do. respect her space. get a new friend.

Answer 9

U seem to have really hurt her feelings. It will take time to heal. Best if u had a long talk with her and tell her how u feel. Ask her how she feels.

Answer 10

I also have a friend and she won't even talk to me sometimes... I don't know if she's mad, but she's my friend so I guess i'll just respect her....

I actually don't know if u are still going to be friends..... She's your bestfriend and you can always talk to her!!