why does my husband still come around so often?

Question

My husband and I separated recently and he moved out. I call him whenever there is something wrong with the house and he comes over right away. He also comes over to watch our daughter a couple of nights a week. But then he comes over all the time to work on his car that is still in the garage.

He has a girlfriend out of town. When she is up here, he doesn't come over and doesn't answer his phone when I call. What's going on with him?

Answer 1

It is normal and only human to miss loved ones, and want to hang around, just to be with them. His daughter is with you, so naturally he would want to pop by to see her and how you both are doing. When he is with his girlfriend, it is also natural that he would prefer to assign more respect to her by not allowing your calls to invade their personal space, in the sense that, he feels that it would be unfair to her if he was with you while physically being with her. So he is moving on, to her, but at the same time also wanting to see the both of you move on and do well in life.

Answer 2

Seems he needs constant attention, either from you, which he knows he can still have...and have his girlfriend.
Ok, so he has moved on...but i think you should tell him just because his girlfriend comes back doesn't mean that his responsibility ends...namely with your daughter. In other matters, honestly, i don't think you should rely on him, let alone call him unless its regarding your daughter. If there is something wrong with the house then you should get a mechanic...the more you realize that there is nothing left, you wont expect anything from him, and you won't have anything to be disappointed about for eg. when he doesn't pick up the phone.
As far as being responsible the only matter that you should rely on him for is your daughter...everything else shouldn't even concern him.

Answer 3

Well he is enjoying a new girlfriend new sexual experiences and new situations but the fact that he comes over so often to your house says that he may still have a great amount of love for you

you see sometimes a break up or marriage seperation doesnt mean the people stop caring for one another its just they relize they cant live with eachother because they are unwilling to change there ways

He probably still loves you yet injoys his new experiences as well

Answer 4

He doesn't want to be married to you. But he is trying to be a stand up guy, probably because he has a new girl. He feels he is "easing" you into it. Your choice on if you let him or not. If you still love him and want him back, my advice is to cut off all contact with him unless it directly involves the children. If you don't, you'll never get over him. If you don't want him back, take advantage of his kindness. Thank him when he does things around the house and goes out of his way for you. The better your relationship is with him, the easier it will be on the children.

Answer 5

I think that maybe you are the problem here.How many repairs does a house need,you need a new house if it is in that much disrepair.Tell him to move his car out of the garage and work on it elsewhere.Suggest a proper visitation time table for him and your daughter-in short,cut down the amount of time he is around your house-cut the amount of time that you two have anything to do with one another,stop phoning him.But do you want to do all this...i think not.I think you still need him around by the way you are still looking for excuses...get rid,or keep-your choice.

Answer 6

I went through this too. I finally had to realize that we are either together, or not together. Sounds like you both want your cake and eat it too. Quit calling him to come over. Get a repairman, a relative or someone else to fix things.He can watch the daughter at his place, and if he isn't living there, he should get his things out. Get on with your lives. Don't spend so much time worrying about what the other one is doing. No, he probably doesn't want you calling when his girlfriend is there. You need to get on with your life without him. He has another girlfriend. Let her deal with him.

Answer 7

What's going on with both of you? Your either separated or not. Get off the fence as your wasting your life with this half way thing. Your not available to someone new in your life. Or maybe thats the way you want it. If that's the case move back in together and quit wasting all the money on separate houses.

Answer 8

Nothing much is wrong, it's just that though you two are separated, you are still together mentally. That isn't a bad thing, but it will prolong the marriage, at least the emotional part of marriage. Eventually, you WILL separate, or you will reconcile. As for the girlfriend, of course he stays away when she's around. I doubt you'd be pleased if he brought her along when he watches his child, or to work on his car.

Answer 9

I personally thinks you guys need to patch things up. the whole truth of the matter is not known to we the public, but my advice to you is never let outsiders decides for you.if you believe in God as i do, then just fast and pray and the right answer to your question will come to you like a dream.I believe the love is still there, but how do you make it work is your problem.
I will suggest that, you begin all over again as if it was your first meeting. bury the hate and mistrust, start getting him back. whether he is involved with another woman is not the answer, he is doing that to draw your attention that, he is still in love with you and that you guys need to come together again for the sake of the little one who needs both of you much.
Good Luck and May God be with you.

Answer 10

WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM???? WHAT IS WRONG WITH you??? YOUR LETTING HIM GO OVER WATCH UR DAUGHTER FIX HIS CAR...YOUR THE PROBLEM...ITS SO OBVIOUS SO DONT ASK US WHEN YOUR LETTING HIM DO WHAT HE WANTS THEN WHEN HIS G/F IS IN TOWN U WANT HIM TO ANSWER HIS PHONE WHEN YOU DONT GIVE HIM NO YOU KNOW WHAT? HE IS BUSY GETTING SOME LOL LEAVE HIM ALONE ...IF YOU WANT HIM AROUND WHEN HIS G/F IS NOT IN TOWN THEN DONT COMPLAIN