i have known my ex for 16 yrs - we were together for 8 & have been apart for 8 - we have a 12 yr old son together. i cheated on him during the last 2 yrs of our relationship & he cheated on his last (& only) girlfriend w/ me. we have been "seeing" one another off & on for almost 4 yrs now -should be try again or r we just "friends w/ benefits"?
2006-09-22 22:18:35 · 12 answers · asked by momatendofrope 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes, you'll never know if you dont.
2006-09-22 22:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by amofber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being "friends with benefits" isn't so bad. However, stop and think about why you cheated on him in the first place. Also, remember that time changes people. In my opinion, he has never gotten completely over you. Especially since in 8 years he's only had 1 girlfriend. Talk to him about it and possibly do a "trial run". Give yourself what you consider a reasonable amount of time to change your mind if you decide that it won't work again. Also, be smart about this and do not factor in that he is the father of your child. If it becomes a bad situation, your child will not benefit.
2006-09-22 22:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will be hard to try to live together because of your past. It sounds more like friends with benefits whom have a great understanding of each other. The best thing you can do is put everything on the table with him and open the communication avenue.
Semper
2006-09-23 03:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by SemperLeader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
examine why you cheated on one another. Has either one of you changed in anyway? If your are the same at the core then you are just lonely and need to try to avoid the comfort of a stale relationship. It is easy but the same problems with just resurface.
2006-09-22 22:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by sup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should try again After 16 years you have too much history not to.
2006-09-22 22:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by kveldulfgondlir 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are both willing and for the sake of your child, why not give it another go, but whichever way it's good that you have remained friends.
2006-09-22 22:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is for going forward not backwards. I advise you to remain as you are or even better forget him altogether. Good luck.
2006-09-22 22:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just friends
2006-09-22 22:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently went through a similar situation, give it a shot it worked for me! good luck :)
2006-09-22 22:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
aw, man, you neighter one have a clue on how to make a marriage work- sorry,don`t get back together, the son does`nt need to get his hopes up.both of you need to go to church.
2006-09-22 22:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with benefits **** relationships the **** aint worth it
2006-09-22 22:20:10 · answer #11 · answered by marksmithdejected 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋