i am 28 and had this realtionship for 2yrs now with a married man. we try to see each other at least 2 or 1's a month. i know i should end this but i love him more each day.i tried to end the relationship several times but we still ended together. I have guilt feelings to everyone cause ive been keeping this all by my self. i have never shared this to anyone and feel so alone because i have no one to cry on or to ask for advise.
2006-09-22 22:17:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hell yes
2006-09-22 22:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Believe that the reasons that you have these empty, sad , and feeling alone feelings is because your allowing yourself to do such things. It's your body or should I say your inner being telling you that what you are doing is wrong . So, The Inner Being is getting you prepaired for feeling Empty, Sad, and being All alone for the rest of your sorry life. So you should know what to do. But looking at your track record you may need some more mental help. These are very huge mental problems! Ask yourself these few questions, Would you wan't your Husband seeing someone behind your back? If he was a true Man would'nt he admit to his faults and do what is needed? And Once a Cheater , Always a Cheater? that includes what you are doing also!!!
2006-09-23 05:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by butterflyink77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a counselor, this seems like an addction and you need to know why you are obsessed with someone who is unavailable. There are reasons why you may not feel you can take ona real relationship , you need to find out why so you can move on. Living for the "excitement" of trying not to be found out is not a good motivation for a relationship-find a job with some kind of intellectual stimulation like private investigator or some such area where you can use this to your advantage. This a a game, not a relationship, so find other recreation that is exciting for you. Bungy jumping? Mountain climbing, anything that will give you that zing. Relationships-think family-who will take care of you when you are sick ro in trouble. A married man will ditch you like a hot potatoe when trouble strikes.
2006-09-23 05:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my own opinion, yes. Coz tz not right having an affair with a married man. But f u really love him den u must learn to face the consequences attached to it. Having a relationship is not bad but with a married man, it's a different story. If you two really love each other the best way to test you're relationship by splitting up first. Coz if u're really meant for each other then no matter what happen, u'll still be in the end.
And if he really loves you he won't give up on you easily. It's either he divorces his wife or he splits up with you. But in the end it's still you're decision. Follow what you're mind says not your heart and f u really feel dat its worth fighting for him then don't. Coz when true love comes sometimes its hard to find one again so don't let it go.
2006-09-23 05:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by bianxbianx20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you may have lost yr heart to him and love him deeply but trust me, he may love you too but not to the extent of leaving his wife, and family , he is after all a human being his happy with this arrangement, yr 28, y dont wanna be stuck as a keep in his life, u need to move on, have a fly of yr own, sit down, y want to live in freedom not with guilt, so pls walk away from this relationship, it will be painful but u will emerge, a stronger, wiser person trust me, nothing is difficult or painful in this world unless u make it that way, so get up, get out, and move on... i promise all will be fine, the heartache will pass away and as soon as u let go that someone special will come into yr life and u wont ever have to look back.
2006-09-23 05:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by haboba13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly its been 2 yrs and he still hasn't left his wife!! Open your eyes chances are that he won't!! There are so many available good men out there!! That would love to put you as number 1 in their life!! Hun Never make some one a priority when you are only an option!! It seems as if you have put you life on hold for this man!! For a relationship that's not going to go any where!! and if it does who's to say a yr down the road he's not going to be doing the same to you!! It isn't fair to you!! But most importantly it isn't fair to his wife!! Put your feet in her shoes!! How would you feel?? I have been w/ my husband for 6yrs now!! It would honestly tear me apart if I were her!! I feel for you but I feel for her more!! She's the victim in all of this!! while he's juggling two woman at once your at home stressing out over this!! Theres prob. another woman on the side that he's doing this too!! If I were you I would just send him to hell!! I know easier said then done!! But you should be able to be w/ a man who can hold your hand in the streets and take you out in public and be able to call you his woman!!! Be a STRONG woman!! And don't allow yourself to be NUMBER 2!!!
2006-09-23 05:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any friends, I'm sure that they have all told you to dump this jerk. 28 is too young to waste on a married man. Shoot if I was 28, I'd be running the streets and enjoying my life!
BB-Q's, Crawfish, Beer fest, Baseball, Basketball, Bars, Men, Mardi Gras- New Orleans, Las Vegas, N.Y., South Padre Island, Club La Vida (Florida), Austin, Chicago, eew girl this world is just waiting for you to get real!! College, GO to college. 28 it's not too late! 29 you're gonna be fine! 30 get dirty!
31 time to have fun! 32 look at you(what did you do?)
Enjoy your life. You only have one.
2006-09-23 05:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by meowzer mix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always lose when dating a married man. Your wasting your time with him while he is still married. One day he will dump you. Just think the 2 years you've been seeing him behind his wife's back you have wasted for yourself while all that time you could have been with a committed man and he could have been all yours and wouldn't had to share him with another woman who has first priority to him. I think you should dump him. You are not going to get anywhere with him! And deep down you know it!
Show yourself some respect and have pride for yourself!
2006-09-23 05:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sad to hear of your story, however I must be honest. This man is using you, he will never leave his wife - and if he did he would then be looking for someone to cheat on you with. You are worth so much more than this, break it off, you'll probably be very sad but believe me any tears he has will only be those of a crocodile. I wish you happiness and you will NEVER have that will this creep.
2006-09-23 05:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if he cheating on his wife with you when you get him what you think he gonna do to you??!!When you get a husband somebody gonna get him like you doing now,End it!! He is not leaving her for you or nobody else,he would have done it by now don't let any of his excuse become the truth to you,that's an automatic set up for failure.If he was unhappy he would have been left before he meet you.YOU only Love him cause you can't have him.once you get him the spark,flame,and fun of sneaking is gone what y'all gonna do or talk about now.
2006-09-23 05:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by handicute2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having a 2 year relationship with a married man... he's your husband after all. Don't be ashamed.
2006-09-23 05:25:54 · answer #11 · answered by satnee2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋