help my best friend!?

Question

my best friend has a problem. shes a virgin, conservative and never been in a relationship before. she told me around 2 weeks ago her bf fingered her and they did dry sex [still wearing full clothes and pants] also the following weeks [til last week].shes worry now coz she didnt know if her bf had precum on his finger or not. but she told me that she spotted white thingy on his pants. then her bf told her that he doesnt have a habit playing with himself [touching his penis and so on] so he doesnt need a rubber or wash his hand.

ok heres the problem. well the fact is if the guy has a lil pre *** or ejaculated and insert a finger on vagina, its possible to get you pregnant. but as dry sex, i doubt it will make you pregnant, i mean, slim chance.

but how can i tell my best friend all those above i mentioned without making her more panic and worry? oh yeah, i told her to take a pregnancy test. she did it maybe last or maybe early this week and it came out negative. her period due 1st oct

oh i forgot to add details, my friend is having this kind of rule, no sex before marriage.

but just now she was telling that shes always under pressure, every month is wondering if her period is gonna come or not and wanna break up with her bf due to what they always do dry sex and fingering. it drives her crazy and its better shes being single.

Answer 1

First tell your best friend that unless semen got into her vagina, she's not going to be pregnant. Second, tell her next time to use her head before doing something like this. Third, she needs to learn a LOT more before she decides to go ahead and have sex. It sounds as if she doesn't know a whole lot about it, and therefore shouldn't be doing something she knows nothing about.

I'm not trying to lecture, I just don't want to see her end up pregnant because she made a bad choice. You seem to be a bit more educated in the matter than your friend is, try helping her out. Web MD is a good place for info, so is Planned Parenthood. There should be one in your area, or something like it. Take her there so she can get some help learning about what happens when you have sex. Good luck honey, and you're being a good friend. =)

Answer 2

It doesn't matter whether you have your clothes on or not - you can still get pregnant.

Any man and especially a teenager who says he doesn't play with himself much is a bloody liar.

She is probably not pregnant unless they have had full intercourse (forget about the clothes - irrelevant) !

It is possible for a girl to get pregnant this way and it has happened with very little contact that if he had sperm on his finger and put it anywhere near her vagina that she then falls pregnant - as sperm have tails that help them swim upwards to the womb.

However, inside the vagina is a very hostile environment for a sperm as it is extremely acidic and most sperm die off before they get anywhere near the egg - that is why nature built redundancy into our and many other animals' reproductive system by providing millions of sperm in every ejaculation; but having said that, in all probability, it is unlikely regarding the minimal contact you describe that she is infact pregnant.

It depends very much on how high his sperm count is and whether she was ovulating at the time.

As far as worrying her about telling her or not - if you are a REAL friend to her, just say it in plain English as you see it - but gently. At the end of the day she is either pregnant or not and needs to get the best advice possible from someone who cares about her, which ever way it turns out.

Probably the best advice you could give her in confidence, is to get a different boyfriend as he sounds very immature for her and that she could probably do better.

Answer 3

For a girl to become pregnant, the sperm must travel through the vagina, cervix, uterus, and into the fallopian tubes where the egg is being released. Women only release an egg for close to 4-6 days per month. The actual ejaculation gives the sperm the force it needs to reach that destination. Even if they had sex, he pulled out, and then put it back in again, she still would not get pregnant. Also, sperm dies within a few seconds of being released if it does not fertilize an egg.

Answer 4

I'm in nursing school and one of my classmates jokingly asked our maternal child instructor was it possible to get pregnant "dry humping" fully clothed and she said it was very possible.

Having said that, chances of her being pregnant are very slim b/c there's only a 24 time frame a female can get preggo. If he going to be masturbating and then playing with her he needs to wash his hands thoroughly.

The other thing, if she is pregnant it would not have shown up if she tested last week or early this week. You can normally only test 3-5 days before you are due to start and even then it may not show up. It's better to wait until you are 3 + days late.

Best wishes to your friend and you.

Answer 5

The chances of getting pregnant this way is extremely low and very doubtful. It is also too early for her to know if she would be pregnant, one more full week and she can take another test but tell her not to waste her money and tell her boyfriend to keep his hands out of his pants if he wants to play with her. Your friend sounds very young to be worrying about this so much so tell her and her boyfriend to keep playing from the waist up for now until she grows up a bit.

Answer 6

Sperms can be made to enter manually or through natural course.They are very small cells and have the power of movement. In the present case the chances of getting pregnant are remote.Indulgence in sex should be in a healthy manner and without any guilt, pressure or inhibitions.

Answer 7

This sounds like a line of bullshit. Your friend is very stupid and so are you for even being concerned about a finger with come on it, that could have possibly gotten on her clothes.

Any sex education class could clear this up. She should talk to her mother and I'm sure she will help her to understand.

Answer 8

First, a test will not show after 2 weeks. One day late will usually show, but not always. She most likely is NOT pregnant...but, I hope you both have learned a lesson... DON'T TAKE CHANCES!!! If you decide to have sex, get on birth-control!!! And please, don't EVER believe what the GUY says at that point in time.

Answer 9

Listen to "jenpeden" AND implement the advice given, therein.