over make dinner for him, or just want to hang out at 2 in the morning, Their just friends about 10 of them, never has taken me out, Is very unkind most of the time..... How Dumb am I, I left him Today Was this the right choice?
2006-09-22 20:46:09 · 24 answers · asked by SweetDedie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have the answer u're looking for... in the shortest possible way let me explain... In general, people can get used/attached to anything/anyone they spend time with. It might not even be pleasant but you think you need it because you're attached to it (eg. smoking). Say for example you have an angry mother that screams at you everyday, doesn't let u do things you want, etc. etc... obviously you don't like the way she is... say after yrs of living with your mum, she suddenly starts being nice and wonderful and she becomes the best mum u could ever imagine. Although it's a good thing you always wanted, you'll start to worry and think what's wrong with her? why's she nice? why's she like this? that's simply because you're used to her old behaviour, not because you liked her old behaviour! Now it's exactly the same thing in your situation, you're attached to this guy, he's never going to make you happy in life although he might be a nice to you in his own ways... leaving him is the right choice, but it's not always easy as you probably know. You might find yourself missing him again and wantin to go back with him but you have to control urself. At times u think u've done the wrong thing or u cant take it anymore and you want to go back but u will only win if you can control urself. You will eventualy get over him and be happy but be patient and don't give up. I also have to say you're lucky it's only 10 months, some ppl find themselves in the same situation after years and trust me it's much harder then. YOU CAN DO IT, tell urself that. Going back to him will make you even more attached and even harder to geet over. I hope i've been help 2 u, let me knw if i can help u anymore and try 2help others if u find this helpful. Also, spend time with family/friends that you like and do other things that you enjoy. All the best.
2006-09-22 21:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by AnswerZ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you made the right choice, this guy obviously has alot of commitment issues, and he's obviously lying to you coz i doubt he'd have like 10 friends who happen to be girls who make him dinner and he's never had sex with any of them, sorry to break it to you, but this guy was playing you for a fool, and he had the nerve to introduce you to these girls and claim that they are just "friends". I wouldn't be surprised if he's screwing them all, just thank you lucky stars that you got out when you did, and you didn't waste years with this loser.
The reason he never took you out is coz he was probably too busy cheating on you. Just learn from your mistakes, look at this as an experience coz you deserve alot better.
2006-09-22 21:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you have asked this question it seems you are a very nice person and contrary to the saying nice persons don't come last its only that you have to find an equally nice person, and there are lots. So move on and get rid of this guy pronto or u are heading for trouble.
2006-09-22 20:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a question !! Do you really need an answer. You know in your heart you should have left him months ago, or are you one of those people who like abuse. If your not, well u`ve learned a valuable lesson that will serve you well in your next relationship....run, don`t walk if another man treats you that way.
2006-09-22 21:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!congrats being with somebody that long and being able to leave them is a good thing because there's love involved start over he might beg for you to come back but don't get back with him be strong and if you ever need anybody you can IM me i sorta went tru the same thing
2006-09-22 21:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dedi, your not dumb at all, in fact your very smart. You did the right thing. Now work on your self esteem or else you will find yourself in falling right back into the same pattern.
2006-09-22 20:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing and the wisest thing. You are smart now. You are lucky it's only 10 months and not 10 yrs of your life wasted on this scum.
2006-09-23 05:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to answer your first Question, "How dumb am I(You), to tell the truth i don't know, I can't answer your queswer you have asked, Sorry. 2nd question "I left him today was this the right choice? Yes..!!! and stay away from him. get a man not a boy.
2006-09-22 22:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to go. Sounds like he has some serious problems, and you needed to get away from him. You will find someone that will treat you right. Just be patient.
2006-09-22 20:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(clapping hands)
about time ...nice to see someone smart enough to say
enough is enough..
dont waste your youth on this dude..dont go back..
he will ask you but dont fall 4 it..
if he does it is only cuz you stepped on his pride by leaving him..
and men cant stand that
you know he was wrong..you know girls dont go over at 2am in the morn 4 nothing..(lotta skanks out there......sorry had to say...but true)
glad to see you realized your value..
take care
dont settle for less than you are worth
you teach people how to treat you..and dont be anyones door mat..
= )
you did the right thing!
2006-09-22 22:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by sHiNe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋