Well here is the deal. I am a bisexual female who has a VERY big attraction to women. I do have a boyfriend who I am very serious with and want to marry. He knows of my sexuality and tells me i need to be who i am and stop hiding it. here is the problem. Everytime i find a girl who wants to engage in certain activites with me, i tell them up front my situation. I tell them we can be good friends with benefits and really nothing more. My problem is there are no girls here in kansas willing to have that kind of relationship wiht me. I never ask them to get into threesomes with me and my BF,even though i think it would be fun, or anything like that. then they get all attached and just want to have a lesbian relationship and tell me to leave my BF. I am just really wondering if there are any girls out there having the same issues or any female out there that wants the same or am i the only one
2006-09-22 20:24:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are not alone on this one. I was married for 5 years but I have know since I was 13 I was attracted you girls. I am just recently comming out my self. I left my husband and don't regreat it at all. Just lission to your heart and you should be fine.....
2006-09-22 20:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the join the online community suggestion. BUT be very cautious, because MOST (not saying all) women out there that have a boyfriend want the bi-female to join in (or say that they just want him to watch). I know as soon as a bi-female tells me she has a boyfriend I get VERY CAUTIOUS and almost begin to ignore anything else from there. So get to know her first, then after that, you should discuss it, not saying you should lie, just don't give up all the information at once!
2006-09-23 04:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by UNapologetic! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine solved that by finding a partner who comfortable with sharing, a man, who then helped her look for a compatible woman. She refers to them as her wife and husband, she's been with her husband for 20 years, and her wife for 15. You need to be looking in bi groups not gay, many gays are no different from the most bigoted of gay bashers when it comes to bis.
2006-09-23 23:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, you aren't the only one. There are many people out there who are just looking for a little fun...all you can do is look and try and find it.
Best of luck.
2006-09-23 06:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by LaurAnn R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you basically telling the females that you'll use them for sex only..but they'll always be #2??? Doesn't make it sound too inviting to me...
2006-09-23 05:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps do an online search for some open poly groups?
2006-09-23 03:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a very rare type,,call cross,typical,,
2006-09-23 03:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by aloysius17429 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋