if a couple has been together for about 6 years....do you think there still a large chance for divorce?

Answer 1

Well you have not clarified wether you want to leave or he wants to leave ?

Love in your marriage can transform how you experience every other aspect of your life. But no other aspect of your life—no matter how good it is—can compensate for lack of love in your marriage.

Try saving it and this is how you go about itL

The issues in your relationship may be about emotional distance, lack of passion, sexual problems, constant fighting, emotional abuse, (if there is physical abuse, then you must find a way to leave), or being used financially. There may be control and resistance occurring around many different issues. Yet the underlying issue is a lack of open and caring communication. And open communication only occurs when both people have a deep intention to learn about their feelings, fears, limiting beliefs, and resulting unloving behavior.

If one or both people in a relationship are closed to learning about themselves and each other, the relationship will not heal.

If you are thinking about leaving your relationship, first think about your own intent. Are you open to learning about your feelings, beliefs and behavior? Or, are you devoted to protecting against pain with anger, withdrawal, resistance or care taking? Are you avoiding your feelings with substances and activities, or are you opening to learning from your feelings and exploring yourself with a process such as the Inner Bonding process that we teach? The first thing you need to do is deal with your own intent.

Once you are open to learning for a number of months, and really doing your inner work, then re-evaluate your relationship. Has anything changed? Is your partner more or less open to you? Are you talking more and fighting or withdrawing less? If things are not getting better or are getting worse, then it is time to ask your partner if he or she is willing to do some healing work with you – through counseling, workshops, and reading books together.

If your partner refuses to embark on a learning journey with you, then it is clear that this relationship will not change. At this point, you need to either fully accept it as it is or leave it. It will not become the relationship you want it to be unless both of you are open to learning.

If one or both partners remain in the intent to protect, the relationship will not heal. Yet most relationships can be healed when both people are deeply devoted to learning about loving themselves and each other.

Answer 2

For most people the "forever factor" is just beginning to sink in at this point. It is not wise to rule out the possibility of divorce completely in any relationship. But at 6 years most couples still face a number of crucial stages of compatible growth and mutual awareness that are key factors in defining the level of unity that can be reached. Usually these issues are played out, for most, by the 10th year.At that point if the relationship has survived your chances of divorce are greatly reduced.Communication and Honesty are the most important ingredients for a successful marriage.Hold both in high regard at all times.A lifelong relationship can't be achieved otherwise. Always keep tolerance and compassion referenced one unto the other and never turned back to back because walking away doesn't solve anything it only puts distance between you.Bridges are harder to build than bonds.Bonds can only be built together! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

Let's get back to principles here. Divorce is a "last resort" scenario. Marriage counselling and other programs are available. Do you know the reason for witnesses? Marriage is a binding contract to stay together FOR LIFE. Remember the words "till death due us part". Often divorce is an easy escape for most. Rather than dealing with their problems, they just run away from them.
Don't get me wrong there are situations where divorce is necessary, but very few divorces are classified legitimate.
Remember it is not an option, but a LAST RESORT!

Peace

Matt

Answer 4

Not sure what you're asking. Do you need to split? Is it going right for you? Have kids? There is no reason to stay if he's not in the relationship. Time together doesn't matter. The chances of divorce are always the same. That depends on you. That depends on him. It takes two to stay together. When it's right, it seems you can stay together an eternity. You wouldn't be asking questions like this.

Answer 5

Divorce can happen any time I know a couple that split after 15 years.
Over ½ of marriages eventually end in divorce.

I’m thankfully to have some decent role models in my life for when I get married one day.

Answer 6

yes there is but by the same token there isn't if your happy then keep doing what your doing and if your getting to the unhappy part well it just the way it is a marriage means two people that love and respect each other when that goes it stops being a marriage so if you are at your 6th and happy then keep enjoying it and stop thinking if its ever going to be over i lost it after 7 yrs my grandparents after 30 so you never know i guess the question is after how long of being unhappy do u say that's it i quit.

Answer 7

Divorce is possible whether you've been married 6 years of 16 years. Divorce becomes a reality as soon as one of both people involved stop investing into the relationship.

Answer 8

The chance is either high or low regarding how your relationship is currently. Just keep in mind that people in a relationship are not meant to accept each other in everyway, compromise is what keeps couples together.

Answer 9

6 months, 6 years, 26 years there is always a chance...

Answer 10

of course,a large chance 4 divorce will b there if u can't understand each other.but it can lose if u can keep your couple carefully.O.K