am 17 years old, friendly and I smile a lot, and on random situations where there are a ton of people I can be a little bit shy. The only guys that ask me out are guys that come into my job and are older and creepy, or a group of guys that are jerks like saying "oh look at you hottie, you fine piece of ***" as they said a few days ago. It sickens me and makes me feel like crap. I was dressed in loose black slacks and a t-shirt. Nothing revealing at all. I almost feel like all guys are like that. I have had a few guys ask me out, but it just didn't work out. My guy friends and male co-workers tell me I am beautiful (but always end up going out w/ another gal), which I don't feel at all and I have a horrible self-image b/c of this, which I know I shouldn't let the way guys approach/don't approach me affect my self-esteem..but after a while it does, . I am a Christian and I plan on saving myself until marriage, which I know isn't too "cool" to most guys. What's wrong with me?
2006-09-22 20:03:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Also, when I am interested in a guy, like I am now, I am friendly to him, but I tend to stay aloof because I don't want him to know that I like him if I'm not sure he likes me. I basically act like I don't like the guys I do actually like b/c I'm too afraid of rejection!! Is that a problem to most guys....if you think a girl doesn't like you.....do you even pursue her??!!! THANKS!!! :)
2006-09-22 20:05:12 · update #1
The good news: you are smarter than most 17 year olds when it comes to guys. Also, saving yourself for marriage is an excellent idea and you are not alone...
The bad news: some (not all!) guys your age are a bit less mature than girls of the same age, so they have even less confidence than you do.
If you like a guy, make it a little more obvious than you have been. Or, if you are seriously brave, you can ask HIM out.
Stay away from the older creepy guys, and never date anyone you work with - you will totally regret it.
Final thought: you will meet some really nice guys in the future because you are a nice person and deserve it. The trick is identifying the good guys from the bad guys.
Good luck, and don't rush things.
2006-09-23 01:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by carole0103 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically my feeling is, if it is this complicated, then it isn't meant to be. Meaning that if getting a guy to like you, call you, want to date you and want to be your boyfriend becomes an extremely complicated thing, then f'em. Don't even bother. Most guys are sleazy and scummy. But there are good guys out there, and you'll meet them - probably not randomly, but through friends, work, school etc. And don't EVER settle. Most guys who will hit on you randomly will not be quality. And it has nothing to do with YOU that's just the way things work. You need to find other ways to meet guys.
2006-09-22 20:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like a guy n u don't want him to know,jus take it as a friend,,from there it'll take its course,,and if you wanna safe it until marriage,, if a decent guy would know it thru body language,
just go on a date n tell him that you've curfew time to go back home,,so this guy wld be impress that you're a decent type of gal,,
2006-09-22 20:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by aloysius17429 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"What is my problem" IS this your problem? Could be the area you live in. Just because there are people, does not guarantee there is a person compatible with you.
Breathe ^_~
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2006-09-22 20:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you...don't force the issue, you will meet someone in time and both of you will know when it clicks.
2006-09-22 20:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the enviroment your in. nothings wrong with u i guess
2006-09-22 20:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Prevent Animal Cruelty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing
2006-09-22 20:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING
2006-09-22 20:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by ~♥~ *CHEEKY* ~♥~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋