the problem is that this lady 21years old is living with her mom 4 d last few years, she knows her dad but he had left them few years ago,now hes back staying with them, trying 2 controle n change thr life(outing,frnds,work,style,..etc),she is not accepting the fact n doesnt like the way he is controling, no way 4 talkin n discusing things with him or even living by her own..how can i help her as a frnd? wht im supose 2 tel her? i cant change her life but at least let her accept the fact n deal with it..moreover we r not stayin in d same city anymore.. how can i comfort her n gv her d strength to handle this..
note: she is stubern, has her own strong caracter and she is a leader
2006-09-22 19:35:21 · 9 answers · asked by elena s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
commeting 2 ur answers i wana add
she cant live by her own, we r in an arab country n that is not a solution here..
she stands up 4 herself but when a frnd cals u with voice ful of sadness n hopless u gota do somethn abt it n say somthn comforting..she might b strong n a leader but we all human beings and needs suport and someone 2 believe in us
2006-09-22 22:30:56 · update #1
If you are at a loss, just be a freind by being a shoulder to cry on.
2006-09-23 03:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by cavetarzan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is scared to make that move. She may seem a leader in your eyes but that doesn't mean that shes got the strength to tell her dad what she thinks and stand up for herself..
The thing is, he is a figure of authority and as much as he's been there and left I guess she still feels a sense of respect for him.
She will stand on her own two feet eventually, just be there when she does she will need all the support you as a friend can give her.
2006-09-22 20:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although she a woman of 21 and would likely be living on her own in other countries, if the customs where she lives are so that she remain with her parents (who probably own the dwelling and pay most of the expenses) then she should follow the reasonable wishes of her parents for the sake of family harmony. Two possible solutions to her situation is to go live with loving relatives OR to seek out a husband who can provide her with a nice lifestyle. It's good of you to be a friend that she can confide to.
2006-09-28 21:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept it? are you crazy she is 21 she should be able to do as she pleases and God forbid anyone she control any other person.
no do not let anyone ever control you
parent or not respect for the position they hold in your life but as far as runing your life in any manner.... no not just no but hell no
they have thier lives and should try controling themselves for change usually people that fail at controling themselves or the personal life go to others and try controling others for they have failed themselves.
2006-09-22 19:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your friend is 21 and you say she is a leader, tell the leader to get her own place and everything will be fine...
2006-09-22 19:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her to live with you? Encourage her to save some money to get out on her own? No one should have to endure a miserable existence.
2006-09-22 19:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's as you say with a strong character stubborn and has leading tendencies where do you come in i would think she quite able to solve her problem her own way
2006-09-22 22:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to get out and find a flat share, she is possibly in the way of her parents now.
2006-09-22 19:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your opinion and thoughts to your self...show and give her empathy...and do not open your mouth and give her advise.....only help her if asks for it. okay.
2006-09-22 19:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Leo.S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋