I think grass is only greener on the other side? or you can really find someone who you are happy with and with who you feel the love!
2006-09-22 19:22:13 · 16 answers · asked by preity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How does the old saying go...oh yea you learn for you mistakes...or all mistakes through a marriage. but don't settle for the first thing that says "I love you".its time to be more selective
2006-09-22 20:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by jennyboughn1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married twice, this ones a keeper. I dont think its a grass is greener on the other side thing, first time i was 20 and this time i was 40 when i got married and have only know my husband for the last 13 years our 3rd anniversary is this month the 27th, so he had nothing to do with mine nor I with his divorce. Im way more happier now, and i think, things just happen for a reason...I feel the love from my man, but i'll still sell him on ebay to the lowest bidder, he snores.....
2006-09-23 02:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I dont think people go into marriage with the idea of divorce resulting. They go into the marriage with love and ideals usually.
Is the grass greener on the other side? No, maybe and yes. The fact is its 'different'.
Yes, you really can find someone youre happy with and the marriage doesnt end in divorce.
2006-09-23 02:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married from 1988 to 1991, I thought everything was good. She got pregnant by another man, she lied and I hung in there till he turned 1 and a half. I was willing to deal with it till she wanted me out, so I left. In 1994 I got remarried, what I learned from the first marriage was what commitment meant to me. How through her faults that she was loved unconditionally. I learned that you have to know when to listen (really listen) and not to judge. I learned when to be a man and take charge of the relationship and when let her do what she needed to do. In my second marriage I learned how to love and be loved (there is a difference). What I mean by that is my wife does not love the way I do we are two different people she grew up different than I did. I've learned how to shut up and when to speak up. I learned alot in my first marriage. But the most important thing I learned was to be there for that person 24/7 whatever it is I am there. I have been remarried for 12 years now and I can honestly say I will be there for another 12 and I am VERY VERY HAPPY.
2006-09-23 03:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by rjsr40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship is different. Just because something didn't work out in one and you got divorced doesn't mean a second marriage will go the same way.
I was married and divorced and although not remarried, I've been with my man almost 9 years, longer than my first marriage. I consider this a marriage even though we don't have the paperwork. The relationship is wonderful.
2006-09-23 02:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I divorced my ex and married my current husband and the grass was greener on the other side...yes it isnt always rosey but I would rather live with him than my ex...it was the best decision I have and ever will made....I am so happy now and even my kids are happy and so much more adjusted I thank God for him...
2006-09-23 02:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by tinker143 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think things would be better after getting remarried because you obviously learned
from your past marriage what you don't want in
a relationship.You know what to look for in the
next person.For example all the things you
wish your ex had done or not done.
2006-09-23 02:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am actually on my second marriage and I really hope my last. I think this time has been much better for me. it really depends on what the issues were in the previous marriage. I think you should look at all new relationships as a new beginning. you can't hold you current responsible for damaged caused by a relationship gone bad. Just always remember... NEW RELATIONSHIP AND NEW BEGINNING...
2006-09-23 02:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by timidlady2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes we just are not compatible with the people we fall inlove with when we are younger. We usually fall inlove with that person because of shallow reasons anyways, and instead of reasoning and weighing all the pro's and con's we just go for it! It usually doesnt work out the way we dreamed it would, so I believe it may work out a second time around because you have experience from the first.
2006-09-23 02:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by cherablkbuttafly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is impossible in life. I just feel awkward remarrying someone who i have broken up with and has been used by someone else. There are some things i don't go back to the pawnshop to buy back, after someone has bought, used and returned. i hope u get my point.
2006-09-23 02:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋