I do not like touching people's hand or people standing behind me...why do u think I feel like this?

Answer 1

First of all, let me say that for somebody with professional experience, the guy with the long answer here should know that making a diagnosis like that based on such little information is ridiculous and uncalled for. I agree that you should see somebody, but i hardly think you have a germ phobia yet. My girlfriend doesn't like people standing behind her either and like one of the other people who spoke above, she likes to sit in corners where she can see the entire room. I soon found out that these are childhood protective maneuvers that she acquired as a result of the abuse inflicted on her by people in the past. She still does not like people standing behind her, but it doesn't interfere with her life. She just makes sure she knows what's going on behind her if somebody has to stand in line behind her or something. Not wanting to touch people's hands may be a phobia but it is certainly not on the same level as some of the other possible diagnoses that the idiot behind me was talking about. You're not paranoid, you're not schizophrenic. Nothing like that. Many people have phobias, from spiders to clowns. It becomes a disorder when it interferes with your life and it doesn't sound to me like it does. I would suggest speaking with a psychologist for one session, maybe two - so that they can figure out where your fear of touching people's hands stems from. It doesn't sound too debilitating from the way you describe it (vaguely). Whatever you do don't freak out. It's likely a small problem that can be sorted out with a little help. Good luck.

Answer 2

Unfortunately I would have to warn you and say these are signs of a psychosocial disorder. I hope that does not scare you, it is not meant too. I do feel that knowing what is happening to you is half the battle. Of course this is just a personal opinion of mine, but it is based on some professional experience I have had over the years. You really should seek out some professional help. In this syndrome there are a few times in life where it will become more prominent then at other times. Childhood rarely exposes the syndrome entirely but there may be some evidence that is just not recognized at the time. Adolesence is another lifetime stress period where this can frequently become obvious enough to express itself and be identified. However, if not really seen before usually the period around 30 years old,"Young Adulthood" is the stressful period where it makes it appearence most strongly. Paranoia, and obsession with germs, are only some of the manifestations that can make this syndrome obvious to the person afflicted and those loved ones around them who notice the changes being made over the course of days and weeks. There are drugs available and also therapy to help you understand and cope with this. If you saw the recent movie about Howard Hughes ( The Aviator) you can see in a very graphic way how he slowly deteriorated from the brilliant young man he was into the terrible recluse he became. Of course movies are not always very accurate. Back then there were no meds available, and Mr. Hughes had very little understanding of the process either. Many people who experience this also reject the notion of taking drugs for relief, but that must be something you would have to consider with a therapist. Although psychological in nature, there is more and more evidence of this disease being a very physical condition usually associated with the restriction or excess of some neurological transmission hormones in the body. Good luck with this, and I hope you do find yourself someone to guide you with this situation.

Answer 3

i used to be like that and i ended up washing hands with betadine solution like 7 times a day ! i don't know if it's an anxiety disorder. try thinking the reasons why you do that. is it a germ problem ? what do you think people will do if they stand behind you. search causes and find results. Only the causes why you act like this will show whether it's a matter of a disorder, or you are just the way you are.

Answer 4

I don't know but I feel exactly the same way. I think I dislike touching people because of the possibility of transferring germs, especially on their hands. But I can't explain why I hate people standing behind me. It just gives me the heebie jeebies, and the longer they stand behind me, the worse I get.

Answer 5

Personal space... I am the same way. I don't like shaking hands with people I don't know, and really hate it when people greet me hugging. As for behind the back, ditto. I want to see what people are doing and saying. Probably a trust issue.

Answer 6

You feel this way because you don't like touching people's hands nor people standing behind you.

Answer 7

You may feel insecure, have a phobia about germs, feel your personal space is being violated, or any number of other things. If it doesn't interfere with leading an ordinary life, don't worry too much about it, it's just personal preference. If it does start to interfere with your daily living, seek out a good behavioral psychologist who can help you deal with the situation.

Answer 8

I don't think this is abnormal at all. Think of it this way, if you did that to an animal, take a dog for instance, it might fear you or snap at you. Nobody likes their personal space invaded. Some of us (like myself) feel that not everyone is as clean as me and I fear getting sick, so i don't like touching other people or things they have touched. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

Answer 9

It is a defensive response to too many guilt feelings most of which you may have forgotten. There are two options , one is to find out each of your childhood traumas and associated guilt feelings - a time consuming and wasteful procedure, the other is to use suggestion s to buildup self confidence and self acceptance

Answer 10

I don't like shaking people's hands, because most people don't wash their hands often. I don't like people behind me either, don't trust them. I also don't like sitting with my back to doors at restaurants and such, I like to see who's coming in and what's going on. Nothing wrong with being aware.