i heard my parents fighting after a back to school night and found out that i had incompletes on nsome of my home work assignments. i havent completed them cuz my frend killed herself a week ago and i am being blackmailed. its very hard to concentrate. my parents dont kno about the suicide or the blackmail but htey think i should see a psychiatrist. Oh and my frend thinks she should go see a shrink cuz shes all depressed and her sister was in a mental hospital for a while and it scares the **** outta her. what should we do?
2006-09-22 18:42:47 · 14 answers · asked by tiklemekelmo 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Go see the shrink. If nothing else it will get your parents off your back.
:o)
Jerry
2006-09-22 20:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're having a bad luck streak in dancing school. And I'm sorry to hear it- because I've been there & done those. But the bottom line IS, it sounds like you DO need someone on the "outside" of your situation to talk too, and a head doctor is just as good as any. Don't automatically "ditch" the idea because your parents suggested it- or because it means you must be a fry or two short of a Happy Meal. That Drs. job is to LISTEN to YOU- & find out what the heck is stressing you out- NOT to make a report to your Superiors. Take the plunge & take a chance. -At the very least, it'll get your parents off your back for awhile. Good luck to you.
2006-09-22 19:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the faster you will accept that you have problems the better you are going to feel about things happening around you. I know, there is a kind of taboo to go to a therapist and so you don't really want to do it. But they are just experts who know how to handle emotions and they help show us a direction. There is nothing wrong in going to a therapist at all. They try to show us things from a different perspective and to see your problems in a different light is always good, right? So go and tell the doc. your problems and you shall feel much lighter within. Its a good thing to find someone who truely wants to listen to you and help you sort out your life. Isn't that what you want, a kind of friend who listens to your problems and keeps it to himself. Try it....it will make you feel more relieved. Hope things work out for you well. Take care and be healthy. All the best!
2006-09-22 19:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by The Sorceress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh. first, repent of the crime that got you stuck in that blackmail gig. Then tell the athorities about the blackmailer and get that creep off yur back, and get a restraining order against him,her,or it. ESPECIALLY, come clean with your parents, they deserve the truth, and they will be more willing to help than anyone if you will open up.. Forget the shrink, they usually do more harm than good.. Talk to Jesus, He is real, and He is a better friend than anyone
2006-09-22 18:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by mr.phattphatt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your parents insist on you seeing a shrink ask to help select one that you would be comfortable. i agree with everyone else, tell your parents about the suicide and blackmail. the blackmail issue can be addressed with the police involvement if necessary and for the suicide, well you are grieving and need to have time to properly grieve
2006-09-22 18:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by mole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your parents. Tell it all to them. They care, they will help you as best as they can, which is probably alot more than you think!
As far as your school work is concerned, don't start making excuses, even such serious ones as "my friend killed herself." I'm not saying it's not true, I'm saying don't let yourself become permanently immersed in it, and use it as an excuse forever.
Doing your homework might help get your mind off things!
Please, talk to your parents. Yes, you may eventually need to get some professional help, but that would be farther down the line, if at all....
Talk to your parents, tell them everything! You'll be glad you got it off your chest.
2006-09-22 18:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by marsminute 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Experiencing both a suicide and blackmail are two extremely traumatic events. The combination of two events like these has led many sane and normal adults to complete breakdowns. Add to that the stress of your teenage years and you have a recipe for disaster. Go see the psychologist - it definately won't hurt, and it will probably help you to talk about your problems. Plus, it will show your Mom that you respect and trust her, and improve your relationship.
2006-09-22 18:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by karkov48 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should see a therapist for the things you mentioned. Just so you can talk to someone who is not directly involved. Doesn't hurt. If someone is blackmailing you, they plan to tell on you anyways because you are not always going to allow it. One day you won't be able to take it anymore. Might as well tell on yourself because the guilt is what will hurt you not what other people think of you.
2006-09-22 18:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by pyt_tlc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with your parents and talk with them about what's going on. They will be more understanding if you do and will help you work through a terrible time in your life.
Your friend should talk to her parents about her depression. Depression does "run" in families and she could have been unlucky enough to actually have it. An appointment with her family doctor would be good for her.
2006-09-22 18:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by moekittykitty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
noone here can really tell you what to do, given we can't know exactly what the situation is. I strongly believe you should talk to your parents about all these things that are pretty serious.Parents should be your friends.Otherwise, anything you do at this point would confuse things more. It's imperative to talk to your parents and explain everything.They are there to protect you.And i think protection is what you need. best of luck...
2006-09-22 18:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋