He was my childhood sweetheart, my best friend, father of my two children and my soul mate. We were married for 13 years, but he got involved in cocaine, and so I left. It's been 19 years, he remarried had two kids, but divorced three years later. I remarried five years ago, but never got over him (my ex). We've stayed in contact over the years, and he's asked me to meet him (to talk) several times, but I always turned him down, because I didn't want to hurt my husband (he's extremely jealous of him). Anyway, for the past two weeks, my ex has called me, and he keeps telling me how much he loves me and misses me, and he says he can see through my soul, and knows I still love him. He's not lying, but my present husband is not well, and needs my help to care for him. I'm confused, my heart wants to run back into my ex's arms, but on the other hand, how can I leave the man that needs my help. I just turned 50, so I'm not getting any younger. I'm confused.
2006-09-22 18:33:21 · 5 answers · asked by Nor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ya know,I went thru the same stuff with my first husband. We were married 22yrs and are both remarried now. He asked me to come back a few times and at first I gave into him. But things would get bad again. Of course you still love him because he was your first love and you have children together. It hurts real bad,I know. BUT..you are remarried now and your present husband needs you and loves you. And you are now committed to him. Your first husband should have thought of it when he was pushing that coke up his nose. Remain friends with your Ex..but don't go back..Get on with your life. He will be ok.Don't let him interfer in your relationship now. It would not be fair to your husband now. I just moved away from my ex..I do not even talk to him unless it is about our kids. Get on with your life girl..Life is too short. None of us are getting any younger. Good Luck
2006-09-22 18:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should stand by your now husband. I think leaving him now after he has stood with you this long would be wrong. Could you live with yourself if you actually left your husband in such a time of need? This is one of those times when being selfish would be cruel. Try and hang in there... There will be a reward for you in the end for being selfless. Best wishes!!!!
2006-09-23 02:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by timidlady2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first concern should be your present husband. Live up to your vows. Follow your head........NOT your heart.
He has no right to come into your life. You have a husband.
2006-09-23 01:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget the coke addict and stay with your husband he needs you sis he is not getting any younger either
2006-09-23 01:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to care for your husband, and it is OK to fool around too. Your choices don't need to be mutually exclusive.
2006-09-23 01:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by sanambrosio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋