a marriage can continue without sex?

Question

There are some people keeping marriages without any intercourse like hiv patients' spouse. I have seen one couple who
have not had any intercourse or sexual contact keep successful
marriages. They said their love was platonic. In addition a very famous writer(I am sorry I forgot the name) said that he had never had any sexual contact with his wife. but, they respected each other. what about you? Do you think that your marriage can continue without a intercourse? or those people not having any intercourse have a psycological problem/trauma? Not having intercourse crazy?

Answer 1

Ha ha ha ha My own marrage has been sexless for almost 8 years. We will be married for 40 years soon. She told me she had died from the waist down after taking medication for depression. I was not shocked to find that out as it is one of the side effects from the newer anti-depressant drugs. (not all of course, but Effexor is particularly bad about that. Paxil also has that potential too. Wellbutrin, another type of antidepressant, is supposed to be the only drug truly known to stimulate libedo. So go figure.) Researching this I found out that about 20% of all marriages in Amaerica have become almost sexless. This is not always the woman's problem either... Sex will sustain a relationship for usually about 18 months if nothing else is found by the couple to bind them together socially. Therefore, even the best sex has only a limited potential for a lifetime together. The couple must find what else they have in common. The average couple married or just cohabitating in the USA have sex about 57 times a year. Just a bit more then once a week. Contrary to popular belief married people have more sex, then single people not cohabitating. The ones who remain married longer usually married for the first time between the ages of 22 and 27. Marrying earlier or later puts stress into the relationship. If children are part of the marriage to soon it will often split them apart faster too. However, waiting more then 7 years to have kids will also put a serious stress on the relationship as well. So marriage frequently has much less sex then most people are willing to admit. However, sex and romance are not equal. Sex is usually part of romance, but if used without romance it can be a tool to use or manipulate people, or be even an adictive situation where the person is striving to relieve some inner conflict or feeling of inadaquacy..The happiest people are those who are not looking out for themselves, but are interested in others. Here is where the giving brings the reception of what really makes us happy and self satisfied. Of course sex can be a great part of that, but frequently it is much more. Where you respect yourself, love yourself, and enjoy who you are and what you have become as you journey through this life. Pursuing happiness is hard work, but when you care for others first, happiness lights on your shoulder like a butterfly, which was the most commonly found picture scrawled on the walls of consentration camp barracks during the holocaust. Real happiness may include sexual intimacy, but it is not interchangeable with it, and is usually only a small part of is real happiness. Lord knows I go online to find what I still need sexually, but it is not what brings me real happiness in this world. However, I have not yet died from the waist down, and my vow was until death do us part.

Answer 2

I'm not the type of person to advise some one to cheat on their husband so I'm going to tell you what I think about the situation. As much as your husband says he's off on business trips for work how can you really be sure? The way he's grown apart from you isn't simply by out of the blue and he might be having affairs outside the marriage. If that turns out to be true you have to ask yourself whether or not you'll regret stooping to his level and cheating as well. Imagine what that will do to your marriage if he finds out. Are you ready to deal with the fallout? That being said try talking to him again about the concerns you have in your marriage. Be honest with him and even admit to being tempted by a younger man due to the lack of intimacy between you two. You shouldn't be punished for your truthfulness especially since you haven't done anything wrong. Yet. See what your husband says. If he's not the least bit outraged or upset it might be because he's been feeling the same. But if he does admit to having affairs think about what that will do to your marriage and family. Are you willing to stay with him despite is infidelity? And be prepared just in case that he wants to end it once the truth does come out. I can only hope that he's not being unfaithful since 15 years of marriage is a lot to throw away and that your admission will open his eyes to everything he's about to lose if he doesn't take more interest in your relationship. And if your marriage should sadly end then try dating your younger man, especially since he won't be as much of a rebound since you already have feelings for him and he for you. HTH :)

Answer 3

I'd say it's possible, but unhealthy. Afterall, that's how the "2 becomes 1". There is an intimate bonding between husband and wife when sex occurs. This intimacy is supposed to be reserved for your spouse only, not with any other #$#@%... Since we all have needs, if one does not want to satisfy the spouse, it will surely lead to adultery sooner or later.

Answer 4

Of course. Marriage is not all about sex and it makes me mad that some think that way. You can have a wonderful relationship with a husband or wife without having intercourse.
You see old people... they do not do it.
My great grandparents are still together and I really hope that they don't get jiggy with it.

Answer 5

I think there are many marriages that continue without sex.

Mine, for instance.

I don't like it, and I'm not happy about it, but I don't want to have sex with my wife if she's not into it.... and ever since about 2 years after we were married, she was no longer 'into it.'

It would be different if she wanted to, but there was some physical or medical impediment that made it not happen. She just doesn't want to.

For some marriages, that can work out just fine.

For me, it sucks.

Answer 6

Marriage is more than sex. Its a deeper understanding of each other. Of course marriage can last with out sex. Sex is not what holds a marriage together.

Answer 7

As my Mom would say: "Sex is a small, albeit important part of a marriage but you need more than sex to keep a relationship together"

Answer 8

Those people aren't in romantic love.
Sexual desire MUST exist in romantic love because that's the only think that differentiates romantic love and friendship love.

People with HIV can have sex, that's what condoms are for.

Answer 9

damn can i ever be platonic...well i can after having someone long enough ...lol
ummm! interesting facts there that u put on...i never thought that thing existed...well maybe wat i said above be the reason...they had enough & raise themselves to a higher level of love..Thats care & harmony in each others company..satisfing the want to the soul , thats what one needs in the end...just to know that someone will alway be there for you
love reigns

Answer 10

I think some can but I'm not one of them I love having sex