So there is this girl Ashley...And she is in a relationship with another girl named Coty and Ashley is crazy about her!!! But I thought Ashley was really attractive so I went after her and now Ashley has been messing around on Coty with ME! Normaly I would be happy to kinda get the person I want but Iam not...Because whenever me and Ashley are together all she talks about is how much she likes Coty! If she likes her so much why is she messing around with me??? Ashley says she likes me but then why does she do that?
I think Iam just being used as a screw buddy or something! I hate being the other women! It sux!
I guess I just can't let myself get too close to Ashley....But I really care for her so I can't stop messing around with her....I don't know what to do....
2006-09-22 18:05:39 · 23 answers · asked by Faye 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Iam the ONLY person she has ever cheated with....
2006-09-22 18:11:05 · update #1
It seems like you have it all figured out already, move on & find a chick who's into only you!
2006-09-22 18:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by KatieJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love should be respectful of yourself and of your partner. Stealing her from Coty was not respectful of either Ashley or Coty, and living in a situation where you can only "mess around" in secret is not respectful of yourself either. That's why this hurts.
You were wrong to go after somebody who was already involved, and you're feeling it now. End it. And if she and Coty break up, remember, even if it was only with you, Ashley is a cheater, why would you want her?
2006-09-23 02:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can see that you're being used. If Ashley keeps putting you through these emotions, its not worth it. I know its great to be with her, but think about how bad it is to only be half-way with her, listening to the Coty stories! If she can't decide, you should just walk away. If you are supposed to have her, she'll come back, but I'd beware. If she can cheat on her dear Coty, she may just cheat on you!
2006-09-23 02:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ha Ha! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what to DO? When your girlfriend admits that she cheats on you? You consult a doctor about what you can do to protect yourself from whatever diseases she might have picked up while she was cheating on you. Also, give some thought to a platonic relationship. If Ashley really like you for who you are and not just for being a silver tongued devil, she will still hang out with you. If not, cut her loose and try your luck elsewhere. Best wishes!
2006-09-22 18:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by wo_manifest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to ask yourself, what are you looking for in life? If you just want to have fun, you have the perfect non-faithful screw buddy. But if you are looking for a permanent relationship with a woman who will love you, only you, and respect and treat you as you deserve...it's not Ashley. I suggest you keep looking. True love is out there, hard to find sometimes but worth it in the end. Good luck.
2006-09-23 02:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It either seems that she's got an interest in you or she's made use of you to incite jealousy with her girlfriend. Personally I feel that she's unable to make up her mind whether she prefers you or her girlfriend. Perhaps she doesn't want to stick to one and limit her choices, or maybe she's just flirting for fun. Whatever the reasons, it's better you draw a line between both of you. If you really care for her, stay away from her 'messing around'. Because she most probably doesn't even know what she's doing now.
2006-09-22 20:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by rexie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used, and this is not the type of person you could ever trust. If she were an honest person, she would have broken it off with the other girl before messing with you. You have seen her character firsthand, do you need more proof? And furthermore, with the tactics you used to get her, did you think she would be someone worthwhile? Did you think someone nice could be gotten in this way? Anyone you get like that won't be worth having, dear. Try a more innocent approach toward someone who is actually single and you may find someone worthwhile.
2006-09-22 18:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You MAY be the first she's cheated with, but probably not the last. Yes, you are a screw buddy. You sound like a 12 year old, as well.
2006-09-22 19:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One a scale of 1 to 10; ten being the highest, where do you fit in as loving and respecting yourself. If your number is closer to 1; gee continue to be used. If closer to 10; get out of the relationship quickly. By the way, I think you already know the answer to your question. Reread it again!
2006-09-22 18:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that since it is obvious that you have a conscience and are bothered by the fact that she is cheating on her girlfriend with you, you deserve way better than someone who IS using you and will only try to fill her own selfish desires. Better cut your losses and get out while you can-a nasty love triangle is not what a quality gal like you needs.
2006-09-22 18:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by BooBadly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's cheating with you-why do u even want her? Why would u want to get involved with a cheating loser? You need someone that's your's and nobody else's! I would freak if i even thought my g/f was even thinking about cheating on me-but if she did i would have no problem getting out of the picture! I don't believe in cheating-if your not happy with who ur with-first break up- then persue someone else!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-23 09:59:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋