Don't get me wrong, our sex life is pretty good, but when it comes to experimenting with almost anything, she is pretty much against it.
iI'm not talking about jumping into full on bondage, but I'm looking for something new to spice it up a little.
She doesnn't seem to have any interest in adult movies. We have watched them before, but they seem to turn her off more than they turn her on. She won't even think about letting me try the back door. Facials are off limits. It seems that we always have to do it on the bed because she is afraid that someone will see us threw a window or a door. I am never forceful when I ask her about trying new things, but when I suggest any of the things above I am instantly shot down.
For some reason, she is very reserved and conservative when it comes to this. Does anyone have any ideas of how to get her to open up? Is there anyone who used to be like this that has taken that step to the next level
2006-09-22 17:57:01 · 11 answers · asked by . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating isn't an option, so please don't reccomend it. This isn't something that is hurting our relationship, but I was hoping to expand and grow in this area.
2006-09-22 18:08:45 · update #1
Give it up dude and bang her within her comfort zone. If you just go for a really good time in all ways traditional it will be incredible for you and her. Talk to her....or just work on more discreet fun ideas and present them to her with her permission. It will all work out if you allow it...step up the regular mind blowing stuff and youll both be satisfied.
2006-09-22 18:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried toys? >:P
find some fun non-scary ones, that have her pleasure, in mind at first. Suprise her with one sometime, and if that goes over well, then maybe she'll want to step it up a notch, when she sees how much fun it can be, to be a bit "naughty". Also, find things that drive her crazy, like erogenous zones and stuff. If you work on those things, it will help her relax more for love-making. Make sure she is having orgasms too, and not just faking. That is usually what makes a girl a sex kitten, if she experiences the power of an orgasm done correctly, and consistently. Also make sure she's not experiencing any health probs (and or pain) she might not be telling you about! Good luck, I hope you have fun coming in your future! ;)
2006-09-23 01:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Reserved and conservative"? So what? Spice it up by how you play her. Change the rhythm. Do some teasing moves like up against, change the angle and slide suddenly outside, like you missed. Then miss another way. Then another. Then another. Then don't miss and suddenly plunge deeply in.
Get out a Bible and start reading in Song of Solomon (also called Song of Songs) and make notes before hand. Then bring your face between her legs and if she complains tell her its in the Bible (and of course you've looked up where and what it says). Then ask her things like "What is this garden that Solomon was drinking from? I bet its down here.... What is this fragrence Solomon spoke of? I bet its down here." Things like that. Fondle her breasts and say, "Solomon was wrong, he said they were like two young deer, but yours are more like...." Have her on top and say it is in the Bible and bounce her good and when her breasts start flopping say, "Yeah, it is just like shaking a palm tree and you shake so beautifully".
Once you got that going, then there is all those extra excuses to put her in different angles in order to drink from the garden to see that belly like a lump of wheat, etc. Then you can move up to where Isaac was seen "sporting" with Rebecca in a garden--I can't wait to see what happens when she finds some heavy fondling done out of doors is in the Bible too.
2006-09-25 18:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She probably has emotional hang ups and probaly thinks these things are wrong . She probably has never realy talked too much to other girls about sex is like except .She probably heard all about sex from bible studies course. .Tell your buddys who have girlfriends about this . Have there girlfriends shoot the **** about kinky stuff in front of her .Girls can talk way dirtier about there men than vice versa . Take advantage of that fact .If she hears a woman saying damm it was hot when elroy spanked my derreir when we do it doggy style it will work better than anything you can say .
2006-09-23 01:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try a small vibrator, there's one called a pocket rocket. It's about 4" long but not meant to be inserted vaginally but will do a great job of stimulating her and introducing her to new things. If she likes it, she may let you try other toys. It opened a few doors for me, but not the back one.
2006-09-23 01:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to talk to you about her hidden fantasies. Every woman has one. If she doesn't open up, make some suggestions. Buy her a sexy nighty. Make her feel sexy and sensual. She might have some issues with her self image. The whole key to a wonderful sex life is communication.
2006-09-23 01:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by lovesux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend is going through the samething with his wife, hes considering cheating, i think they have been married for a year. maybe later on she will open up to the idea
well get dark blinds, or something.
2006-09-23 01:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An elevator will take you to the next level.
2006-09-23 01:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Duncarin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK WHY SHE IS AFFAIRD I WAS THAT WAY WHEN WE IST GOT MARRIED BUT MY HUSBAND KINDA JUST ASK FOR CERTAIN THINGS IN A WAY THAT MADE ME FILL LIKE DOING IT WAS AS MUCH FOR ME AS HIM I REMEMBER THE 1ST TIME WE MADE LOVE IN THE SHOWER I REMEMBER THINKING NO ONE CAN SEE CAUSE THE SHOWER CURTAIN IS PULLED AND THERE ARE NO WINDOW ANDTHE DOOR IS SHUT AND NO ONE WAS AT THE HOUSE SO NO ONE COULD HEAR IF I RELAXED AND ENJOYED GOOD LUCK PS PORN TURNED ME OFF FAST I FELT LIKE I MUST NOT BE DOING IT FOR HIM!! I FELT LIKE THEY GOT IN THE WAY OF US
2006-09-23 01:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex is pretty good. But apparantly not good enough?
Are you even married? If you want sex, that's available anywhere. If you want it with love, please respect her wishes.
2006-09-23 01:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋