I think my husband is cheating. I just found a conf. letter for room 222 in a local hotel room.?

Question

I cant see why he would need a hotel room in town. I also went into his recycle bin and found 4 deleted websites for female escorts in tennessee. he just got back from there. He said one of the guys at work must have done that. I have been hearing rumors all over that he is cheating with 2 women, not reliable sources though. i also found the name of a girl in his addresses for yahoo. i emailed her and she never responded. he has since sold his labtop. he also refuses to give me his cell bill

Answer 1

I'm really sorry to hear this. Don't let him get off the hook so easily - b/c guys are good for blowing it off. His decision to sell his computer and not give you phone bills is a big no no. Tell him that if he can't be open and honest with you, you guys need to separate.

If you are not ready for that, you should install one of those programs onto his new computer that tracks everything that he is doing. Also can you find a way to look at his phone bills online? Or even call the phone company in a light way and say if they could please send the last couple of bills because you misplaced them. Basically watch his every move for a while until you feel more comfortable confronting him.

But really he is trying to blow it under the ground and hoping you take it lightly. It's just like I asked my husband for his computer passwords for something else - and honestly - I really didn't want the doggone passwords - I wanted to see whether he would give them to me or not. The act of refusing and secrecy is the problem.

Answer 2

First: Do not confront him. There is no point to that. You need to work fast and you don't have time to waste arguing.

Make an appointment to get a full STD scan (including AIDS),

Also, make sure that all assets are in your name. Clean out the bank accounts. Get his name off docs such as rental agreement and your credit cards. Change your name -- go back to maiden name. (That makes it a lot easier to enforce a restraining order against him.)

Recognize the fact that you have go to start over. He is history. There is a good man out there for you -- but you won't find him until you get away from this jerk.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Look at this a different way. So he's cheating. Is he beating you? Do you love him? Is he a good provider? Would you be better off without him? Did you know that up until the past 50 years or so it's been perfectly acceptable, even encouraged to have a mistress? Try and look at the bright side of this. How is his affair affecting him? He probably appreciates you more, the sex is probably better and more frequent. Adult males are pinned to this rule of society that we have to be monogamous. This goes against our instinct. Going against an instinct causes negative issues. Allow him some freedom, maybe confront him that you don't mind so much as long as he doesn't fall in love or bring home a case of herpes.

Answer 4

Do you know if he's signed up on the internet with his cell phone company? If so do you know his password and stuff. I know on our Verizon wireless account it shows all the phone numbers made and how long they were for and what time they were made. I would definitely say something sounds funny about all this. I wish I could be of more help. If it were me I'd get the truth one way or another. If he ever wanted to get to sleep again, he'd tell me just to shut me up, but that's just me. I just wouldn't be able to sleep at night until I knew for sure. Good luck.

Answer 5

Yep, He's cheating. It looks like you've received some pretty good comments, I would just add this:

Communication is still the key, if he wont talk to you it may be time for a letter form your lawyer. That may open his eyes and if he has any feelings for you it may prompt him to be honest and go for counseling with you. If he does come clean and wants to keep the marriage going, give him one more chance.

Answer 6

well yes he is cheating . They all try to cover it up. Also wont let you see his cell phone bill?,honey that should have been your first clue . Call cheaters t.v. show they will find out and it won't cost you a thing except maybe a divorce and that would be all the better for you. You know getting rid of the bum!!! Good Luck I hope you find out what you need to find out.

Answer 7

That is a classic sign of pure guilt. He cheating. So pack his bags and kick him out. As the old saying goes once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 8

with all the proof you are coming up with and do have you need to one thing now.....sit your husband down and ask him to tell you the truth.......that no matter how it hurts you and yes im not gonna lie its gonna hurt if he confesses to cheating on you, but atleast you will know and wont have to go on wondering anymore. You tell him you want the truth and if he isnt willing to talk to you then you do what you need to do and tell him you are leaving him because you can no longer trust him.

You deserve a man who will respect you and be faithful to you......not run around cheating on you, getting online cheating on you and whatever else he might have done.....a real man doesnt do those things .... a real man loves his wife and respects her and stays loyal to her....that is what you deserve.

Who knows maybe if you get him to talk you will find out maybe he isnt cheating on you .....maybe there is another reason, but you wont know till you sit down and talk to him......so that is my advice here.......talk to your husband and have him talk to you about what is going on.

Good luck to you and Good Bless.

Answer 9

sorry if this seems harsh but what do you want us to say?of course he's cheating or theres at least a basis pointing in that direction you can either try and resolve this problem with councelling or you can consider divorce or you can not do anything and be really really miserable. in the end its your decision and no one else can make it for you.

Answer 10

he is cheating..you found all that you need to know that he is..question is, what now? the runors you have been hearing is proubly very true..just keep your eyes and ears open..why would he care for you looking at his cell bill if he wasnt hiding nuthing? all the cheating signs are there, dont cover your eyes and not see them...good luck...