People talk bad about me because of how I look?

Question

I'm not ugly, and I'm as fashionable as I can be in a small town, but you know how it is- I'm the butt of hot girl jokes, when a guy says something about hwo hot a girl is when really that girl is....not that hot and than they laugh about it. And I'm one of those girls. I also don't talk a lot....I'm just not that way. What can I do?? (no stupid answers, please)

Answer 1

Just hold your head up high and be proud of your appearance and individualism. It sounds like you take pride in your appearance and grooming, so that's a one up on a lot of people!

Most comments people make arise from their own insecurities or feelings of inferiority, however guys are guys and their comments might actually be contradictory to what they believe (ie - maybe the do in fact see you as a hotty!). You probably have more admirers than you think!

Answer 2

I used to have that too until untiI was about 16, I am 21 now and they queue up to talk to me!! If you are still young then there is LOTS of time to change and grow, and with the right products anyone can look hot. The guys that talk like that would make shallow and cr*p boyfriends anyway. I have since heard from guys that when they talk like that, it's the ones who arent sure of their own attractiveness and this just kind of takes the focus away from them if they diss someone else.
They probably dont even mean it about you in a personal way, and these guys opinions don't form the whole male populations tastes anyway.
Would you really want to be with someone that judemental? It sounds really encouraging that u are able to talk about it, I know I could'nt at the time, but the best thing to do is, if you EVER hear them, talking about a friend or you and your within earshot, walk over and say how minging and unattractive you think THEY are, and you dont even know why they bother when they know theyre such mingers themselves. Some thing along the lines of, pot calling the kettle black (do you say that in the US? it means being a hypocrite anyway)...........this whole thing centres around them fantasising they are Gods gift to everyone although they know its not true. Let them know your not interested, wouldnt touch them with a bargepole and you feel sorry for anyone they hit on. Its what they worst fear, and even if they say they dont find you attractive, the fact its coming from a girl will be enough.

I know you said you dont talk a lot but this attitude can come through even if you dont decide to confront them. Eitherway, let 'em know it's no love lost to you in some way.

Answer 3

I think you are overly sensitive to these hogs' comments. If they have to say these sorts of things to make each other laugh, they they probably can only exist socially with each other. Who wants pigs like these in your life? Stay as far away as possible from them. Any "hot" girl would certainly become frigidly cold when these jerks appear on the scene. What else could they expect?

As far as your looks, study yourself very intently and as truthfully as is possible. Improve what's not quite right and enhance what is really pretty good. Dress for success not for the low-life around you.

Get a hobby, a charity, or join a club and divert your attention. Those pigs don't need you to roll around in the mud!

Answer 4

Stop giving a crap what the popular tools think and say. Also... you can comfort yourself with the thoughts of how they will all end up either knocked up, as playboy centerfolds leading to an eventual sad movie of the week about addiction, failed relationships while looking for love, or a breif stint with cheesey pornography.

Or... better yet... they have their whole lifetimes ahead of them to get fat. All of the above happens to the best of them you know. Small towns don't take the beautiful ones all that far.

Stick your nose into your books, study hard, go to college preferably out of state and when you get there... everything will change for you, for the better.

You'll live through all of it long enough to get to see most, if not all of them in some clandestinely filmed "Girls gone wild." video. Or snuff film? Trust me... Time truly does heal all wounds. Life is too short to give a sh*it.

Karma is a beeatch hon and every dog has its day!


and remember this... if nothing else.

"You teach people how to treat you." Think about it!

Answer 5

People who feel the need to put down others in order to be cool are really insecure. I bet you have heard that a million times, and it probably doesn't help, does it. As much as we would all like to say something that will solve the problem, we really can't. But just know that we are pulling for you, and whatever those guys say, all of us who have answered your post think you are awesome! And adversity makes us strong, so once you get through this, you are going to be so strong that it will have been worth it.

Answer 6

Listen. Your day will come 'round, just wait. When I was going through puberty, I had broomstick-skinny legs(that mom would not let me shave) and doorknob knees. I was flat-chested, while all the other girls had already "bloomed". So, I've been right where you are. I had big feet, which made me extra self-conscious, and I was made to wear long skirts when all the other girls were wearing minis. I guess it wouldn't have mattered at the time, with my ostrich legs and all, but in around 3 years, things had changed and people stopped making fun of me. 'Cause it was finally my turn to "bloom". You turn will come. Just try to hang in there.

Answer 7

I really don't understand your question. If you want to change what the boys in a small town are saying about you all you need to do is ask the most decent one of them to perform oral sex on you. The jokes will either disappear completely or change completely. Either way life goes on and you grow up and move away.

Answer 8

May be the clothes you wear make you look funny. I mean to say may be they don't suit you and nobody will be wiiling to to tell you that. so I advise you ask any friend who is sincere and will tell you the truth even it hurts you whether whatever fashions you make or the clothes you wear suit you and they do not make you a laughing stock
If you look good in those clothes than you should ignore them as they are trying to hurt you because they cannot get what they want from you. Or may be you snubbed them as you say you are good.

So keep it up and continue to be good as in the past. Remember that you are being noticed and the boys who make fun are not worth to be your friends

Answer 9

Ignore them, but still be polite to them even though they're jerks. As hard as that may be... You sound like a nice person. That's all that matters. Don't change for anyone -- continue to be you.
And someday, you will go far and will have a great bf who will love you for you. Trust me, you're the more mature person here and that will benefit you in the end.

Answer 10

That's terribly a sign of ignorance when narrow minded people talk this way, You will rise above all of this put your best foot forward and this will make you into a better woman its only them that will suffer in the future when you develop into a proper and fine lady just watch and see I guarantee.