I'm getting old enough to start thinking about what I want to do with my life, and every new thing that I want to explore my mom won't take me seriously with and mocks me with bad jokes. I want to climb, I want to try dancing professionally, I want to try chocolate-making, I want to audition for more movies, I want to go on with my gymnastics and start competing professionally. But my mom WILL NOT take me seriously when I say these things and won't bother to help me get involved in these things. What can I do to get her to take me seriously about the things I want to do??
2006-09-22 17:19:46 · 16 answers · asked by when_it_happens 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Maybe you need to move along and start doing some of these things on your own.....when Mom sees how hard you are trying she may just get on the wagon and ride with you
2006-09-22 17:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, that kind of depends on how old you are. No offense intended at all, but all of these wishes seem rather juvenile (for lack of a better word). I know six year olds who will say in the same breath that they want to be ballerina, a movie star, do gymnastics, and bake a cake.
I think your interest in such a wide variety of activities is commendable, but perhaps your mother is acting that way out of exasperation. Not only are most of these possible endeavors most likely to be costly to her in one way or another, very few people manage to get themselves to a situation where the activity can go beyond a hobby to actually develop into a career.
Maybe you should try to narrow the list of activities you actively want to pursue, and come up with comprehensive plans that you can present to your mother that will help you pursue them. Of course, (and here, I'm assuming you're a ms or hs student) your education should be put first, and these extracurricular activities should be treated as such: extracurricular.
2006-09-23 00:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by caylinn1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please, do mention your age and weight, etc.
Maybe you are 14 and weight in at 245 lbs.
Can't answer this question without all the facts. You want to mountain climb, what shape are you in. Maybe mom knows that you wont even make it out of the car. Maybe your mom spent too much cash on your gymnastics and is broke. Climbing ain't cheap. Get older, get a job, and then do your own thing. Your mom's job is to make sure you graduate from high school. That's it. Get over it. Your grounded. It's not about what you wan' to do. It's about what MOM wants to do, ever think about that. You need to go to your room and study and shut up. Like she wants or even has the time to put up with your bs. She's probably working two jobs just to feed your little but and buy you your spoiled clothes you just have to have. At this point she ain't kickin in a couple hundred bones for you to go climbing.
2006-09-23 10:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is likely jealous. Some moms get that way.
Some of the stuff you could plausibly do at home, like the chocolate making. Once she sees you are having fun, have her help you. It might be the icebreaker you need. Just make sure to repeat that you plan on cleaning up after yourself many times, and then actually clean up after yourself. She may worry about that.
2006-09-23 00:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by emilystartsfires 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The 'things' that you've listed as 'what you want to do with your life' sound like things one would do with help from someone....not being 'independent'. She seriously doesnt want to push you and invest her time into something that you may not fully be interested in either.
Pick one, pick something and focus, invest some time and research and show real drive for it. You seem indecisive and maybe you yourself dont have any motivation behind chocolate making for example. ;)
2006-09-23 00:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, why is she not taking you seriously? have you given up or quit halfway through other things you've joined up for? there's two sides to every story and i doubt your mom is ignoring your requests to just be mean.
if you mother truly is not interested in helping you pursue your dreams, then pick the one that means the most to you and YOU find a way to pursue it.
many have done it entirely on their own. lets see how hard YOU are willing to work for what you dream of.
good luck!
2006-09-23 00:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to a family member, maybe an aunt or grandmother to get them to help. It sounds like your mom is scared of the fact that you are growing up.
2006-09-23 00:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her seriously and tell her about what you have to do to achieve your plans. You can have as many plans but takle them one by one. Tell her where you need her. You'll have to do most of the legwork and researching. Your mom's role will only be guidance and financial support.
2006-09-23 00:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Albert 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
START off with the things you can do. GET SUPPORT from teachers and others at school and your church. MY MOTHER has done the same thing to me. I HAD friends at school as well to support me. DO YOU HAVE a grandma?
2006-09-23 00:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Write her a letter from your heart and ask her to teach you and join in on your "learning process". Moms like that kinda stuff.
2006-09-23 00:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Chick with pets 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋