Im still having trouble!?

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im still having a little troble w/ telling my mom im pregnant. Do anyone have any ideas on how i can calmly tell her w/ out her totally freaking out.

I really need help please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

well first off honey how old are you? you can email me if you want...but im eighteen and pregnant and my mom and i are very close so i kept telling her before cuz i thought i was pregnant before i found out that i felt like i was and let her get used to the idea but i know how it feels because it wasnt my mom i had to be nervous about..it was my dad....so i just called him you could do this with your mom i called my dad and said dad we need to talk about something serious....(do not tell them over the phone! be an adult about it) and he was like are you ok ya know like whats wrong blah blah blah and i said dad we need to talk i am ok but we need to talk can you meet me at such and such place (my dad and i went to a restaurant he use to take me to when i was little, i live in a small town) and we ordered and then i said ok after i tell you your gonna be mad, your gonna be disappointed but remember that everything happens for a reason and i am taking care of my responsibilities and eventually you will be ok with what is going on..and my dad was like looking at me like wtf is goin on..and i said are you ready? and he said well yea..and i said dad im pregnant (its a big deal cuz im in college, my father hates my ex now but bf at the time and im not staying with the babys father..he's a jerk) and all color drained from my fathers face and we just sat there in silence for a while eating chips and sipping our drinks..but once you tell them be very straight forward very adult like and after you tell them let it sink in...let them start the talking again...cuz honestly your parents can be upset or whatever at first but this is their grandchild you all are talking about...they are not going to disown you...then once they say something like well or hmm or something along those lines lol...then start telling them your plans..(how you are goin to support your baby and yourself and things along those lines) trust me honey if i can do it you can do it..good luck sweety im fifteen weeks how far along are you?

Answer 2

I would listen to HCC they gave a good answer I am thinking you are young and still at home that's why your trippin about telling ma. I really don't think there is a way to tell her without her freaking you are her baby and she wants you to have the best in life and having a child at a young age puts you at ahuge disadvantage. It will make everything alot harder but it can be done. Just tell her your sorry for disappointing her but you guys now have to deal with it together and you need her now more than ever. She will trip out but she'll come around. Good luck and congratulations on having a baby. They are the greatest gift. Love and cherish your baby.

Answer 3

Just tell her you need to talk to her about something really important and then calmly tell her you are expecting. If you are a teen expect her to be upset. She may cry and she may get angry and say things she will later regret. You just keep your cool and take it in. She has a right to be angry and hurt.... you are her baby and she is seeing all the hopes she had for your future flushed away (or so she feels at the moment) . Everything will be okay... remember as scared as you are you have had time to think it all through and this will be slapping her right in the face and she will need time to process it.

Answer 4

I take it you're young and still live at home? That may be why you're scared to tell her?

You just have to tell her - straight out.
She may flip out and cry a lot.. but she will always love you. Don't worry - she won't hate you, but this will be a shocker so don't be surprised if she does flip out.

Tell her you need to have a mother/daughter talk.
Start off with maybe: "I know this may disappoint you or make you angry, but you're going to be a grandmother. I've thought this through and I am over the shock myself and I really need you right now. I need your love and support and so doesn't this baby. I plan on keeping the baby and this baby needs you as much as I do."

and take it from there.

good luck and congrats!

Answer 5

If you & your Mom believe in God, ask her first of all to say a prayer with you, asking for God's care and protection for both of you, out loud. (This will show her that what you are about to say is very important and put her on notice that it may be something that will be difficult for her to hear.)

I would then say: "Mom, I have something very important to tell you - that is very hard for me to share. And I really need your support. (by this time she'll probably guess).

"Mom you've always been such a good Mom, and so supportive of me. So, please be calm & I hope we can talk this out thoroughly. Mom, I just found out that I am ____________months pregnant."

Be prepared that your Mom will want to know who the father is - and when this happened. She may be shocked, hurt, and probably feel guilty - feeling that she didn't protect you or give you the tools to protect yourself. You may need to reassure her that she is a good Mom.

Talk it over with her carefully and together decide what course all of you will take. What part the Dad will take, what responsibility you need to undertake, the financial arrangements that will have to be arranged for & all the many other items that will need to be addressed.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Is there an adult friend or family member that you trust? If so ask this adult to be with you when you tell your Mom. Other sources could be your family doctor. Remember there are many options with teen pregnancy, I myself was a teen Mom and hid it for 7 months. My parents were very accepting, not happy at first, but still happy that I was mature enough to tell them. My Dad had even asked and I caused more stress to myself by saying no. I had the perfect opportunity to tell him early on and chose not to. That was 30 years ago and I do not recommend hiding it to anyone, it is a very stressful thing to do and your baby's health are yours is very important. Good Luck!
Joanie

Answer 7

Your mom may turn out to be more calm about it than you think. Her first concern will be for you. Make a time (soon) when you two can sit at the kitchen table and have a chat. Just start by saying that you need to tell her something, but you are scared. Remember, she loves you.

Answer 8

First i must say you sound as if u might be a teen. So i feel sad for you...You need to sit down with her like an adult and talk with her heart to heart. You may want to make sure that she does not have to be anywhere so that she can give you her undivided attention. It may be a shock to her at first, but it is better to be honest and tell her how you feel. All you can do from that point on is what is best for you and your baby.

Answer 9

It sounds like you must be pretty young. I tell you what, I was pregnant when I was 20, I was too scared to tell my parents and guess what? Someone else did! That is one big regret of mine, I wish I had had the nerve to tell them myself. So you need to just sit her down and say mom, I love you and I hope you won't hate me or be too disappointed in me. And just tell her your news. Believe me, she will be upset at first and as time goes on it will get easier on both of you. Just tell her before she finds out some way else!

Answer 10

Before you tell her, make sure you know what you want so she can not make you change your mind about anything on the matter........just go for it ......Pick the right time say a little prayer and just tell her...she may not even freak out who knows until you tell her...and congratulations on your new little baby ...Remember this little baby is a wonderful gift no matter how it all came about.......