I did not want it to end..I loved him and still do. He walked out on me and our 2 children. I feel abandoned and unneeded. It feels like my world has been turned upside down. My children are nervous...Please someone help me to move on as Ican't bear this pain..This burden any longer...
2006-09-22 16:23:02 · 11 answers · asked by *bossy* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This man obviously is not the one for you.No matter how much you love someone they will not come back if they don't care for you.What you should do is focus on getting a different man to help you forget about the jerk.There are plenty of guys out there that don't mind you have two children so don't let that worry you.I have two kids and never had a single problem getting a man.You need to start dressing sexy and fixing up every day even though you don't feel like it.The first thing to do is realize you are to good for him anyway.
2006-09-22 16:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ones we love the most are capable of hurting us the most. I would suggest counseling for your children and yourself. Talk honestly and openly with your children to reassure them that although daddy no longer lives here, you will always be there for them and that you and daddy still love them. You are very much needed by your children, and they need to you to be strong too that is why I highly suggest a support group, counseling, friends to help you get through this. And yes, you will get through this and be stronger and wiser for it. Your world has been turned upside down, but it is now your responsibility to create a new world. Responsibility that is also a gift, you can now create a world that is focused on you and your kids. It may be that you find greater happiness than you thought possible. Good luck to you and the kids.
2006-09-22 16:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by MimGregg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon I know your pain. It is a pain that cuts so deeply into your soul. It hurts so bad to breath. And you have 2 babes to take care of. Tell ya what you need to do.
Look at those two sweet cherib faced children. They only have you to depend on now. You need to let them feel secure by picking up your face from the floor, don't cry in front of them, put that fake "mask" on that has the smile, do not discuss this with them - it's adult situation that they need not to worry about. You just let them know that you'll take care of everything! You MUST make them feel safe. Let them know you'll ALWAYS be there for them. Growing up they will test you also about this. Don't give up.
Have your day of mourning, because it is like a death, then you need to start putting one foot in front of the other and continue to keep moving forward. You must for those kids!! The pain will become less and less as those days go by. It's so hard, but it can be done. And when you're putting those feet to go forward, you might want to let them take you to an attorney to divorce the jerk and start getting you child support NOW!! Seriously! If he can be that big of a turd to leave you and his children, then he isn't worth the spit out of your mouth!
2006-09-22 16:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by yokrem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than likely he is wanting to run around,and feels guilty doing it with you at home...so just wants to sow some wild oats....Do not..I repeat DO NOT put up with it. He knows you will be home crying,waiting,and probably will forgive him if he did come back to you after having his cake,and eating it too....
You stay Strong,and especially for the kids. Men are Pigs,and I know it is hard to deal with trust me,I have gone thru this. You need to start to focus on you. Get a gym membership if you can,and start working out,tanning...taking care of yourself. It will make you healthier,feel more confident,and take your mind off of things. That will also give him the idea you don't care if he is gone..that you will move on. Trust me,it works. Not only will you look even more awesome and feel better,he will really regret his actions.
2006-09-22 16:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is tough but for the kids sake you need to settle down and show them the kind of love they need from you. Right now they are feeding off of your reactions toward this. They deserve to feel safe. Look at the kids when you feel you can't take another minute of the pain and see what wonderful children they are and how much they need you. Men and women will come and go in your life but the kids will always be there for you.
2006-09-22 16:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Rickstar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THats a hard one..
My fiancee walked out on me in a matter of three hours, my world was turned upside down, as was my daughters.
I could eat, sleep over think about anything else. He looked me in the eye and told me he'd fallen out of love..
He then moved away, and two weeks later called to say he's made a mistake, and he wanted us to wait for him to come back..
Funny thing was, after months of pining and being devastated, i didnt acually take him back..
It was a blessing in disguise, you and your kids deserve much better than to be deserted, i know it sound silly, but i promise it gets better.. seven months on im stronger then ever..
remember, Happiness is the best revenge...
2006-09-22 16:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a committment between two people and God. honey you need to pray as you say you love him and only you know how he feels about you and you need to ask yourself why he walked out on his family examine yourself ask yourself if you did anything wrong when things like that happen we normally blame the party that take action sometimes we must examine ourselve.
but i am so sorry to hear that and i can empathize with you and i would i am telling you put your trust in god prayer moves mountain and faith move God.you can get the power of a praying wife and husband. these books help. or go in www.growthtrac.com
2006-09-22 16:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by alanna p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your situation. My wife left me so I can appreciate how you feel. Someone once said that the best way to solve your problems is to help someone else solve her problem. So in that spirit, try to passionately focus on helping others, perhaps starting with your kids. By giving to others, you will build your self esteem and take the focus from yourself.
2006-09-22 17:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to move on for the children, do not talk bad about him in front of them!!! Stay strong, have faith.
2006-09-22 16:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by rere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need that jerk stuck it out it'll get better have faith in god things happen for a reason its probably for the best worry more about your children they're probably devastated remember your all they got now be strong for them and good luck
2006-09-22 16:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by neorriquenagurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋