I'm gay and no one know it, my sister told me if I'm gay she will hurt me! I am 13 year olds, I know it because I get turned on by boys and never ever had been turned on by girls! I am very scared to come out and I always cover my sercet by acting sraight which is I don't like it! What should I do? Please help me!
2006-09-22 16:16:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
first be compfortable with yourself. if you arent you cant ask the others to be so. then sometimes to come out is unnecesary just stop acting straight and gradually reveal your true personality people will notice and can have enough time to accept it.
be careful to know if there will be homophobic reactions like at your school, neighborhood or at your own house, if there will be then just dont come out with the pink dress, just stop pretending and keep it quiet a bit untill you are old enough.
you are free to look for your happiness so leave the others opinion behind and good luck.
2006-09-22 16:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Zero 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're sister's probably at that age where she cares what everyone else thinks. That's her problem, and someday she'll learn to grow out of it. Brothers and sisters sometimes fight a lot at your age. It's sort of a growing up thing.
Do you know how your parents feel? It might be a good idea to get a good objective idea on how they look at homosexuality and people that are different than them. You don't have to tell them about yourself to talk about different types of people to see how accepting they are. You're in a bit of a tough spot right now. If your parents are supportive, then it'd be good to start talking to them a little. If they hate everything gay, then you may be better off seeing if there is an LGBT center in your area. If so, you could try talking to someone there.
You can also always ask more questions here. Just ignore the idiots that say stupid stuff. They don't know what they are talking about - okay? Some of the LBGT links have chat rooms and email addresses for support, too.
2006-09-22 23:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Alex62 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a really scary proposition to come out at 13, but when it comes down to it you will do what's in your heart to do. My best advice is to think really hard about the stable, healthy adults in your life, parents, aunts, uncles, neighbor, school counselors....is there anyone that you can talk to that you know would be supportive, just having one person that you can tell that will get you and support you may be the thing you need at this time...just make sure you believe you can trust them and that by what you know of them, maybe they have a gay friend or family member or treat other gay people you know with respect....Also, depending on where you live there are gay youth groups, the one near my hometown just had a big prom of their own a couple months ago. Check out www.pflag.com for info too.
2006-09-23 10:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by ******** 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, Young Man. I would urge you to think about what Jason S and Stacia have written here. But don't wait TOO long, which was my mistake (I slipped out at age 33 but did not really come out until age 35). If you think your coming out could cause you serious hardship at home (I mean your parents, not your over-sensitive sister), then you had better wait until you have the means and the legal rights you need to get away from there. On the other hand, if you feel that passing for straight is going to injure your mental health, then take action, starting with the ways Stacia mentions. This is a lot for someone as young as you are to handle, but you can do it. And you certainly are not alone!
2006-09-23 00:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by fall2005buseng 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough time to come out. I would just drop the straight act. If someone asks, tell them the truth. You don't need to be vocal about it. Just correct people if they make a false assumption. If you make a spectacle of yourself, no one will take you seriously.
Your sister is probably just worried about you. Maybe you could talk to her about the situation.
Otherwise, it may work for you to just ride out the next few years and worry about "coming out" once you are out of high school. It's sad, but you could get a lot of harassment. It just depends on how you are able to deal with it.
2006-09-22 23:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well i came out when i was 15 and often regret it. i think if you are able to wait untill at least your later ys in hschool or college you will be better off for it. dont get involved in the bar acene. find a nice guy with a good future and personality and dont let looks be the #1 priority. and dont become a queen!!~!!
2006-09-22 23:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by jason s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know no one knows it. I bet people know or suspect but they haven't said anything. Your sister is a total b.i.t.c.h. if she actually said she'd hurt you if you're gay. There has to be someone that you can talk to. Anyone at school maybe? I wish you good luck.
2006-09-22 23:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by vik 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No your not nobody is actually gay its just something that there confused about so the devil convinces people that they are you need to ask Jesus to forgive for all of your sins and come into your life and start going to a good church
2006-09-23 00:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i remember when i came out to my family, i was 13 yrs old and they didnt believe me. now im 24 yrs old out and proud. my family accepts me. but most families arent really open about it. when the time is right, you will know, and your family will love you.
2006-09-23 01:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start by telling a friend you trust.
2006-09-23 16:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by The Greek Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋