2006-09-22 16:11:11 · 12 answers · asked by Bruce C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hard, and they expect you to choose sides, and you don't. You support them both and be a good listener.
I am going through the same thing right now, my parents were married for 36 yrs.
They are driving me absolutely crazy, but I listen...got drunk with my dad and my mom is now coming to my house for coffee on a daily basis.
My dad calls me every 10 minutes looking for my mom and she calls looking for him............
AHHHHHHHH...............I've heard things an only child shouldn't know about their parents, but.............in one ear and out the other!!!! And I keep my comments to myself. Now it's time to just be their friend.
Good Luck!
2006-09-22 16:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, think about Christmas and all the gifts you will get. In the end you can end up with step families and have 4 families. I know this is not the best way to think about it, but really it is true. Only time will help you cope with the stress, the other thing that you can do is take up more time consuming hobbies and keep yourself busy. My parents have been apart since I was 10 and I am 22 now and it is okay for me.
2006-09-22 16:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know that because they can not work out their problems they both still love you...and always will....It is nothing you did or didn't do so don't go blaming yourself...and please quit letting yourself be caught in the crutch of "coping with the stress" there is way too much of that going on in the world today. that is only an excuse to feel bad about something...bring yourself above that and face it head on...it hurts for a while but then you find that you are a better person in the long run. You didn't give your age or gender so i am being generic in my answer...good luck
2006-09-22 16:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some other people you know whose parents are separated or divorced. It helps to have people to talk to. I would also ask your parents to not say anything nasty about the other in your presence. That's something you never want to hear. From my own experience with my parents separating when i was 12 (i'm now 28), I now realize that we are all better off. My parents were not happy. After my mom left, it was kind of a relief. I had more energy to spend on schoolwork and friends and I became much more independent. It's hard to see the positive now, but try.
2006-09-22 17:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by magerk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First recognize that their separation is not your fault. Most marriages end and your Parents are humans beings who are subject to the issues that have plagued men and women in relationships since Adam and Eve. Next, start an exercise program to strengthen your body to make it more resistant to stress. If you aren't spiritual, read spiritual literature. Love both of them and avoid taking sides and if they try to draw you into the situation, politely explain that you love them both and don't want to take sides. Speak with other people who had Parents who split up so that you will recognize that it is not the end but a new beginning of a different relationship between you and your Parents. Good luck!
2006-09-22 16:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think positive about the situation. It's probably easier said than done, but really it's not that bad. My parents have been divorced for most of my life. I had to do the shared custody thing and go back and forth to each of their houses. It wasn't so bad. I thought that it was better to still see both of my parents sometimes rather than not seeing one of them at all. And if you want get a little greedy about it, just think, you get not one, but two Christmas'. I don't know about you, but I like Christmas, so that was always a plus for me. Don't worry though. You'll get used to it eventually. Soon it will be normal to you.
2006-09-22 16:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by sexy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do don't let them bring you into the centre of it. Tell them it's between the 2 of you and not me (meaning you). Just say that you don't want to be part of a piece of property to fight over, and that you will choose which parent that you will live with.
2006-09-22 16:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should let ur parents know how u feel because if u do not someday they might meet other people andget maried to those people my parents seperated when i was 10 years old know my dad wont even talk to me because he has a new wife and alittle girl so u should let them know how u feel
2006-09-22 16:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't stress over it. Things happen for a reason you can still spend quality time with each of them. If it will make them happier than that's what count.
2006-09-22 16:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by uglyboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard but what i did was do join a sports team that you have to be commited 24/7
2006-09-22 16:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by Ally A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋