I have recently become friends with a man who is married but his relationship with his wife is non-existent. They just happen to be married and live in the same house. He has really been lonely for the last few years. I want to be a friend to him but don't want it to become anything that it shouldn't be. I look foward to his calls and miss him when I can't see him. How can I keep it a friendship because I know that it can't be anymore than that?
2006-09-22 16:06:23 · 11 answers · asked by countrygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He may only be looking for a friend to begin with. I had a friend of the opposite sex until recently and I am married. I like this girl because she is funny, smart, and is a fantastic lady to talk to. I didn't want anymore than friendship with her, but, I think she got the wrong idea and cut communications. I felt a connection with her kind of like a brother and sister relationship, however, I am much older than she is. I am guessing that she thinks I wanted more than friendship even though I didn't. She was just a very nice young lady to talk to and now she has stop talking to me. I miss getting to talk/see and hang out with her. I was e-mailing her several times a week until she stopped returning them, now I don't send her e-mail because she never answers them. If you have friendships, don't tell them you miss them or they get the wrong idea and slip away. Good luck, hope this helped !
2006-09-22 18:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by turbietech 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MMMMMMMMMMM, sounds suspicious to me about the wife.
Trust me. he sees you as a lover in waiting. He's working you. He's setting you up.
Believe me, just like in the movie "When Harry met Sally", men CANNOT be "just friends" with women.
If he doesn't think you want to go there, eventually, he will quit bothering with you. Then he will resent any other guy that you're with. This is how problems begin.
Define your terms.
Are you willing to be with him? After divorce? Before?
Are you willing to be with him at all?
No? No? No?
He should be calling his bowling buddies to talk, not a woman.
Don't mean to scare you, but these thing never turn out well.
Even if nothing bad happens, it still never comes up good. Knowhudimean?
2006-09-22 23:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by shaker454 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You made that obvious in your statement. You have already fallen for him. The best thing you can do is to stay out of his life unless his divorce is final. If you continue the friendship with him at this point in his life he will never be able to give you what you are seeking. You will not be happy with the results.
2006-09-22 23:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it already is more than a friendship. Be careful, you could end up ending his marriage. Read what you wrote, you're already justifying a relationship as more than friends. It is possible for a man and woman to be just friends as long as one or both of them are gay or happily married or the man is a unich. If you're having sex you're not just friends.
2006-09-22 23:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by mommy333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll be really tough. I'm sure you don't want to hear it, but being very close to you is not helping his marriage. If you want to be his friend and not worry about him wanting more, then him being happy with his wife is VERY important. Encourage him to do something about his marriage - make it better or get a divorce.
2006-09-22 23:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by stevejensen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be clear from the start that your relationship is not going further than friendship.
oh and get yourself a boyfriend cos girl u r falling for this guy (missing him, looking forward to his calls...)
2006-09-22 23:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings+His loneliness= An affair
My advice...RUN! I know you care about this man, but you've got to leave this situation pronto! Think about yourself here, what will the end result be? You already have feelings for him ....Go now, while you still can....
2006-09-22 23:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by Linny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very carefully and don't let it get physical at all. It sounds to me like your half in love with him, be careful.
2006-09-22 23:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by Tom H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him and keep that in your head. it takes two to have a relationship :P so if one or the other keeps youe head straight then you will stay friends :P
2006-09-22 23:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by daggermouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to get burn, stay away from the fire.
2006-09-22 23:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by speedy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋