I have a 3 yr old and boyfriend acts that age 2.Mother in law is a witch and won't stay out of our business.Don't get me wrong I love him but he abuses me verbily and emotionally sometimes,I feel like I'm always taking orders from him and I feel like I'm in prison.It's hard to break free and money is tight but more than anything I'm scared of being lonely cause I'm so used to having someone to come home to and share my thoughts with,I know it would be hard but even harder for our son,I'm desperate and want to move I've asked him to move with me just to get away from his mom but he won't should I just go?
2006-09-22 16:05:42 · 17 answers · asked by ///\oo/\\\ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can either be miserable for the rest of your life....which is a long time or find the courage to move on. A little risk and pain now in the short term will be well worth it in the long run.
Just my thoughts....
2006-09-22 21:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it will be hard to come home and have no one there, it is much worse to come home to a place that you are uncomfortable or feels like a prison. I would say get away from there as soon as you can. It is not worth raising a child in that envioment, plus you deserve more. Anyone that abuses woman surely has some problems to begin with. Loving him is good but done mistake love for habit and something you are used to. Not all men are like that, find someone better.
2006-09-22 23:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if it ain't right, then it's just not right! I understand that it can be very hard to leave someone that you love. However, in the long run, you have to think about what is best for you and your child. Abuse of any sort, whether it be physical, emotional, or verbal, is not good. It is very unhealthy for you and your son. Furthermore, when you have a child involved, you have to think about the long term affect this might have on him. You simply cannot stay in a relationship for selfish reasons that may seriously harm you and your child. Six years is quite awhile, but it is nothing compared to a life time of unhappiness. You deserve better, and so does your son.
2006-09-22 23:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by giggles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember that my wife told me that I was still a kid and i was 23 years old and but I left her and now I knew I did was wrong and it took me 5 years to have her back in my life and she did she gave me second chance and I am glad she did. We been married will be in Oct 31st. 9 years. 2 kids age 3 and 2 and 3rd on the way due in march.
I know that fact is that I learn and she was the for me. so I have to show her I am different. Only thing you will find out if he still be a momma boy or really wake up and say no i want my girlfriend and my kid back. I will end with my mother and work it out.
So I did that I made that choice to not have my mother in my life and it been great and I have done so much better since... my wife said that wow you are better when your mother not around and she being honest.. and she had been supported me when I have plm with my mom every day... so end it and peace for me.
He need to grow up and you need to learn now to live on your own and you can get welfare where they can help you with food and kids with benefit insurance and all that and help you with part of rent and day care and oh gosh way better than your boyfriend would do...
find out more and learn more about welfare it sure worth my tax money on welfare to help you and kids and others too. so Recommend about this and let me know if better and working. smile. Good luck to you.
2006-09-22 23:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your spouse should be on the same page about most everything, if you feel threatened or belittled in any way because of abuse of any kind-get help! If you have talked to him and opened your whole heart out for him to reject or trample on then it is time to flee the situation and separate until he makes changes or he doesn't. Then and only then you will know if it will work or not and he truly wants whats best for you and that he loves you. Real men do not treat there wives with disrespect! You must choose to not compromise you and your son's happiness anymore. email me if you want to chat more or just vent to someone who understands from experience what you might be going through.
2006-09-22 23:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by LNZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what it is better to be alone than living the way you are living and yes you are in a prison a prison in your mind.You have got to leave for your own sanity. Okay. Do it and do it now leave him and he is a jerk and a mama s boy.Make your own money and get a job and live a normal life and find a real man someone who will respect you and love you like you should be loved. I know about this I speak from expieirence.
2006-09-23 09:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so afraid of being alone you arent trapped you can get out and you wont be alone you have your child you are living in the meantime you are in a comfort zone but you are in it with a man who doesnt deserve you and if he cannot keep his mother out of your business then hes right where he needs to be WITH HIS mama,you deserve so much better than this and you will find so much better but first you have to break free do you have friends to support you meaning when you need to talk will they be there for you you shouldnt stress about being alone right now but you should do whats best for you and your child you dont need a grown up child thats for dang sure.
2006-09-22 23:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you have tried all other options, and still no progress...then its time to give him the ultimatum. Then you can leave without feeling guilty and as though you could have done something.
As far as being lonely...It's true you probably will be lonely, but I have been in a semi-similar situation (I don't have children, and it was 3 years), and you will learn a lot about yourself and your potential without what seems to be a dead weight holding you back.
2006-09-22 23:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by neon49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you`re seriously unhappy, then u should try separating with him. Or take a short vacation. See how you do without him, then make your decision. And if you need someone to be there, get a dog. Like they say, a dog`s mans` best friend. But in this case, woman. But you know what I mean. And your son will always be there for you. As I say in all my advice, follow your heart. 8D
2006-09-22 23:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by chyeah... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you whether to leave him or not - only you can make that choice. Just think of this tho, you may be alone but if you have friends and family, you won't be lonely. Trust me, if your that miserable, it can only get worse and if his mother is that bad, get away from her!! I'm sure that if you do leave, you may find a "real" man. Good luck honey, you can do it!
2006-09-22 23:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋